If a man uses these 7 phrases in a conversation, he is lacking in sincerity

Have you ever found yourself lost in a conversation, wondering whether the man you’re speaking with is truly being sincere? 

We’ve all been there. You look into his eyes, and you listen to his words, but something doesn’t add up.

Today, we explore seven phrases men often use when they’re not being entirely honest. Ready to become a human lie detector? 

Let’s dive in!

1) “I don’t remember that.”

“I don’t remember that” is nothing short of a gaslighting classic.  You’ve probably heard it in conversations where details are crucial yet curiously absent. 

As noted by Professor Jack Shafer, an ex-behavioral analyst for the FBI, deceptive individuals often claim a lack of memory as a tactic to obscure the truth.

When this phrase is used, especially in critical discussions where the details matter, it raises a red flag about the speaker’s sincerity and reliability. It’s often a strategic way of neither confirming nor denying the facts, thus keeping the actual truth shrouded in uncertainty.

If you encounter this phrase, it’s beneficial to probe further or consider the broader context of the conversation, as it might reveal more about the speaker’s intentions than they intended.

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “That doesn’t ring a bell.”
  • “I can’t say for sure.”
  • “It’s all a blur to me.”
  • “I have no recollection of that happening.”

2) “Trust me.”

When a man frequently insists, “Trust me,” it may be an indicator that he’s trying too hard to convince you of his sincerity. 

True trust develops organically over time through actions rather than words. If someone is genuinely trustworthy, they won’t need to constantly remind you of it. 

If he’s quick to say, “Trust me,” consider whether his deeds align with his words. If not, there could be a lack of sincerity at play.

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “You can believe me.”
  • “I wouldn’t lie to you.”
  • “You have my word.”

3) “I hate to say this but…”

Have you ever noticed how some conversations take a sudden turn with the introduction of this phrase? 

“I hate to say this but…” often preludes a statement that might not only be uncomfortable for the listener but also a bit insincere. 

I mean, think about it; if they genuinely disliked the idea of saying something, they might choose to refrain altogether or find a more constructive way to express their thoughts. 

It’s important to listen carefully to what comes after this phrase and consider whether the speaker is truly being forthright or merely masking their true intentions under the veil of apparent reluctance.

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “Not to be rude, but…”
  • “Don’t take this the wrong way, but…”
  • “I don’t want to be mean, but…”
  • “No offense, but…”
  • “Just saying…”

4) “Why would I do that?”

This is another one noted by  Professor Jack Shafer.

In one of his Psychology Today posts, he points out that answering a question with another question is a significant red flag, indicating the possibility of deception. Honest individuals tend to make direct denials when confronted with accusations they perceive as false.

This tactic of responding with a question not only deflects the original inquiry but also puts the questioner in a position to justify their suspicion. 

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “How could you even think that?”
  • “Do you really believe I would do that?”
  • “What makes you think I was involved?”
  • “Are you accusing me?”
  • “Why would I ever want to do that?”

5) “It’s not a big deal”

When a man utters this phrase, particularly when his ego is at stake, the reality is likely the exact opposite—it is a big deal.

Using this phrase often serves as a shield to cover feelings of wounded pride or discomfort. It’s a method for someone to seem unbothered or detached, even though internally, they may be significantly affected. It often implies, “This isn’t affecting me,” despite it possibly having a deep impact.

When this phrase comes up, it’s worth pausing to consider the deeper emotions that might be lurking beneath the surface. The true sentiment could be far more important than it initially appears.

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “Don’t worry about it.”
  • “Forget about it.”
  • “Let it go.”
  • “It’s nothing, really.”

6) “To be honest…” or “Honestly…”

It’s ironic, but these sorts of remarks can sometimes signal that the ensuing statement might not be entirely truthful, particularly when they’re used frequently.

When phrases like these are overused, it’s often the case that the speaker feels the need to reinforce their honesty, which could imply that there’s a struggle to convey sincerity through their words alone.

In conversation, when you hear these phrases, it may be wise to listen with a bit of skepticism and consider why he feels the need to explicitly assert his honesty. Could there be an underlying issue with the truthfulness of their statements?

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “I swear to you.”
  • “I’ll be upfront.”

7) “I was just joking.”

Ever experienced a moment when someone makes a comment that seems out of line, only to quickly follow it up with “I was just joking”? 

By declaring it was “just a joke,” men often attempt to deflect criticism or soften the impact of what was said, suggesting that no harm was intended. 

However, this phrase is often used as a convenient escape hatch when they sense that their remark has not been well received. It allows them to test boundaries without significant consequences. 

When you hear “I was just joking,” it’s important to consider the context and the content of the joke. Was it truly light-hearted, or could it be masking deeper, more hurtful sentiments? 

Recognizing this pattern can help you discern whether the humor was genuine or a subtle disguise for something more serious.

Similar phrases to watch out for

  • “Can’t you take a joke?”
  • “I was only kidding.”
  • “Lighten up.”
  • “Don’t take it so seriously.”
  • “You know I didn’t mean it like that.”

The bottom line

In essence, words matter. They can reveal sincerity or mask its absence. 

If these phrases sound familiar, it might be time to reassess and seek genuine communication

Listen closely, trust your instincts and remember that you deserve sincerity. 

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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