24 creative ways to tell if your guy friend is falling for you

We all know that love is complicated, and it’s different for everyone.

Sometimes in life, we find ourselves in a bind and wondering if our guy friend is falling for us or not.

Determining whether or not he likes you can be difficult and frustrating, but luckily there are plenty of ways to know for sure.

Let me tell you 25 ways to know if your guy friend is having romantic feelings for you.

1) The way he looks at you seems different now

You’ve been friends with this guy and all of a sudden, he seems to have a new twinkle in his eye.

He’s not just looking at you with a look of compassion and care, but now he’s looking at you as if he has feelings for you.

Once you catch him looking at you, he may try to look away or even blush since he feels embarrassed, but then he’ll go back to looking at you again.

And when you talk, he’ll have this look on his face like he’s listening to you intently and that’s when you know he’s really hearing you out.

Remember how he looks at you before? It’s not like that anymore that it seems like you even notice him stealing glances at you.

This is a sure sign that he is falling for you.

2) He always seems to be around you now

When you and your guy friend were just friends, he never really hung out with you a lot.

However, since he likes you, he always seems to be around you for no apparent reason.

You notice that every time you hang out together with your friends or family, he’s usually there too.

Your guy friend wants to make sure he gets to spend as much time with you as he can.

He tries to start talking with you even when it doesn’t seem like he should be a part of the conversation when you are hanging out with other friends.

No wonder he is thinking that it’s best for him to talk with you about anything and everything, so he can get some more insight into what you truly think about him.

3) Your friends think he likes you

The people around you will always see the signs that your guy friend likes you, even if you don’t.

It’s as if they’re able to read his mind since he tries to do everything in his power to get your attention.

Even though it’s a little embarrassing being caught liking someone and having other people know about it, he welcomes the embarrassment since he thinks you’re worth it.

Your friends and family may notice that your guy friend is acting differently.

They’ll start to put the pieces together and they’ll come up with their own conclusions.

You’ll get the impression of how they notice him stealing glances at you, listening to what you have to say, and hanging around you more often than not.

All of these are happening and yet you’re the only who can’t see it, but don’t worry.

Your guy friend is falling for you and soon enough you’ll notice it more.

4) He starts to open up more to you

As a man, opening up and showing vulnerability to a woman is not something that he usually does.

You’re his friend after all, and you can already sense that he’s starting to see you differently.

He takes small but seemingly significant actions every now and again that show genuine affection for you.

When you two were just friends, he’d only reveal as much to you as he needed to.

He never really opened up to you about what he felt or thought about anything.

But now that he’s falling for you though, your guy friend is slowly but surely opening up more and more.

He’ll talk about things he’s been meaning to tell you, and even what he’s feeling. And when you ask him how he feels, he’ll let you know everything.

Your guy friend is falling for you and he has nothing to hide from you anymore.

He can now share his true feelings with someone, and that someone happens to be you.

5) He invites you to do stuff with him more often than before

Your guy friend wants to get more time with you, so he’s been inviting you to go out with him on his trips or hangouts.

Even though your schedule doesn’t really match up, he suggests that the two of you do something together so that he can get some time with you.

This is a surefire way of knowing that your guy friend is trying to get more time together.

He wants to spend as much time with you as he can since he’s falling for you and doesn’t want anyone else to get in the way.

He knows that if he’s with you, then no other guy will try to steal you away from his side.

6) He initiates physical contact with you, a lot

As we know, some men are not the romantic types who will always initiate physical contact with a woman.

So here’s your guy friend who’s falling for you and wants to show it, he will unconsciously initiate physical contact with you as much as possible.

You may receive the pleasure of his warm hand holding yours or maybe he can give you a hug.

In any occasion where your guy friend initiates physical contact with you, just know that he is letting you know he is falling for you.

Think about it:

  • Does he touch your arm when you get into a conversation?
  • Does he play with your hair or tuck them behind your ear?
  • Does he take your hand?
  • Does he sit really close to you?

These types of physical contact are signs of him falling for you, so don’t dismiss them.

He may not be totally aware of it yet, but he’s already starting to fall head over heels in love with you.

7) You see a different side of him

He’s always been that guy who has the jokes and memes about everything that makes him laugh.

But lately, you’ve seen a different side of him – a sweeter, more sentimental side of him that shows how much he cares about your friendship. He may start to write little notes to you just to let you know that he’s grateful for your friendship.

He’ll also tell you how much he cares about you and how lucky he is to have a friend like you.

The way he says it, it seems like he’s not just telling you this because he wants to spend time with you or make sure that you’re doing okay.

It seems like what he says is coming from the heart.

But you know what?

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8) He’s always helping you out

He may start to help you out a little more often so that there can be an opportunity for him to spend some time with you.

He will volunteer to help whenever you’re in need of anything.

It can be anything from giving your car a tune-up, helping you move into your new apartment, or even fixing something in your kitchen. Once again, this is a sign that your guy friend is falling for you.

He’s doing all of these things to show you that he’s grateful for your friendship and he wants to be closer to you.

And the best part? He wants to show off how much he cares about you by caring about all of your needs.

He even tells you that you can call him anytime day or night if you ever need anything.

9) He doesn’t talk about other women

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Remember the time when he used to talk about his crushes with you? He used to brag about how he was going to make out with the girls he was crushing on for a party.

Well, those days seem to be over.

If your guy friend is falling for you, you will see that he has stopped talking about other women in his life. He doesn’t want to get you jealous since he’s feeling shy by his feelings.

If you’re worried that it’s because he’s been seeing someone else, don’t be.

He’s actually focusing on you and doesn’t even care to mention any of the women who are a part of his life.

If you ask him about this woman from his past, he will automatically say that he hasn’t contacted her or heard from her for quite some time now.

This only shows that he has his eyes only set on you.

10) He cares about what you think and feel

The truth is, your guy friend is falling for you if he cares about how you really feel.

He will ask you how your day went, or how the last party that he invited you to went. He wants to know whether or not it was fun for you since he knows that it’s important for him to make sure that his friends are happy.

This shows just how much consideration your guy friend has when it comes down to what others think of him and his friends. He will listen to you for hours if you want to talk about something. He wants to know what’s going on in your life and how he can help you out.

Best of all, he wants to protect you from any negative influences in life.

To add, he cares about your future success – he may not say it, but he wants the best for you.

He will ask you what your plans are for the weekend and whether or not you have any ideas of where to go on your next vacation.

He will also call you a lot more than usual and make sure that you’re doing okay.

11) He’s interested in your problems and listens to them

You will see that he wants to know all about your problems.

It may seem a bit odd, but he actually wants to know from an emotional, not physical, standpoint.

He wants to listen to you talk about how you feel about certain things that are happening in your life. He may start to offer you advice, but he won’t impose it on you.

No wonder he won’t get tired hearing you out.

He’s trying to comfort you and let you know that he cares about everything that goes on in your life. If you’re being emotional about something, he’s not bothered by it. He wants to help you without waiting for anything in return.

12) He asks for advice from you, too

If your guy friend is coming up to you about something, it’s because he wants some advice regarding the situation specifically from you.

He trusts you, so he comes up with the perfect question to get some actionable advice from you. He wants to show you that he appreciates your opinion and knows exactly what he’s going to do with the information that you give him.

Some guys can be pretty bad at taking advice from a girl, but not your guy friend.

He values the opinions of his friends and is always looking for ways to improve himself. He may even ask for your opinion about a new job offer or how to handle a situation in his family.

Think of this: He will definitely fall for you even more if he knows that you’re willing to be a shoulder to lean on for him.

13) He’s taking you everywhere with him

You’ve finally been able to spend enough time in your guy friend’s car.

He was driving you around, and now he wants you to join him wherever he goes.

He feels comfortable enough with you to take full responsibility for getting from point A to point B without causing any other issues on the way. Before, he would just give you a ride to your destination, but now he’s taking you on the little errands that he needs to.

And when you’re already driving around, he might put on some romantic songs to match the atmosphere, or better yet – he has a playlist of the songs you like ready.

What a romantic!

If you’re his best friend, why wouldn’t you want along for the ride?

14) He wants to show off his life to you

Your guy friend has always been the quiet one when it comes to his relationships with women.

He never wants to brag about the one-night stands that he’s had, or how he got all of these girls at once. He’s more focused on making sure that other people are doing okay and being a good friend than showing off everything good in his life.

Recently, however, he wants to show off his life to you. Instead of bragging about things that have happened to him in the past, he’s actually doing more to show off his life to you. He wants you to see where he’s going and what he’s getting into today.

These acts are his way of trying to impress you more.

He’ll even let go of little details that most people don’t care about just so that he can show off how great his life is turning out.

15) He prefers your company over others

Your guy friend wants to spend more time with you than with other people. That alone should be a huge, shining clue that he’s falling for you.

It shows just how much he cares about your friendship and how much he desires that you’re around him. He has his circle of friends, and they will always remain important to him, but if he can’t hang out with them as often as he would like, that’s fine since he will definitely want to see you again.

Simply put, he wants to see you at the end of the day after a long day at work or school more than he wants to see his friends.

That’s because he knows that you’re there for him when he needs you to be and he wants to come back to a place where he feels safe and accepted.

16) He gives you compliments

You know what it’s like to give someone a compliment.

It’s always great to have some positive words directed your way, and when your guy friend is giving them to you, it often feels even more special.

He will tell you how much your smile brightens his day, or that he can’t help but notice how you look beautiful on your shirt and jeans.

Of course, he doesn’t just come right out and say something like that. He actually gets a lot of satisfaction out of giving you compliments without being too obvious about it. He uses little details in his daily routine to tell you that your beauty is something he notices every time he looks at you.

Prepare yourself to be showered with compliments because, even though he rarely tells you straight out about it, this is definitely one of the ways that he knows how much he’s falling for you.

17) He makes you laugh

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You two were just laughing about how weird you two are. You have a few inside jokes that can be pretty corny, but they always lead to a good laugh.

Now that he’s trying to impress you, he’s going to make sure that you’re laughing with him.

Your laugh is more than just a way to relieve stress that’s he’s feeling.

Your laugh makes him feel validated in all the things that he does for himself. It lets him know that your time together is valuable, and it means he has to put in more effort towards making sure you have a good time too.

He’ll probably start doing little things to make sure that he keeps you laughing.

Even if it means making fun of himself, he’ll do it – just so that you don’t stop laughing with him and feel uncomfortable when you guys are together.

18) He’s starting to flirt with you more

Flirting is something that many people use to test the waters.

Do they want to talk to this person, or was it just a friendly gesture?

Flirting is one of the best ways to figure out whether or not you two would be good together as a couple.

It’s easy for guys to flirt with girls because it’s a natural thing for them. When it comes to your guy friend, however, he might not want to do it at first because he doesn’t want you to take it the wrong way.

He’ll let his guard down as he feels more comfortable with you. He might even forget what flirting means sometimes.

You can tell when he’s flirting with you by looking out for any of these signs:

  • He’s trying to keep his eyes on yours instead of looking away while talking – like the old times.
  • He’s trying to get that cute smile from you.
  • He goes out of his way to send you cute messages or texts.
  • He lets go of the usual topics that he knows you two talk about, and instead tries to learn more about who you are as a person.
  • He wants to know more about your dating history so he can learn how to better approach you.

Flirting is a means for him to prove that he wants something more than just a friendship with you. It’s a strong way of showing that he wants to get to know you as a person and find out if you’re the one for him.

19) He’s being more affectionate

Your guy friend is starting to get a little handsy with you.

He wants to come up and give you a hug or put an arm around you so that he can be closer when you guys are together. He might even ask for hugs from time to time. It might seem innocent, but it’s a big step for him.

This is the first thing that guys do when they have feelings for someone. He wants to get physical with you because he wants you to know that you’re special to him.

He also knows how to make you feel more comfortable with his little gestures of affection, and he hopes that these things will make you feel good about him as a whole. He also knows that affection makes you feel good and you appreciate it.

If he can show you that he loves your friendship, then maybe he’ll have a chance at making things even better, right?

More than physical, he also does thoughtful gestures for you without being asked.

His affection for you is the result of his growing feelings for you, and he’s doing everything he can to show you that.

20) He is all over your social media

Take this with a grain of salt, but some guys do show their affection in a way that they might not to in real life.

For example, he might want to send you a sweet message or tell you how your hair looks in the sun, but he might not want to do it in person. This is a convenient way to show you how he feels and make sure that he doesn’t upset you by saying those things face-to-face.

Besides that, he is also trying to get your attention online – maybe he wants to make sure that you notice him and give him a chance. He knows he’s been acting different, and he hopes that his social media updates will get your attention.

He will leave comments on your posts, tag you to a funny meme or a sweet quote, and he will definitely react (a like or a heart) to your photos.

So, if your guy friend is all over your social media feeds, it might be the best time to talk to him about everything that’s been happening between the two of you.

21) He doesn’t want you to call him friendly pet names

Nicknames such as “bro” or “dude” could absolutely mean nothing, but they could also mean a lot.

If you’re giving him a friend-zoned-kind of nickname, he will definitely protest (though silently) since he doesn’t want to stay just friends with you.

He’s trying to show you that your relationship is changing and there’s a good chance that things between you two will start to change as well. He wants you to take him seriously and treat him like a man – not like one of your guy friends.

He knows that he’s going to have to work a lot harder in order for him to make sure that he has a chance with you.

22) You feel loved, respected, and valued in his presence

When you’re with your guy friend, he will be very respectful of you.

He will never make jokes about your physical appearance or anything that might offend you. He will listen to your opinions and respect your thoughts.

He will value you for who you are, and for the things that you have to say. He doesn’t want to waste his time with anyone that doesn’t make him feel the same way.

If he’s putting in all this effort because he wants a chance with you, you’ll know that he values more than just your friendship.

It’s like he’s trying to prove that he’s a good guy, and he wants you to see that side of him.

23) Your chemistry is on fire!

You can feel the heat between you two, so he tries to avoid any physical contact with you.

He doesn’t want to lose control of himself and let his feelings for you get in the way of your friendship. But one day, he gives in and lets you hold his hand.

He realizes that he can’t deny his feelings for you any longer, so he sees no harm in letting the two of you enjoy each other’s company.

If this is what’s happening between the two of you, know that your guy friend is falling for you. He wants to express his feelings for you and nothing will hold him back from telling you how much he loves you.

24) He’s finally revealed his true feelings towards you

If your guy friend has been trying to show you how much he wants to impress you, then it’s probably because he really likes you.

Finally, he might have realized that it’s time to open up his heart and let himself feel vulnerable around you.

He’s finally revealed that there might be something more than just friendship between the two of you, and now it’s time to see if you feel the same way.

If you can tell that he has feelings for you, then it’s definitely time to talk to him about it and see what’s going on between the two of you.

Final words

These are just some of the signs that will tell you whether or not your guy friend is falling for you.

It’s best to get to know him properly before you either make a move on him or tell him how you feel about him.

He might be a little reserved at first, but he’ll definitely become more open around you over time if he really does like you.

Just be friendly, be you and start small – just enjoy this exciting ride.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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