If a woman displays these 7 subtle behaviors, she’s trying hard to hide her attraction towards you

It’s always hard to tell if someone has a crush on you, right? You don’t want to misread the signals and face rejection. But you also don’t want to miss out on someone great because you were too scared to make a move. 

And you know what makes it even harder? 

When girls purposely try to hide their attraction to you. There are many reasons they do this; maybe she’s dating someone already and doesn’t want to rock the boat, maybe her best friend fancied you first or she could just be very shy and scared to reveal her true feelings.

Here’s the thing: no matter how hard she tries, she can’t hide her true feelings for you. When someone likes you they display certain subtle behaviors, without even realizing it. 

Today, I’m revealing 7 subtle signs that show a woman is attracted to you, even if she’s trying to keep it a secret. Spotting these clues can help you figure out what she’s really feeling.

1) She holds eye contact with you

Have you ever noticed that the girl in question holds eye contact with you just a split second longer than necessary? 

It’s like she’s giving you a lingering look that says “I find you really attractive” but then she breaks her gaze. She doesn’t mean to linger but she can’t help but look at you just a little longer because although she won’t admit it, she fancies you. 

Eye contact is one of the ways we communicate without speaking and it plays a big role, especially in early interactions. It’s like our eyes tell people things automatically so we don’t need to say them out loud. And it’s more powerful than you might think.

“Nonverbal cues are key to impression formation in initial interactions, and research shows that eye contact in particular improves trust, communicates closeness, and makes interactions richer and more efficient” as noted by researchers in a 2019 study on eye contact and attraction.

There’s no doubt about it, if she’s holding eye contact with you it’s a telltale sign she’s attracted to you and she’s trying to hide it

2) She remembers little details about you 

When a girl likes a guy, she wants to know all about him and when she learns little nuggets of information about him, she remembers them, no matter how small. 

She’ll remember things you mention in passing like your favorite movie, she’ll take note of how you like your coffee and she’ll keep in mind important dates like your Mom’s birthday. 

And research backs this up: a recent study has found “that infatuated individuals exhibit enhanced memory for information that is associated with their beloved”, or simply put when someone has feelings for you they’re much better at remembering small details about you. 

Have you noticed a woman in your life remembering little details about you that you don’t even remember sharing with her? 

If so, it suggests that she’s got a thing for you, although she’s trying hard to hide it from you. 

3) She’s curious about other girls in your life

Picture this: you’re chilling out with this girl, trying to figure out if she sees you as a friend or if there’s something more between you. Your sister calls you so you grab your phone and step outside to answer. Later on that day, your girl asks “Who’s Nicola?”

At first, you think this question comes out of the blue but then you realize, she clocked the name Nicola popping up on your phone earlier. She doesn’t know it’s your sister and she’s trying to suss out the girls in your life. 

Here’s the thing: when a girl is attracted to you, she wants to know if you’re seeing anyone or if you’re single. But asking outright is too obvious so instead she’ll show casual curiosity about other females in your life and piece it together for herself. 

When it comes to other girls, she might even show some subtle signs of jealousy. Girls are good at hiding these things so if you’re not paying attention you might miss this one. 

If she’s asking about other girls or making playful suggestive comments like “You and Maria seem pretty cozy” it only means one thing; she’s into you

4) She gives you her undivided attention

In a world where there are more distractions than ever before, getting someone’s undivided attention is a big deal.  

A recent study found that ‘phubbing’ which means ignoring someone to pay attention to your phone occurs in 62% of our conversations. That means over half the time, we’re paying more attention to our phones than the people we’re talking to in real life. 

But this isn’t the case with her. 

It doesn’t matter if she’s working on her laptop, reading a book, or scrolling on her phone, when you guys start talking she stops what she’s doing and gives you her full attention. 

It’s more than just being polite, it’s clear she’s engaged in the conversation and actively listening to you and asking thoughtful questions. 

Giving someone her full undivided attention like this is a big deal, so don’t take it for granted. It’s a telling sign that she’s got feelings for you. 

5) She finds excuses to message you 

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Do you ever feel like she’s messaging you even when there’s nothing to say?

Maybe she’s asking for your opinion or advice on something that she’s well capable of figuring out on her own. Or she brings up things that she could search on Google like “Who won the Superbowl at the weekend? 

The truth is: when a girl is attracted to a guy, she can’t get enough of him. She wants to chat with him as often as she can. That’s why she’ll find random reasons to talk to you. She doesn’t care what you talk about as long as she’s talking to you. 

I’m guilty of this one. Back in high school, I had a crush on a guy in my Spanish class. I really wanted to talk to him so I’d message him about the Spanish homework and I’d ask him for help after class, just as an excuse to talk to him. 

Finding excuses to message you about trivial things is one of those subtle behaviors that lets you know she’s attracted to you, even if she’s doing her best to hide it

6) She initiates physical contact with you 

Have you noticed this girl initiates physical contact with you? 

She’s trying hard to hide her attraction for you so I’m not talking about big obvious things like hugs and kisses. But pay attention to more subtle signs she’s getting closer to you physically

Take note of simple things like moving closer to you while you guys are standing or sitting next to each other. Or maybe she touches your forearm or brushes your thigh as you guys share a joke. 

These subtle gestures might seem insignificant, but they’re actually playing a crucial role in creating a connection between you two. “Warm touch stimulates the release of the “cuddle hormone,” oxytocin, which enhances a sense of trust and attachment,” notes Psychology Today.

She might not even notice she’s doing it, but she’s naturally initiating physical touch with you. It’s one of the ways we can feel closer to someone we like. And it’s a subtle behavior that lets you know she’s attracted to you. 

7) She tries to look her best when you’re around 

We all want to look good around people we’re attracted to, right? 

No matter how hard she tries to hide her attraction to you, she’ll do whatever she can to look her best in front of you. Sure, she’ll probably dress well and present a nicely groomed version of herself but it’s more than that. 

You’ll notice her checking herself out on reflective surfaces, straightening her clothes, and adjusting how she sits to show herself in the best light possible. Sound familiar? 

This one resonates with me, big time. Like everyone else, I wanted to look my best for my crush back in the day. One time, we were video calling, and when my camera came on first, I quickly adjusted my hair to look my best. What I didn’t realize was he joined and saw me doing it. 

How embarrassing! At the time I almost died but now it’s something we laugh about. 

Wanting to look your best for someone you’re attracted to is human nature, so watch out for any subtle gestures that show she’s fixing her appearance around you. It’s a classic behavior that suggests she fancies you and wants to impress you. 

The bottom line

How many of these behaviors have you noticed in the girl you’re thinking of? 

No matter how hard she tries to hide it, there’s no doubt, if you’re seeing a lot of these behaviors, she’s attracted to you. 

Maybe it’s time to shoot your shot and ask her out.  

Cat Harper

Cat Harper

Cat is an experienced Sales and Enablement professional turned writer whose passions span from psychology and relationships to continuous self-improvement, lifelong learning and pushing back on societal expectations to forge a life she loves. An avid traveler and adventure sports enthusiast, in her downtime you'll find Cat snowboarding, motorcycling or working on her latest self-development project.

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