If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, stop doing these 11 things

Imagine this: you’re dating a guy who’s great.

He’s fun, he’s nice, but he says he doesn’t want a relationship.

Tough to hear, right?

But don’t worry – this isn’t a disaster. Instead of trying to make him change his mind, there are 11 things you should stop doing now.

So, get comfy and let’s get started.

This is for all the girls who should never settle for less than they deserve.

1. Stop making excuses for him

The first thing you need to stop doing is making excuses for his actions or his words. If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, believe him. He’s telling you the truth about where he stands.

It doesn’t mean he’s a bad guy, it just means he’s not ready or willing to commit in the way you might want him to. Stop trying to justify why he might be saying this – “he’s just scared,” “he’s been hurt before,” etc.

These may be true, but they don’t change what he is telling you now. It’s important to accept the reality and adjust your expectations accordingly.

2. Stop putting your life on hold

Remember, you have a life too.

Don’t stop living it because you’re waiting for him to change his mind.

Keep going out with your friends, keep pursuing your hobbies and interests.

Don’t cancel plans hoping he’ll want to hang out. You deserve to be someone’s priority, not an option they might consider when they have nothing else to do.

3. Stop ignoring other potential partners

I remember a time when I was so focused on one person who didn’t want a relationship that I missed out on other potential relationships. There was this guy, Jake, always ready to listen, always making me laugh. But I was so hung up on someone else that I barely noticed him.

Don’t make the same mistake I did. If your guy is clearly stating he doesn’t want a relationship, don’t close yourself off to others who might be ready and willing to offer you what you’re looking for.

You never know, your ‘Jake’ might just be around the corner.

4. Stop over-analyzing his actions

Did you know that overthinking can create problems that might not even exist?

Yes, it’s true.

If he says he doesn’t want a relationship, don’t spend hours dissecting every text message or gesture trying to find hidden meanings. This can lead to unnecessary stress and confusion. Take his words at face value and try not to over-complicate the situation.

After all, clear communication is key in any form of relationship.

5. Stop sacrificing your self-worth

You are valuable, and you are enough, just as you are.

It’s heartbreaking to see someone you care about not wanting the same level of commitment as you do, but please remember this – it doesn’t diminish your worth.

You deserve someone who sees and appreciates you for who you are, and who is excited to be in a relationship with you.

It’s better to be single and preserve your self-respect than to be in a one-sided relationship where your needs aren’t being met. So hold your head high, and never settle for less than you deserve.

6. Stop trying to change him

I’ll share something from my own experience here. I once spent so much time and energy trying to convince someone to want a relationship, thinking that if I just showed them how great we could be together, they’d change their mind. But, in reality, I was ignoring a fundamental truth – you can’t change people. They have to want to change themselves.

So if he says he doesn’t want a relationship, take it as it is. Don’t exhaust yourself trying to change his perspective because, at the end of the day, it’s his decision to make.

7. Stop blaming yourself

Listen, it’s time for some raw honesty here. If he doesn’t want a relationship, it’s not your fault. You didn’t do anything wrong. It doesn’t mean you’re not lovable or desirable. It just means he’s not the right person for you.

And that’s okay.

Everyone has their own journey, their own timing, and their own reasons. You can be the juiciest, most delicious peach in the world, and there’s still going to be someone who doesn’t like peaches.

8. Stop ignoring the red flags

Ignoring red flags in a relationship is a common mistake many people make.

If he’s explicitly saying he doesn’t want a relationship, that’s a big red flag right there!

But there may be others – like if he’s not willing to spend time with you, or if he’s always vague about his plans. These signs indicate that he’s not ready or willing to invest in a relationship with you.

Instead of overlooking these warning signs, acknowledge them and decide what’s best for your emotional health and happiness.

9. Stop avoiding difficult conversations

I know how tough it is to have those hard conversations. I’ve been there, biting my tongue, avoiding the topics I knew would lead to confrontation or discomfort.

But trust me, it’s important to express your feelings and concerns. If he says he doesn’t want a relationship and you’re not okay with that, talk about it.

Express your feelings honestly and openly. It might be tough in the moment, but in the long run, it allows both of you to understand where each other stands, and it can save you from a lot of pain and confusion.

10. Stop hoping he’ll change his mind

Let’s be honest.

If he’s said he doesn’t want a relationship, hoping that he’ll change his mind is like waiting for a train at an airport – it’s just not going to happen.

It’s harsh, I know, but it’s better to face the truth now than to keep living in a fantasy.

So save your energy and your heart for someone who truly wants to be with you.

11. Stop losing yourself

Lastly, and most importantly, never lose yourself while trying to hold on to someone who doesn’t want to stay.

You’re so much more than your relationship status. You’re an individual with your own dreams, passions, and life.

Don’t let anyone else’s inability to see your worth change the way you see yourself.

Stay true to you, because you’re pretty amazing just the way you are.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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