Ever felt like you’re losing your mind? Like you’re the only sane person in a world gone mad?
I’ve been there.
Living in a world that often feels upside down can be disorienting. We’re told to conform to societal norms that, upon close inspection, seem quite absurd. But here’s the kicker.
It’s not you. It’s society.
Coming to this realization might be hard to swallow initially. But once you’ve accepted it, the liberation that follows is indescribable.
Ready for a reality check? Here are seven hard-to-hear truths about society that will have you sighing in relief, and saying “So, it wasn’t just me!”
1) Success is not a one-size-fits-all concept
Do you ever feel like you’re on a never-ending treadmill, constantly chasing society’s definition of success?
Here’s the truth.
Success is subjective. What works for one person might not work for another. That’s okay.
Society might tell you that success means having a high-paying job, a fancy car, or a big house. But if these things don’t align with your values or aspirations, then why chase them?
True success is finding contentment and fulfillment in your own terms. It’s about pursuing your passions, nurturing relationships, and living according to your values.
It’s time to redefine success on your own terms. Now that’s liberating.
2) It’s okay to be different
Remember when you were a kid and all you wanted to do was fit in?
During my high school, I was the only one interested in poetry while everyone else was into sports. I used to feel out of place, often finding myself questioning my interests.
But here’s what I’ve learned over the years.
Being different is not a bad thing. It’s what makes us unique. It’s what sets us apart from the crowd.
Today, I’m a published poet and people often admire my unique perspective. That ‘different’ thing about me led me to my passion and career.
So, embrace your uniqueness. It’s not a flaw, it’s your strength. Don’t let society dictate who you should be. Be unapologetically you.
3) Your worth is not determined by others’ opinions
Ever felt crushed by someone’s offhand comment about you?
In my early twenties, I had a boss who never missed an opportunity to belittle me. She questioned my capabilities and made me feel like I wasn’t good enough. Her words started to shape how I viewed myself.
But one day, I had an epiphany.
Why was I letting someone else’s opinion define my worth?
Here’s the truth. Your worth is not determined by what others think of you. It’s determined by how you see yourself and how you treat others.
Once you realize this, you’ll stop seeking validation from others. You’ll understand that their opinions are just that – opinions. They don’t define you.
As for me, I left that job and moved on to a place where I was valued and respected. And guess what? My self-esteem soared.
The moral of the story is: Don’t let anyone else’s opinion dictate your self-worth. You’re more than what people think of you.
4) It’s okay to not have it all figured out
Have you ever felt the pressure to have your entire life planned out?
Society has this way of making us feel like we’re falling behind if we don’t have a five-year plan or if we’re unsure about our future. It’s as if not knowing what you want to do with your life is some kind of personal failure.
But here’s the thing.
Life is unpredictable. And that’s the beauty of it.
It’s completely fine to not have everything figured out. It’s okay to explore, make mistakes, and learn as you go. What’s important is that you’re growing, learning, and evolving.
5) Failure is an integral part of success
Have you ever been so afraid of failing that you decided not to try at all?
Thomas Edison, the prolific inventor, failed thousands of times before successfully inventing the electric light bulb. When asked about his failures, he famously said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”
Now, here’s a perspective shift.
Failure isn’t the opposite of success. It’s a part of it. We all learn by trials and errors. It might take some time to figure out the right way to do something, but a few failed attempts in the beginning will teach you what not to do.
Think about it. Would Edison have invented the light bulb if he had given up after his first few attempts? Probably not.
6) Perfection is a myth
I used to be a perfectionist. I would spend hours obsessing over the smallest details, and if things didn’t turn out exactly as I envisioned, I would beat myself up over it.
Perfection doesn’t exist.
Life is messy and unpredictable. Things won’t always go as planned, and that’s okay. Striving for perfection only sets you up for disappointment and stress.
The moment I let go of my pursuit of perfection was the moment I started to truly live. I learned to appreciate my imperfections and celebrate my progress, however small.
Let’s strive for progress, not perfection. It’s much more liberating and, honestly, realistic.
7) You don’t have to please everyone
Here’s the hard truth.
You can’t please everyone. And guess what? You don’t have to.
Trying to make everyone happy is a losing game. It’s exhausting, and it often means sacrificing your own happiness and peace of mind.
Stand up for what you believe in, even if it means standing alone. Your opinions matter. Your feelings are valid. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Embracing the liberation
If you find yourself nodding along to these truths, know that you’re not alone.
It’s a strange world we live in, and it’s natural to feel thrown off balance from time to time. But remember, there’s no rulebook for life, no one-size-fits-all map to navigate this journey.
The beauty lies in crafting your own path, in embracing your unique journey with its twists and turns, highs and lows.
Start by acknowledging these truths. Reflect on them. Introspect about where they resonate with your life.
Think about it – are you chasing someone else’s definition of success? Are you letting others’ opinions define your self-worth? Are you trying to please everyone?
This is not about overnight transformation, but gradual evolution. It’s about taking one step at a time towards a more liberating way of life.