If a man displays these 9 behaviors, he’s mature enough to be considered marriage material

When we reach a certain point in our lives, the majority of us look to settle down, which usually means finding a partner that we trust and who we can build a future with.

The problem is that it’s not always easy to figure out whether someone’s marriage material or not, especially when we’re in the dating scene and first getting to know people.

So what are the traits we should be looking out for when figuring out whether a man is marriage material? Well, let’s take a look, shall we?

1) He’s a good communicator

Communication is vital for any relationship, and it’s particularly key for romantic relationships.

After all, why would you want to marry someone if they didn’t communicate with you?

This one factor alone isn’t enough to make someone marriage material, but it’s certainly a good sign and an important foundation for you to build upon.

And the good news is that it’s super easy to tell whether someone’s a good communicator. Ask them questions and see how they respond to them. And pay particular attention to how they act in times of crisis.

2) He’s responsible with his finances

A marriage is a partnership between two people, and that partnership covers everything from the way you raise your children to the way you take care of the housework.

You’ll want to pay particular attention to the way you tackle your finances, because even when you keep your finances separate, the decisions that one of you makes will affect the other.

If you’re considering marrying someone, you need to know that they’re mature enough to take responsibility for their financial health.

After all, if they’re not responsible with their finances, how are they going to be able to start saving money for the wedding?

3) He has good control over his emotions

If you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone, you need to make sure that they can control their emotions.

In other words, you need to know that they’re not going to lash out (physically or otherwise) when they’re angry or they’ve had a few too many drinks.

When a man can control his emotions, it means that he knows how to stop them from spilling over into other people. He won’t allow them to control his behavior.

There’s a stigma attached towards male mental health which says that men aren’t supposed to show their feelings. But this is false.

There’s nothing wrong with men showing their emotions, as long as they’re not being controlled by them.

4) He’s passionate about personal growth

Personal growth is one of those things that we should all dedicate some time towards.

I’m a big believer that if we’re not growing, we’re moving backwards. This is true for individuals, as well as for couples and families.

Because of that, if your man is to be considered marriage material, he needs to be passionate about his personal growth and dedicated to becoming a better person.

Without this, only one of you will grow, and you’ll soon end up with an uneven relationship in which you’re growing but your partner isn’t.

5) He’s respectful

Your partner needs to be respectful of you and you need to be respectful of them. Without that, your relationship is destined to fall apart.

Respect is interesting because while it doesn’t have to be earned, it can be taken away at the drop of a hat. And if your man disrespects you, it’s pretty quickly going to lead to you disrespecting them in return.

But while your man respecting you is a good start, that’s all it is – a start. They also need to be respectful of others, including your friends and your family members.

In fact, you can learn a lot about how respectful of others someone is by seeing how they act towards serving staff in stores and restaurants.

6) He’s reliable

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If you want to marry a man, you’ll want to make sure that you can rely on him.

After all, if you’re relying on them to show up to the wedding ceremony and they let you down, you’re going to be left standing at the altar.

It’s not just partners who we look to for reliability. Most of us like to have reliable friends, and we also like to think that other people see us as reliable.

But reliability is particularly important when it comes to the person that we’re thinking about marrying. And all of the other things we’re talking about today feed into that.

7) He sets, obeys and maintains boundaries

Everyone has boundaries, even if they don’t know it.

It’s our boundaries which show people what we consider to be acceptable or not, especially in a relationship. This means that if your man sets boundaries of his own and obeys the boundaries that you set, it’s a sure sign that he’s mature enough to marry.

There’s a misconception amongst some people that married couples don’t have boundaries because they share everything, but that’s not true. We all need alone time.

And if your partner doesn’t understand that, they might not be marriage material after all.

8) He shares your values

This point is a little more subjective than some of the others, because we all have different values.

And the most important thing of all is that your partner has values in the first place. Perhaps they prioritize family time or they’re keen advocates of animal rights.

Possessing values of some kind is important, but if you want your relationship to stand the test of time then you really need to make sure that the two of you share the same values.

Going back to that earlier example, if your partner is a vegan who campaigns for animal rights and you’re passionate about hunting, there’s a definite mismatch in your values.

9) He’s kind

Finally, but perhaps most importantly, it’s cool to be kind.

If the man you’ve found is kind to you, as well as to animals, kids and other people, then that kindness can make up for pretty much anything else that they might be deficient in.

I don’t know about you, but I’d rather have a kind partner than one who has a lot of money. You could even say that kindness is a quality that money can’t buy.

It also takes a certain amount of maturity to be kind, especially if you’re having a bad day. Immature people tend to take their frustration out on other people.


Now that you know which behaviors to look out for if you’re trying to figure out whether someone is marriage material, you’re ready to put what you’ve learned into practice.

Whether you’ve got a man in mind already or you’re getting ready to put yourself out there in the dating scene, now you know the fundamental behaviors that you’ll want to look out for.

Of course, these characteristics alone aren’t enough to make someone marriage material, and so you’re going to want to look at other factors like whether the two of you actually get along.

Still, you can think of these nine behaviors as being like the building blocks that your perfect man should base the rest of his personality on. I just hope that you’re able to find him!

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Dane Cobain

Dane Cobain is a published author, freelance writer and (occasional) poet and musician with a passion for language and learning. When he’s not working on his next release, he can be found reading and reviewing books while trying not to be distracted by Wikipedia.

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