If a woman uses these 10 phrases in a conversation, she has a very strong personality

Having a strong personality often gets a bad rap—especially when you’re a woman. 

But without it, it’s just impossible to thrive!

Sure being meek and nice can get a woman a lot of likes, but nowhere in life because she’ll not only be taken advantage of, she’ll also abandon her own needs. 

Want to know if a woman you know has a very strong personality?

Pay attention if she uses these 10 phrases regularly.

1) “Yes, I’m sure.”

Many women find it difficult to be assertive. That’s probably because we equate assertiveness with being difficult.

Even if deep down they’re sure about something, they’d still go “Uhmmm…yeah, sure. Why not?” or “Well, uh…I think so?”

Growing up, they’ve probably been told to “tone it down.” 

So they temper their skills and expertise with question marks, and even their most brilliant proposals are just “suggestions.” 

They’ll cloak it as “Perhaps we can do this…, Maybe we can try that,” and then allow someone else to walk all over them and take the credit for their ideas.

A woman who has a very strong personality isn’t like this—like, at all.

When she’s sure of something, her language would reflect it.

She’ll say, “I’m certain, I believe, I’m totally sure!” She’s not even scared to say “Hell yes!”

2) “No.”

People-pleasers find it extremely difficult to set boundaries.

They’d just smile and act nice because they’re afraid to make a scene by being “too fussy”.

A strong woman, on the other hand, is an expert at setting boundaries (respectfully, of course).

For her, “No.” is a full sentence—no explanations needed. 

She will decline and set limits…and if others “forget” her boundaries, she’d tell them off or move forward.

You’re late to an appointment for the third time even though she has expressed this concern with you? 

Well, she’ll leave after 15 minutes to enforce a boundary.

And no, don’t even try manipulating her with guilt because it won’t work. 

A woman with a very strong personality believes that you teach people how to treat you—and so that’s exactly what she keeps doing.

3) “I disagree!”

She won’t just nod her head and say “you’re right” if deep down she disagrees with what you’re saying.

She’d express herself…because why the hell not? To her, it’s not like she’s committing a crime!

But she doesn’t just disagree to be different. She will tell you exactly why.

And what’s awesome about  her is that she’s also welcoming of opposing opinions and negative feedback.

This is also why she’s very game when it comes to brainstorming, intellectual discussions, and debates.

Even if you have polar opposite personalities, as long as she sees you as a genuinely kind person, you’ll get along because she embraces differences.

That’s because she knows that their voice matters, and she respects yours, too.

4) “Of course, we can do it!”

A woman with a very strong personality is very optimistic and driven.

When she’s assigned a task—whether it’s a school project or the Thanksgiving meal—and someone asks “Do you think this is achievable?”, she’d say “Of course!”

She’d even be surprised that people ask these questions. To her, it’s just obvious.

If she commits to do something, that means she knows she’s capable of achieving it.

You know what’s her secret? 

She knows her capacity and has the enthusiasm to engage everyone else around her. 

Most of all, she doesn’t ever act like a superhero—she sees everyone’s gifts too and rallies everyone to work together. 

A woman with a very strong personality isn’t insecure so she always welcomes collaboration. 

She knows when to lead and when to ask for support (and doesn’t see it as a weakness).

With her, it’s often “we,” and very rarely “I.”

5) “I have an idea!”

Expressing ideas requires a lot of self-confidence.

After all, everyone’s got ideas…and what if you’ll just be wasting people’s time? Worse, what if your ideas suck? 

But a woman with a very strong personality doesn’t self-reject.

Besides, she’s perfectly aware that her ideas could be lame, but they’re nothing more than that—ideas. 

Ideas are meant to be explored and tested, not crushed the moment they show up.

In a collaborative environment, bouncing ideas off of each other is how creativity and innovation grows, and a strong woman understands this process.

To her, a bad idea leads to a good idea, and a good idea leads to an even better idea. 

Besides, it doesn’t affect her so much if people don’t like her ideas. She knows she’s more than that!

6) “I have to be honest with you…”

If you use these phrases every day you have high emotional intelligence If a woman uses these 10 phrases in a conversation, she has a very strong personality

It takes guts to be honest to people, especially around people with more power and authority like a boss.

And a woman with a very strong personality has guts—lots of it!

Of course, she makes sure that she’s respectful by choosing the right words and the right time to talk about serious matters.

She won’t go “I have to be honest with you, your project is boring.”

A woman with a very strong personality is a combination of integrity and empathy. 

So she’d do it privately and say “I have to be honest with you, I love your project but you need to spice it up a bit so it will be more catchy.”

7) “That’s totally against my principles.”

If someone’s trying to convince her to join an MLM business venture, and she’s totally against this, she’d decline and not hesitate to say why.

“No offense, but I believe this business model is unethical.”

She sees no reason why she should filter herself when it’s her truth… even when the stakes are high or when she’s pressured by superiors. 

This is because she knows that at the end of the day, she has to live with her own conscience.

Even if there are benefits to abandoning her principles, she chooses to sleep well at night.

8) “I need support with _____?”

Some people think that strength means doing things alone.

But real strength is the ability to be self-aware of one’s weaknesses and reaching out to others for support.

This is why a woman with a very strong personality not only requests her need for support, but clarifies it specifically.

For instance, when she’s working on a very challenging project, she’ll call a trusted colleague and say, “I need support with the design aspect of this.” 

Or she’ll ask support from a different team and say, “I need fresh eyes to look at this since our team have been working on this for a month, we might have missed something important.” 

Basically, instead of proving others wrong how “strong” she is for not needing help, a woman with a very strong personality would call in specifically the kind of support she needs with confidence.

9) “Thank you.”

A woman with a very strong personality would not deflect compliments.

If someone praises them for a job well done or for a nice get up, she’d go “Why thank you!” and flash a warm smile.

She won’t overthink and tell herself “Bah, they’re just being fake nice!”


Because she’s self-assured!

She knows she has some weaknesses, for sure, but boy does she have a lot of strengths, too!

10) “You may not want to hear this, but…”

Difficult conversations? A woman with a very strong personality handles it well.

If she feels like something has to be discussed, she won’t keep delaying it because not only will that cause distress, it’s also a hindrance for growth.

So if she’s losing feelings for her lover, she’d have a serious conversation with them about it.

She’d say “I know you don’t want to hear this but I’m starting to lose my feelings. Maybe there’s something we can do about it.”

By expressing her true feelings, she’s giving her partner a chance to make things better.

Some people would consider this being “high-maintenance” and “difficult”, but really—a woman who does this is actually just doing the right thing.

Final thoughts

Standing in authenticity and integrity as a woman in a world where there is so much pressure to conform takes a lot of strength.

So celebrate the strong women in your life!

And if you realize that you want to be more like them, well…that’s easy.

You can start by using the phrases above.

While it may not seem like a few short phrases can make your personality stronger, don’t shoot it down before you try it. 

With a few simple shifts in your language, your mind and your life can change drastically. You’ll see.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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