If a woman displays these 9 behaviors she wants to spend the rest of her life with you

Of course, all women are different.

Especially when it comes to how a woman shows their interest in a partner! But when she wants to spend the rest of her life with you, she becomes a bit more predictable.

Because there’s less of a need to put our guard up, and we aren’t pouring our energy into making sure we aren’t getting played by someone.

Instead, a sense of authenticity and comfort settles in – allowing her to express her emotions and intentions more openly.

So if you recognize any of these signs, take it as a compliment and don’t take advantage of the mastermind that is your partner.

Let’s get into it! 

If a woman displays these 9 behaviors she wants to spend the rest of her life with you.

1) She demonstrates genuine interest

Sounds obvious but I promise there is more to elaborate.

It’s a bit of an overgeneralization, but men tend to fall in love with what they see, while women fall in love with how they are treated.

Even in queer relationships, I think it’s because women are conditioned to deal with the patriarchy. 

So to us, nothing says, “I love you” like someone who actually piques our interests and gives us the space to be ourselves.

During the initial dating stages, a lot of us are told we should ask basic questions. But once we’re past that and we have an inkling that you’re the one, the questions can take a turn.

We’ll start asking you questions about your childhood, hardships and dreams – we want to know the things you don’t tell anyone else.

And then we’ll tell you about ourselves, relating to your answers to show that we’re engaged in the conversation. 

It’s how we determine long-term compatibility and see if this is worth our time – which is precious.

2) She puts in consistent effort and communication

A woman’s time and effort are especially valuable because we had to earn the right to have them.

So think of us prioritizing time together as major investments. That’s why a lot of us like “good morning” texts or quality time.

Maybe it’s because there was actual pressure for us to be emotionally intelligent since we were young girls, but that’s how you maintain a strong and open line of communication.

This includes surprise gestures like planning you a birthday party, or remembering certain anniversaries.

Without needing to be asked.

It’s the only way we can become comfortable with each other, and if you are to be trusted with all of our many personalities.

3) She feels free to show you all of her many personalities

Every woman has at least two and it’s what makes us such capable beings.

You could say every person is a multifaceted being, but it’s no surprise that women are taught from a young age that we should have “desirable” personas.

To be “lady-like” and be agreeable unless you want to be perceived as aggressive and “manly.”

It’s like free media training that kills our souls, but most of us adapt and use it to our advantage.

Needless to say, it’s a journey to value our true personalities. 

And that means to only show it to those who are worthy. All of them are willing to love you for who you are as long as you can return the favor.

So you best treat them well or you’ll have 5 or more women come after you.

4) She openly shows affection and intimacy

Not only does this mean that she wants to spend her life with you, but it speaks on you as someone trustworthy.

Physical and emotional intimacy is one of the main foundations of a lasting connection. But women are taught to fear our sexualities.

Not only that, our emotional availability is often taken advantage of. Most of us know what an “energy vampire” is.

So to put our faith in another person and be vulnerable with them in a sexual, mental and emotional context is a big deal!

That means we trust you won’t judge us for our pasts or make misogynistic conclusions about our sexual preferences.

Just like men, they will express their commitment by openly expressing their affections freely in private and public.

Including introducing you to their loved ones.

5) She lets you meet her loved ones

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Meeting the parents or close friends is a big and crucial step in any serious relationship.

For a lot of women, it can be a huge sign of commitment because having a sacred group of girlfriends is something a lot of us do.

Call it sort of a… survival mechanism. This support system is how we feel validated in a society that works day and night to make sure we question ourselves.

So as much as a woman’s friends should respect her decisions to date whoever she wants, their approval should show you how much of a catch you are!

As well as how sure she felt to have introduced you to the “board of directors.”

6) She shares common values as you

This isn’t exactly a specific behavior, but rather a combination of respect and compatibility.

And if it’s not the exact same values, they will be compatible. For example, say you and your partner have different religious beliefs. 

While their faith may differ from yours, their values related to respect for individuality, tolerance and open-mindedness are compatible.

She might ask you about these to ensure that you’d fit well in the long-run. But the ability to intuitively get along with each other is something that’s felt.

And it signifies that you both prioritize each other’s happiness and well-being without needing to spell it out for each other.

7) She prioritizes your happiness and well-being

In a committed relationship, mutual happiness becomes a shared goal.

A woman who can see a bright future with you will make room for your growth in their lives. Meaning she will support your dreams and be an active part of it.

So as long as you can be there for her, of course!

In addition to respecting your independence, she will actively give you the space to be vulnerable.

Neither of you will wear the mask of gender roles when you’re with each other. That would simply take time and effort away from what you could invest in one another!

This mutual respect lays the stable groundwork for a relationship that thrives on the principle of partnership, rather than codependency.

One that looks towards the future with a “bring it on” attitude.

8) She invests in your future together

This investment can manifest in various ways.

From regular check-in discussions about long-term goals, to collaborative decisions that can further solidify your futures together.

For example, opening a joint bank account so you can save up together for something that can enrich your futures!

Or integrating you as a part of her schedule if you don’t live together yet.

Just as having an open line of communication can do this, she will always ask you for your opinion when making certain decisions.

Not for your validation, but because she wants you to feel included! And take every advantage to learn more about you.

9) She handles conflicts maturely

Any relationship that challenges the ever-expansive nature of time is destined to come across conflict.

A woman who understands what she wants in the long-term understands that these moments are what make a connection stronger.

She won’t be a push-over to your perspectives, but will actively express hers as well. Always trying to reach a middle ground through open communication.

So if you want to “keep” a woman who wants to spend the rest of her life with you, you must meet her half-way. 

And see solutions as something you find together by keeping an open mind. 

Meaning understanding how if you’re in a straight relationship, her perspectives were often invalidated.

I know they say that women are more complicated than men, but I beg to differ.

Maybe “complicated” because we expect more. 

But only because we are capable of what we expect – so you either rise to the occasion or you don’t.

You’re either deserving of our commitment or you aren’t!

Because what we do is precisely what we mean. It isn’t worth the emotional investment to get someone hooked unless we want them hooked.

By acknowledging and recognizing these behaviors, it can help you cultivate a fulfilling relationship that lasts.

This understanding not only fortifies the connection, but paves the way for a shared journey that leaves you wondering: 

“How did we get here?” 

Only to remember all the intimate moments, where even the subtlest signs of affection alluded to your happily ever after, and you didn’t even know it.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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