If a woman feels strongly attracted to you, she’ll often display these 7 subtle behaviors

Cracking the code of attraction isn’t as mysterious as it seems. Sure, we’re not mind readers, but there are telltale signs that can indicate if a woman is strongly attracted to you.

These signs are often subtle, slipped into everyday interactions. They’re easy to miss if you’re not paying attention, but they hold precious insights into her feelings for you.

As someone who’s spent years studying human behavior and relationships, I’ve picked up on a few of these signs. And trust me, understanding them can make all the difference in your love life.

So buckle up, because I’m about to share 7 subtle behaviors that can signal if a woman is strongly attracted to you. And remember, this isn’t about manipulation or mind games. It’s about understanding and respecting the signals she’s sending your way.

1) Her body language speaks volumes

Body language is a silent language we all speak, and it’s especially telling when it comes to attraction.

When a woman is strongly attracted to you, she can’t help but show it in her body. For example, she’ll often unconsciously mirror your actions. This could be as simple as sipping her drink when you sip yours or adjusting her posture to match yours – but it shows a subconscious connection to you.

Another common sign is if she’s frequently touching her face or playing with her hair during the conversation. These are signs of nervous excitement and thinking about her appearance, wanting you to find her attractive.

But perhaps the most telling sign is eye contact. If she’s maintaining longer than usual eye contact with you, it often means she’s interested and attracted to you.

2) She’s comfortable with silence

It’s a common misconception that attraction is always about flirtatious banter and constant chatter. But the reality is, a woman who is strongly attracted to you feels comfortable enough to let the conversation breathe.

In these moments of silence, she’s not rushing to fill the gap because she’s at ease in your presence. The silence between you doesn’t worry her, because she’s simply enjoying being with you.

This can be counterintuitive, especially in a society that often equates silence with discomfort or awkwardness. But remember, true attraction goes beyond words. So next time there’s a pause in the conversation, don’t panic. It could be a sign that she’s really into you.

3) She’s interested in your interests

If a woman is strongly attracted to you, she’ll often show a genuine interest in your hobbies, interests, and passions. Even if they’re not her cup of tea, she’ll still want to understand what makes you tick.

Her questions might extend beyond the casual “What do you do for fun?” to more specific inquiries about why you love the things you enjoy. This is because she’s not just interested in you on a surface level but wants to understand the depths of who you are.

It’s something I’ve noticed time and time again in my years studying relationships. In fact, I’ve even touched on this topic in my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship. It highlights the importance of understanding each other’s interests as a way to build a healthier connection – but without letting go of our own to the extent that we lose our own sense of identity.

If that sounds like something you’d like to learn more about, I invite you to check out the book. But the key takeaway right now is this: pay attention to her questions, and also her responses. They signal a desire to become closer to you and dive a little deeper into your world.

4) She values your opinion

When a woman is strongly attracted to someone, she often seeks their opinions on various matters. This could be anything from her choice of outfit to more serious decisions she’s grappling with.

It’s not that she’s unsure of her own judgment, but she respects and values your perspective. She sees you as someone whose opinion matters to her and that’s a strong indication of her attraction towards you.

In my own life, I’ve found this to be a clear sign of attraction. When someone genuinely values my viewpoint, it shows they see me as a person of worth and respect.

We talk really often about how actions speak louder than words. And indeed, something like a woman seeking out and respecting your opinion can say much more than even a blunt conffession. 

5) She remembers the little things

One of the most subtle signs that a woman is strongly attracted to you is her knack for remembering the small details. Maybe you mentioned your favorite snack in passing, and she brought it for you next time you met. Or perhaps she recollects a story you told her weeks ago.

These details may seem insignificant, but to her, they’re important. They’re pieces of information that help her understand you better. And the fact that she’s storing and recalling these details is a clear sign that you’re someone special in her eyes – and she’s trying to be someone special in yours too.

I’ve seen this in my own experiences too. The people who have been most attracted to me were often those who remembered the little things I’d mentioned. It’s a beautiful way to show someone that they’re significant to you.

6) She initiates contact

In the game of attraction, who makes the first move can often be telling. If a woman is initiating contact, sending you a text first or calling you out of the blue, it’s often a sign of her strong attraction.

She’s thinking about you so much that she doesn’t want to wait for you to reach out. She’s taking the lead because she wants to talk to you, hear your voice, or simply know how your day is going.

I too have caught myself doing this – even when I wanted to wait for the guy to reach out to me first, I just couldn’t help myself because I was attracted to him so much. Sometimes I didn’t even realize how often I’d be the one reaching out first, because there were still many more times when I wanted to do it but held back. It’s an impulse driven by attraction and interest that’s hard to resist.

7) She shows vulnerability

Vulnerability isn’t a sign of weakness, but a testament of trust and attraction. If a woman feels strongly attracted to you, she’ll be more likely to open up, sharing her hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities with you.

This isn’t easy. It takes a lot of courage to let someone see you at your most raw and honest. But when she’s willing to peel back her layers and let you in, it’s often because she wants to let you get closer to her.

More than that, being vulnerable means she trusts you enough to share her true self with you. She believes that you will treat her revelations with care, and hoping that they will help a stronger connection form between you two.

So no matter what your feelings towards her might be, make sure you reflect this behavior with the respect that it is due. Because once trust is lost, it can be nearly impossible to get back.

Understanding attraction: a deeper insight

Navigating the complex world of human attraction can often feel like deciphering an intricate puzzle. But understanding these subtle behaviors that a woman displays when she’s strongly attracted to you, can offer invaluable insights – and perhaps even spark the start of a beautiful new relationship.

Remember, these signs are not definitive rules but guidelines. They can help you understand her feelings better, but the ultimate truth always lies in open and honest communication.

In line with this discussion, I’d recommend watching this insightful video by Justin Brown where he eloquently explains the problem with using the law of attraction to try to find the perfect partner. His key point is that we need to give up on this idea of the perfect partner, we need to recognize that relationships are about commitment, embracing challenges, growing together.

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It’s an insightful watch that resonates deeply with what we’ve been discussing here.

In the end, understanding attraction is a fascinating journey, one that’s as much about understanding yourself as it is about understanding the other person. So delve deep, keep learning, and most importantly, enjoy the journey!


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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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