If a man displays these 11 subtle behaviors, he’s an incredibly thoughtful person

To be on the other end of a thoughtful man’s care and affection is a loving place to be in. It’s the complete opposite of the bare minimum.

But how would you know if he is thoughtful? What are the signs? Will it be on full display? Obvious? Subtle? Will there be big red arrows pointing towards his thoughtful gestures?

Is it a one-time thing? A daily recurrence?

Let’s talk about that.

Specifically, the 11 subtle behaviors displayed by an incredibly thoughtful man.

1) His quiet and consistent consideration

A sign of a thoughtful man? He’s considerate. Consistently and without bells and whistles.

He just… does. Consideration is woven into his actions that you barely notice because he doesn’t change erratically, it’s just as normal as breathing for him.

Ever dated a guy who’s only great at the start and the contrast is so glaringly obvious? Yeah, not with this guy. He’s considerate through and through, from start to finish.

Even seasons change more than he does (at least in this aspect.)

2) He pays attention

A thoughtful man is a man who pays attention.

He does not need to be reminded of what he needs to do, he already knows. And he’s already on it. He’s proactive and anticipates.

He also pays attention to what people say and what they do, both verbal and non-verbal cues do not escape his eyes.

In a relationship, he pays attention to his partner’s preferences. He knows what he should do and finds out what he has yet to do. He knows the importance of having information and making well-informed decisions based on said information.

3) He takes his time in tasks

Does he take his time and still not hold up everyone else’s? Does he carefully do his work without inconveniencing others for its speed?

Most likely to be a thoughtful man.

He’s the type of person who puts 100% of his capabilities in whatever he does. He’s the type to make sure that what he brings to the table is actually what he could bring.

He plans, he strategizes, and he executes said plans in the best way he knows how.

This isn’t to say that he’s infallible, this is to say that he is always doing his best with what he is given—sometimes even exceedingly so.

That care and intention is what sets him apart.

4) He’s unafraid to ask questions

A thoughtful man who’s unafraid to ask questions? Sounds about right.

This man doesn’t take anything at face value, he understands that there’s always more to know. He understands that there’s always more to learn.

He doesn’t mind being the one to ask the questions—which some of us may know can be a difficult thing to do—at the risk of looking dumb.

He knows that this isn’t the case at all. To ask questions is to clarify, to admit you don’t know everything is not foolish. In fact, it is very wise.

5) He’s open to new ideas

“Open-mindedness involves being receptive to a wide variety of ideas, arguments, and information. Being open-minded is generally considered a positive quality. It is necessary in order to think critically and rationally. Open-mindedness can also involve asking questions and actively searching for information that challenges your beliefs. It also encompasses the belief that other people should be free to express their beliefs and arguments, even if you do not necessarily agree with those views.”

– Kendra Cherry, MSEd | How to Be Open-Minded and Why It Matters

Reading the passage above, a thoughtful man might go, “Well, that’s only right.” However, Being open to new ideas isn’t really as easy.

There are ideas to unlearn, biases to set aside, and prejudices to shed. These aren’t easy feats and a thoughtful man understands this.

He still attempts. He still gives himself the opportunity to know outside of what he already does. He gives himself that chance to venture into horizons most people just look into but never tread.

6) He’s careful in making decisions

Weighing out my options before i make a decision If a man displays these 11 subtle behaviors, he’s an incredibly thoughtful person

If he’s careful about his tasks, he’s even more careful about making decisions. A thoughtful man, after all, is a prudent man.

The American Psychological Association defines prudence as the “farsighted and deliberate concern for the consequences of one’s actions and decisions. It is a form of practical reasoning and self-management that resists the impulse to satisfy short-term pleasures at the expense of long-term goals.”

He understands the gravity of his decisions and would never be careless enough to make a reckless one. Very rarely is he the impulsive type, spending ample time to weigh the pros and cons.

7) He’s tactful

“Tact is the knack of making a point without making an enemy.”

– Howard W. Newton (but commonly misattributed to Isaac Newton.)

Word vomit? Not this guy.

He is careful with his words, actions, and demeanor. Nothing is incomplete or in excess.

He is thoughtful in a way that consideration is given at all times. He is never pointedly mean when he doesn’t need to be, but he will make sure the truth is always a priority.

8) He gives the best gifts

Thoughtful people are some of the best gift-givers around. They are the type of people who don’t give gifts for the sake of giving one. Those who know what will make the best gifts.

A thoughtful man understands this. He will pay attention to your wants, likes, dislikes, and wishes. He will pay attention to your needs, too.

Even things said in passing are not actually lost in the ether, but instead filed for later.

9) He’s not selfish

“Being generous often consists of simply extending a hand. That’s hard to do if you are grasping tightly to your righteousness, your belief system, your superiority, your assumptions about others, your definition of normal.”

— Patti Digh | Life is a Verb: 37 Days to Wake Up, Be Mindful, and Live Intentionally

A man who thinks about and considers others’ needs is an unselfish man. He is generous, and I’m not strictly talking about money.

He is generous with his resources, which includes his time and energy. He doesn’t ration this generosity, he doesn’t ration his consideration.

Where he is needed, that’s where he’ll be.

10) He listens

“Trust is the making and keeping of promises over time. And listening is a fundamental relationship promise – when we truly hear what another person says, we open the door to being seen as worthy of trust. And then higher performing relationships emerge.”

– Chuck Shelton | What Happens When Men Listen To Women To Build Trust? Part 1

A thoughtful man is a man who listens.

He’s a man who won’t pretend to not understand what you mean. He understands context, reading between the lines, and all that. He will not dumb himself down to escape the responsibility of knowing (say “I” if you’ve been personally victimized by “I don’t understand what you mean.”)

He understands.  He gives everyone their due respect.

11) He’s present

And lastly, he’s present. He’s in the moment. You have his full attention whenever you’re with him.

When he’s with you, you know full well that you have his undivided attention.

No phones, no wandering attention, there’s nothing perfunctory about him and how he treats you.

In relationships, if he says he’s all-in with you, you will believe him because his actions show this. He’s present.

What do you think? Does this list look familiar to you?

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Eliza Hartley

Eliza Hartley, a London-based writer, is passionate about helping others discover the power of self-improvement. Her approach combines everyday wisdom with practical strategies, shaped by her own journey overcoming personal challenges. Eliza's articles resonate with those seeking to navigate life's complexities with grace and strength.

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