If a man isn’t regularly doing these 8 things, he doesn’t truly value you

If your man’s not calling you back, you think he’s ignoring you. If he’s not saying “I love you”, you think he’s gone cold.

Welcome to the basics of dating and relationships.

But, here’s the thing – it’s not always that simple. People are complex creatures and understanding their true feelings can be a real challenge.

However, there are some clear signs to look out for. And they usually boil down to these 8 specific actions. Tune in as we dive right in!

1) Communication is key

Communication is everything in a relationship.

It’s not just about the endless chats and cute texts, but also about the more serious discussions – the ones that reveal your deepest fears, dreams, and feelings. And if he’s not engaging in these conversations, it’s a red flag.

Here’s the thing – if a man appreciates you, he will be interested in what you have to say. He will want to know about your day, your thoughts, your hopes, and even your fears.

But if he’s not showing this level of interest – if he’s not regularly initiating deep and meaningful conversations – it’s a clear sign that he isn’t that interested in building a relationship with you.

His actions – or lack thereof – say it all. He might be physically present, but emotionally distant. And that’s not how someone who values you behaves.

Instead, a man who truly appreciate you will communicate openly and honestly. He won’t shy away from difficult conversations and will always make an effort to understand your perspective.

2) Actions speak louder than words

I’ve been there myself, and let me tell you, it’s not a fun place to be.

I was dating this guy. He was charming and always knew the right things to say. “I care about you,” he would say, “You mean the world to me.” But his actions told a completely different story.

He wouldn’t make time for me, always prioritizing his friends and hobbies over our relationship. He wouldn’t follow through on his promises, leaving me disappointed more often than not.

And when I expressed my concerns, he brushed them off as if they were insignificant.

That’s when I realized – words are easy. Actions, however, reveal the truth.

If a man truly values you, he’ll show it through his actions. He’ll make time for you, keep his promises, and treat you with the respect you deserve. He won’t just say he cares about you – he’ll prove it.

This is a lesson I learned the hard way. But it’s one that has stuck with me since. Always remember – actions speak louder than words.

3) Respect goes a long way

Respect is a cornerstone in any healthy relationship. It’s about acknowledging each other’s boundaries, appreciating differences, and valuing each other’s opinions.

If a man doesn’t respect you, he doesn’t truly value you. He should recognize your worth, appreciate your individuality and support your personal growth. Disrespectful behaviors such as belittling comments, controlling tendencies or disregard for your feelings are major red flags.

Remember, respect is not just about grand gestures. It’s reflected in the smallest actions – how he talks to you, how he treats you in front of others, and how he reacts to your opinions.

Respect isn’t something you earn in a relationship; it’s something you give and expect in return because every individual deserves it!

4) Making you feel secure

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Feeling secure in a relationship doesn’t just happen overnight. It’s built over time, through consistent actions that show care, love, and commitment.

If a man truly values you, he’ll make you feel safe – both emotionally and physically. He won’t play mind games or keep you guessing about his feelings. Instead, he’ll reassure you of his love and commitment, and he’ll do it regularly.

Feeling secure also means feeling confident about your place in his life. You should never have to question whether you’re important to him or not. If you find yourself constantly wondering where you stand, that might be an indication that he doesn’t truly value you.

A healthy relationship is a safe harbor – a place where you can be yourself without fear of judgment or rejection. And if a man isn’t providing that for you, then perhaps he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.

5) He involves you in his future plans

Here’s something I’ve come to realize – if a man truly values you, he’ll see you as an integral part of his future.

I remember when I was dating my now-husband. He didn’t just talk about “his” future; he talked about “our” future. He involved me in his plans, asked for my opinions, and made it clear that he wanted me by his side. That’s when I knew he valued me.

So, if your man is always talking about his future plans and you’re not in them, it’s a clear sign that he doesn’t see you as part of his life in the long run.

On the other hand, if he talks about buying a house together, planning vacations, or even something as simple as adopting a pet together, it shows that he sees a future with you.

Actions might speak louder than words, but when it comes to your future together, his words matter just as much. If he’s not regularly involving you in his future plans, then perhaps he doesn’t appreciate you as much as you deserve.

6) He gives you space

You might think that if a man values you, he’d want to spend every waking moment with you. But that’s not always the case.

In fact, a man who truly values you will understand the importance of personal space and independence in a relationship. He’ll respect your need for time alone or time with friends and family without him.

Giving each other space doesn’t mean he’s pushing you away; it means he respects your individuality. It’s about trust and understanding that even though you’re in a relationship, you’re still two separate individuals with your own lives and interests.

So, if your man is always smothering you and doesn’t give you any breathing room, it may be a sign that he doesn’t truly value you.

A relationship should be a balance of togetherness and individuality. If he’s not providing that balance, then perhaps he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.

7) He listens to you

Listening might seem like a small thing, but it’s actually a big deal in a relationship.

If a man truly values you, he won’t just hear your words; he’ll listen to them. He’ll pay attention to what you’re saying, show interest in your stories, and remember things you’ve told him.

Listening isn’t just about being quiet while the other person talks; it’s about understanding, empathy, and showing respect for the other person’s thoughts and feelings.

So, if your man is always interrupting you, disregarding your opinions, or forgetting important things you’ve told him, it may be a sign that he doesn’t value you.

In contrast, a man who appreciates you will listen attentively, show genuine interest in what you have to say, and make an effort to understand your viewpoint.

Remember, meaningful conversations are built on active listening. If he’s not doing this regularly, then perhaps he doesn’t value you as much as you deserve.

8) He makes you feel valued

Above all, if a man truly values you, he’ll make you feel valued. He’ll appreciate you for who you are, cherish your unique qualities, and make you feel special.

You won’t have to question whether he values you or not because his actions will speak volumes. He’ll show his love and appreciation through his words, actions, and the way he treats you.

In a healthy relationship, you should never have to question your worth or wonder if you’re valued. If a man truly values you, he’ll make sure you know it.

Valuing yourself first

At the end of the day, it all boils down to how much you value yourself.

Remember, you set the bar for how others treat you. If you don’t value yourself, you can’t expect others to do so. And if a man isn’t treating you with the respect, love, and kindness that you deserve, then perhaps it’s time to reassess the relationship.

Being valued in a relationship isn’t about grand gestures or expensive gifts. It’s about feeling loved, respected, and cherished. It’s about feeling secure and knowing that your partner sees you as an integral part of his life.

So if you find that a man isn’t regularly doing these things, it might be time to take a step back and ask yourself: Does he truly appreciate me? 

Take some time to reflect on these questions. The answers might just surprise you.

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Isabella Chase

Isabella Chase, a New York City native, writes about the complexities of modern life and relationships. Her articles draw from her experiences navigating the vibrant and diverse social landscape of the city. Isabella’s insights are about finding harmony in the chaos and building strong, authentic connections in a fast-paced world.

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