“I don’t think my girlfriend loves me anymore” – 9 tips if this is you

It can be hard to know what to do when a girl you love starts pulling away.

It’s normal to worry about why she doesn’t want to hang out with you anymore or why she’s stopped returning your texts.

However, it could just be that she doesn’t love you anymore. This is a difficult thing to hear and accept, but there are ways you can try and get her back that might work!

Here are 9 things you can do if your girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore:

1) Be honest with her

When your girlfriend doesn’t love you anymore, one of the first things you should do is talk to her about it.

Don’t beat around the bush about how you feel. Tell her straight up that you don’t think she loves you anymore and ask her why.

You can start by telling her that you feel like she doesn’t love you anymore because she isn’t returning your calls or texts and is giving you less attention than before.

By giving her the chance to open up with you, this might make her open up and tell you why she’s no longer interested in you or in being your girlfriend.

It may also make her start to feel overwhelmed by all of the emotions she’s feeling and just need some space from you.

Don’t talk about what she did exactly, and be sure to change the subject every time you bring up the topic of her not loving you as much.

However, don’t be afraid to try and get things back on track by asking back if she still loves you.

2) Get her to talk about herself

It can be hard for a girl to tell you that she doesn’t love you anymore, so it might be best if you try talking to yourself.

This is especially important if this is the first time she’s told you that she’s no longer interested in you and if she’s never said anything like this before.

If your girlfriend is no longer interested in being with you, she probably doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you about what’s going on.

If you want to get her to open up, try talking about yourself and your various interests.

Talk about what you are studying and what you plan on doing after you graduate, or talk about a book you recently read or an upcoming ski trip.

If she doesn’t respond in a positive way, then it might be best to stop talking about yourself, and if she still doesn’t respond, then it might be best to let her go.

3) Don’t become too needy or clingy

If your girlfriend is no longer interested in being you girlfriend or loves you but can’t see herself being in a relationship with you, then this is probably because she doesn’t feel comfortable around you anymore.

Guys who start to think their girlfriend doesn’t love them make a common mistake.

They start to ask her all the time:

  • “Do you still love me?”
  • “How much do you care about me?”

Being needy like that turns off women.


Women are attracted to men who are strong in their emotions, not the ones who are weak. The more a guy asks her if she still likes or likes him, the less attractive he looks to her, and so on.

Most of the time, needy behavior turns into clinginess, which then makes a woman lose even more respect and attraction for her boyfriend even more quickly.

You could try making her feel better by giving her a hug and telling her that you are still in love with her.

But what if you notice that you’re becoming too clingy and can’t help it?

In this case, I would suggest speaking to a professional relationship coach.

Of course, I don’t trust all the random coaches out there who give out standardized solutions. However, I know that you can actually trust certified coaches at Relationship Hero

Why am I so sure?

Because the last time I contacted them, a professional coach I spoke to surprised me with their understanding and professional advice.

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4) Make her feel that you are committed to her

If your girlfriend starts to pull away or is no longer interested in you, then make her feel that you are still committed to her.

For example, if you are busy and don’t have the time to talk or go out with her, then tell her that you’re busy and will talk with her later.

She may be confused by this, especially if she feels like she doesn’t have as much time for you as she used to.

She might not love you now, but at least she knows that you are trustworthy.

Have a talk with her and make her understand that you are aware of what she is going through and that you have taken steps to change yourself so as not to make the same mistakes again.

It’s hard to go back to someone you once dated or loved. You have already established that you are special to each other and that the other person has feelings for only you.

Now, though, something has happened, and the two of you don’t seem able to get past it. Before you decide whether or not to do this, make sure that the relationship was really good and meant a lot for your partner.

5) Show her that you miss her

If your girlfriend is no longer interested in you and has stopped contacting you because she is no longer comfortable with being around you, you can get her back by showing her how much you miss her.

For example, send a text saying that you miss her or call her after work.

You might want to show up at school or work to talk to her there instead of waiting for the two of you to meet up.

That way, you can talk to her closer to the time. If you are in a situation where you can’t get her back at all, try using text messages to show her that you really miss her.

So if she is ignoring your calls and texts, use text messages to get a response from her instead.

This will help the two of you re-establish the connection between the two of you. Then, when you see each other again in person, the connection will already be there to some degree.

The purpose is to show her that you are thinking about her and that you have missed talking to her.

If you do this enough, after a while, she will start to miss you, too.

6) Forgive her if she made a mistake

Women like the idea of being forgiven by their partners no matter what they have done because it shows that they matter more than anyone else.

They also like being forgiven for making a mistake because this shows that you believe and trust them.

When you say to her that you forgive her for whatever she has done, it makes her feel special and loved.

Even though you might be angry and hurt by mistake, since you are forgiving her, she will understand that she was forgiven and accepts this new reality.

Don’t get me wrong.

Forgiveness doesn’t mean that they can get away with whatever they want. It means that you understand it and accept it for what it is, and since she knows it, she will not make the same mistake again.

This is a psychological trick to get her attention back and show her that you are serious about getting your ex-girlfriend back in your life.

If you don’t have the time to go out with her, then show her that you are willing to go out of your way just to see or talk to her.

7) Talk with her about something she loves to talk about

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This is a great approach if you want to get your ex-girlfriend back because it opens her up, and she will begin to tell you how she feels.

However, if you do this wrong, it can make things worse for the two of you.

Always stick to facts, not ideas, so they don’t have any reason to doubt or argue with you.

For example, if the two of you are discussing something that she loves and talking about it lots of times, then suggest asking her to go out with her friends on a date night.

She can take part in an activity that she loves and talk about it together. For example, if she loves going shopping, you can go shopping together with her.

8) Take good care of yourself, so she will notice and want you back

When you take good care of yourself, it shows that you are serious about getting your ex-girlfriend back.

When women see that their boyfriends or husbands are not taking care of themselves, it makes them wonder whether the two of them are still together because she doesn’t want to be with someone who is not taking care of themselves.

The point is:

When it comes to relationships, you might be surprised to hear that there’s one very important connection you’ve probably been overlooking:

The relationship you have with yourself.

I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his incredible, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.

And once you start doing that, there’s no telling how much happiness and fulfillment you can find within yourself and with your relationships.

So what makes Rudá’s advice so life-changing?

Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but he’s experienced the same problems in love as you and I have.

And using this combination, he’s identified the areas where most of us go wrong in our relationships.

So if you’re tired of your relationships never working out, of feeling undervalued, unappreciated, or unloved, this free video will give you some amazing techniques to change your love life around.

Make the change today and cultivate the love and respect you know you deserve.

Click here to watch the free video.

9) Give her space to re-evaluate

If you are no longer able to be with your girlfriend, then don’t stick around and keep reminding her of the past.

Let her move on, and give her some space to re-evaluate herself and the things you have done together.

If she still wants you back in her life, she will come back to you.

Don’t contact your ex-girlfriend or show up on her doorstep begging her to take you back.

This will only prove to her that she was right to leave the relationship in the first place. In fact, she might even be afraid of you if she gets sick and tired of you coming back and bothering her.

So don’t do something you will regret.

Final thoughts

All relationships go through stages, and as long as you both understand this and can work your way through them, you will be much better off.

That way, you are more prepared in your relationship and can work together to overcome any obstacles that come your way.

The most important thing is to talk about your feelings with one another to make sure that communication lines are always open.

But please keep this in mind.

You can’t control who she loves.

The only thing you have control over is yourself.

Now is a great time to focus on some form of self-improvement and put your focus on a new goal.

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