If a woman displays these 7 specific behaviors, she isn’t a trustworthy person

Ever had a gut feeling that someone’s not as trustworthy as they seem? We’ve all been there.

But what if I told you that there are specific behaviors to look out for? Yup, you read that right. 

When it comes to women, there are telltale signs that might make you question their reliability. 

So, before you hand over your secrets or rely on her word, buckle up and get ready to uncover the seven behaviors that scream, “Proceed with caution!”

1) She avoids direct answers

In my experience, one of the most telling signs of an untrustworthy person is when they continually avoid giving direct answers.

You ask a simple question, and instead of a straightforward response, you get an evasive reply or a completely unrelated story. It’s as if they’re dodging the subject or trying to distract you from the original question.

This behavior can be quite challenging to deal with. Not only does it leave you puzzled, but it also creates a sense of unease. A feeling that something just isn’t quite right.

Now, it’s normal for people to occasionally sidestep questions they find uncomfortable. But if it becomes a consistent pattern, that’s when the red flag should go up.

2) She’s too agreeable

There’s a difference between someone who genuinely shares your opinions and someone who just seems to agree with everything you say. The latter can be a sign of someone who is being dishonest or manipulative.

Trustworthy folks are not afraid to speak their minds, even if it means disagreeing with you. They value honesty and respect, so they keep communication clear and upfront.

On the flip side, if someone’s always nodding along, they might be more interested in winning brownie points than speaking their truth. And that’s not exactly a recipe for trust.

3) She’s always the victim

It’s possible to meet someone who has had an unfortunate string of bad luck. But when you encounter a woman who always seems to be the victim in every story she tells, it’s worth taking a closer look.

In my book, Breaking The Attachment: How To Overcome Codependency in Your Relationship, I discuss how playing the perpetual victim can be a sign of codependency or manipulation.

If she’s always blaming others and never taking responsibility for her actions, it could suggest that she’s not trustworthy. It’s a way of deflecting blame and avoiding accountability.

4) She gossips excessively

We’ve all indulged in a little gossip from time to time. It’s a common human behavior, and in small doses, it can even help us bond with others. But when it becomes excessive, it can be a sign of an untrustworthy person.

A woman who continually gossips about others, especially if she shares personal or sensitive information, may not respect boundaries or value confidentiality. If she’s willing to talk about others behind their backs, what’s stopping her from doing the same to you?

As Eleanor Roosevelt wisely said, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.” Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect and trust, not on the shared disrespect of others.

5) She never apologizes

We all make mistakes. It’s part of being human. But what separates a trustworthy person from an untrustworthy one is the ability to own up to those mistakes and apologize sincerely.

In my years of experience, I’ve noticed that a woman who never apologizes, even when she’s clearly in the wrong, is showing a lack of empathy and humility. These are key traits of a trustworthy individual.

An apology is more than just saying “I’m sorry”. It’s an acknowledgment of wrongdoing, a display of empathy towards the person you’ve wronged, and a commitment to do better in the future.

If she never shows remorse or refuses to apologize, it might be because she doesn’t value your feelings or think she needs to be accountable for her actions. And that’s definitely not the kind of person you can easily trust.

6) She breaks promises frequently

Promises are an essential part of any relationship. They’re the glue that holds trust together. But when a woman makes promises she doesn’t keep, it can erode that trust quickly.

I’ve seen this pattern many times in my work. She might promise to call, show up at a certain time, or do something important, but then she doesn’t follow through. And what’s worse, she might not even offer an apology or explanation.

If she’s consistently breaking her promises and making excuses instead of amending her behavior, you might want to reconsider how much you can trust her.

7) She lies about small things

Lying is a major breach of trust, no doubt about it. But sometimes, it’s not the big lies that raise the red flags. It’s the small, seemingly insignificant ones.

If you catch her lying about small things – things that don’t even matter – you have to ask yourself: If she can lie about this, what else can she lie about?

These small lies often reveal a person’s willingness to sacrifice truth for convenience or to maintain a certain image. And if she can disregard the truth in small matters, there’s a good chance she’ll do the same when it comes to bigger issues.

Final thoughts

Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship, and it’s built on more than just words. It’s about actions, consistency, and character. Recognizing these behaviors can help you navigate your relationships better and make more informed decisions about who to trust.

But remember, everyone has their flaws, and no one is perfect. These signs are not definitive proof that a woman is untrustworthy, but they might be warning signals that you need to pay attention to. It’s all about balance and understanding people in their complexity.

In this insightful video by Justin Brown, he discusses the complexities of finding a life partner and shares his personal experience after a failed date along with the lessons he learned.

From understanding the importance of shared values to the significance of growth and mutual support in a relationship, his insights could help you better understand the nuances of trust in relationships.

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Remember, it’s essential to communicate openly and honestly in your relationships. If you see these behaviors in someone, it might be a good idea to have a conversation about it. After all, understanding and empathy are key elements of any strong relationship.

And if you ever find yourself doubting your judgment or needing some guidance, don’t hesitate to reach out to professionals or trusted friends. Sometimes, an external perspective can bring clarity when things seem confusing.

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