If a woman uses these 10 phrases in a conversation, she doesn’t have much respect for you

Have you ever wondered how words can shape our relationships? Sometimes, when we chat with someone, certain sentences might leave us feeling uneasy. 

If you’ve been in conversations with a woman where some phrases make you feel a little uncomfortable, it could be a sign that she doesn’t respect you as much as you’d hope.

Now, don’t get me wrong. This isn’t about saying all women are the same or anything like that. It’s simply about helping you understand the signs that could suggest a lack of respect. 

Today, I’ll share 10 phrases that a woman says that might mean she doesn’t hold you in high regard. Hopefully, you won’t ever get to encounter them. 

Let’s dive in! 

1) “Whatever”

“Whatever” is a word we often throw around when we’re no longer interested in a conversation or when we’re dismissing someone’s opinion. 

If a woman uses this word frequently in conversations with you, it may be a sign that she doesn’t value your opinions or thoughts. It’s a subtle way of saying, “I don’t care about what you’re saying.” 

Of course, everyone can have an off day and might use this phrase casually. But if it’s a recurring theme in your chats, it might be time to address the issue.

2) “You wouldn’t understand”

If a woman has ever told you this phrase, I’m willing to bet you felt dismissed. 

Because the subtle message it sends is that she thinks you are incapable of grasping certain concepts or emotions.

This could be indicative of a lack of respect for your intelligence or empathy. 

3) “I knew you wouldn’t get it”

Just like the phrase above, this one can get your back up because it implies you’re not quite smart enough. 

The issue with “I knew you wouldn’t get it” is more about the attitude behind it than the words themselves. It feels like she’s looking down on you, suggesting she’s on a different level. 

Plus, this phrase can make conversations feel one-sided and frustrating. Instead of opening up a chance to explain or discuss more, it ends the conversation, making you feel left out. 

In my experience, the best relationships are those where everyone feels free to share and learn from each other, without worrying about being judged or dismissed. 

4) “It’s not that important”

Picture this – you’re in the middle of a conversation, eager to share a story or an idea, and she suddenly says, “It’s not that important.” 

This phrase can be a real mood-killer. It happened to me once when I was trying to explain my passion for vintage cars to a an ex-girlfriend. She cut me off mid-sentence with a dismissive, “It’s not that important.” 

It felt like she wasn’t respecting my interests or what I had to say. If you’ve been in a similar situation, it might be that she doesn’t value your thoughts or feelings as much as she should.

5) “I don’t have time for this”

We all have moments of stress and overwhelming schedules, and instances when yes, we truly don’t have time for certain things. 

However, when this phrase becomes a recurring theme, it’s a clear indication that respect may be lacking.

 I’ve been there, feeling a bit taken aback and wondering where I stand. I felt like my thoughts or feelings aren’t important enough to make time for, and it made me question my value in the relationship.

Because here’s the truth: when someone says they don’t have time for you or what you’re saying, it’s not just about being busy. It’s about what they prioritize. 

6) “You’re just being sensitive”

Hearing the phrase “You’re just being sensitive” can really sting, especially when you’re trying to express your feelings or concerns. It can feel like a dismissal of your feelings, as if they’re not valid or important. 

Everyone has the right to feel and express their emotions without being belittled. If a woman is frequently brushing off your feelings with this phrase, it could mean she’s not respecting your emotional needs or your right to express them. 

Remember, it’s okay to be sensitive – it’s what makes us human.

7) “You always overreact”

In the same way, this phrase can also come across as dismissive of how you feel. 

Once, I was sharing my concerns about a situation at work with a friend. Instead of listening or offering support, she responded with, “You always overreact.” 

This phrase can be hurtful and dismissive, making it seem like your reactions are always excessive or unwarranted. 

If a woman uses this phrase frequently during your conversations, it could indicate that she doesn’t respect your feelings or perspective.

8) “You’re too much”

Here’s another phrase that can make you feel like you’re being over the top. 

I mean, yes, sometimes, life throws us a curveball and we get a bit intense or emotional. But hearing the phrase “You’re too much” can feel like a slap in the face. 

The subtext here goes something like this – “You’re too emotional, too needy, or simply too ‘you’ for me to handle.” 

Ouch. It hurts, doesn’t it? If you hear this phrase often from a woman, it could be a sign that she doesn’t respect you for who you are. 

And let’s be real here – you shouldn’t have to tone down your true self for anyone.

9) “It’s just a joke”

What about being told to “relax, it’s just a joke!”? 

Whenever I hear this, I almost always feel disrespected. It’s a line that gets thrown out when a supposed joke falls flat or crosses the line into hurtful territory. 

It’s that awkward moment when a woman says something meant to be funny, but instead it feels like a thinly veiled insult. 

The thing is, saying “it’s just a joke” often serves as a quick escape route for the person who said something offensive or insensitive. It places the burden on you to be a good sport, even when what was said was truly not okay. 

I’ve learned that humor that hurts isn’t really humor at all; it’s disrespect disguised as a joke.

It’s a red flag when someone repeatedly uses humor that belittles, embarrasses, or undermines you, then brushes off your feelings with a simple dismissal.

10) “You’re just like everyone else”

Or its cousin, “You’re not the person I thought you were.” 

Why does this hurt? Because it’s an expression of disappointment. It can make you feel like you’re being lumped together with people who may have hurt or disappointed her in the past. 

It’s as though she can’t see your unique qualities and instead, views you through a generalized lens. 

What’s more, it challenges your self-perception and makes you question your actions. 

If a woman says this to you, it could be a sign that she doesn’t respect or value your individuality.

Final thoughts

Remember, these phrases are not definitive proof of disrespect. They are simply indicators that there might be an issue worth addressing in your relationship with the woman who uses them frequently. 

Always communicate openly about how these phrases make you feel, because understanding each other is the first step towards mutual respect.

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Lucas Graham

Lucas Graham, based in Auckland, writes about the psychology behind everyday decisions and life choices. His perspective is grounded in the belief that understanding oneself is the key to better decision-making. Lucas’s articles are a mix of personal anecdotes and observations, offering readers relatable and down-to-earth advice.

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