How to tell if a woman has multiple partners: 12 surprising signs to look for

Are you wondering whether the woman you are seeing is dating multiple people?

Being exclusive is not always the norm nowadays, so it can get tricky to find out whether you are the only person dating your partner.

Here are 12 signs to look out for whether a woman is dating multiple people

1) She is secretive about her phone

If a woman has her phone on her at all times and never lets it out of her sight, she may be trying to hide the fact that she is dating multiple people

You see, this one can get tricky.

When you ask a woman for access to her phone, you’d think if she has nothing to hide, she’d be more than willing to share it with you, right?

Well, technically you’re not wrong, but a lot of the time, this kind of behavior might remind women of a controlling and toxic ex who used to snoop through all of their things.

In that case, she might have nothing to hide and just wants to avoid this kind of behavior.

However, there is a way you can spot this sign:

If she constantly tries to avoid letting you use or even see her phone, then it may be a sign that she is hiding something.

For example, you ask her if you can google something on her phone real quick, there is really no logical reason why she would have a problem with that, except if she’s worried a certain someone might text her.

2) She may not text you back

If your partner is dating multiple people, she may not text you back as quickly as she would if she was only dating you.

Maybe she is spending time with the other guy and that’s why it takes her forever to get back to you.

Or maybe because she is texting other people, she doesn’t want to text you back right away.

It’s possible that she may be trying to keep you on the edge of your seat while waiting for her to reply.

The fact that she is dating multiple people already shows a lack of respect for you and this behavior can also be a form of manipulation.

However, if this is the only sign you notice, don’t think too much about it.

A lot of people just don’t like texting a lot and will take forever to reply, even though they like the person they are with and are exclusive with them.

This sign applies mostly if you are noticing a lot of other signs on top of it all.

3) She invites you over at odd hours or last minute

If your partner always invites you over at odd hours or last minute, it may be a sign that she has someone else on the side, and that if things go sour with that person, she will have you as a backup.

This could mean that her other guy is busy and has no time for her, so she has to settle for seeing you instead.

Or this is the only time the other guy is not with her, which is why she is reaching out to you now.

Whether it’s a man or a woman, if someone only reaches out to you at ungodly hours and never wants to hang out at reasonable times during the day, chances are they are not very serious about dating you.

Think about it: when you like someone, you enjoy planning actual dates and doing fun things together, not just late-night meetups.

4) She doesn’t have time for you

If she doesn’t have any time for you, it’s a sure sign that she is dating multiple people.

This can be because she’s busy seeing her other partners or because her other suitors are more important to her.

Either way, this is a big sign that your partner has other people in their life.

Now: this one could be completely innocent, to be honest.

Maybe she has a lot to do at work, or something came up with her family.

However, if all of a sudden she keeps saying she has no time, without giving you a proper reason why or an explanation, it could be because she has multiple partners.

Or maybe not.

The worst scenario is that she doesn’t want to have time for you while she’s not dating anyone else.

And this case, getting to the root of the issue might help you figure out why she avoids spending time with you.

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5) She is a party girl and loves to go out

If she is always up for a party and meeting new people, there’s a good chance she is dating multiple people.

This can be the case if she has a very active lifestyle and likes to have fun with friends.

She may even constantly post pictures of her out on the town with other people that you don’t know.

Now: just because she is a party girl doesn’t mean that she is dating multiple people, of course, but the chances are definitely higher.

Perhaps she isn’t dating other guys and simply likes to have fun if you know what I mean.

This is especially true if she never really wants you to tag along when she goes out.

You see, when a girl is dating someone, she usually likes having them around, even when she goes out.

6) She admits to having a boyfriend in another city

If a girl admits to having a boyfriend in another city, there is a pretty good chance that that’s not the only one.

Think about it: if she’s in a polygamous relationship, what makes you think you’re the only other person she is dating?

Chances are, she has multiple other boyfriends that you don’t know about.

When this happens to you, it’s really up to you to decide what you want to do about it.

One thing you should remember is that you shouldn’t even try to change her or convince her that you are “the one”.

When someone is in a polygamous relationship, you are either fully on board with the idea, or you will only end up suffering unnecessarily.

Trust me, if you agree to date her, thinking she will change her mind and choose you over everyone else, that will only leave your heart broken in the end.


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7) She likes to drink a lot

Granted, this sign is a little out there, but it’s still something to look out for.

When a woman drinks a lot of alcohol, her chances of being unfaithful are definitely higher.

This is because alcohol lowers your threshold of what you would do.

In other words, alcohol can also make you more uninhibited and flirtatious.

If you notice that the woman you are dating drinks a lot, it could be an indicator that she is dating multiple people.

This could be because she is unhappy with her current relationship, or she might not know who to commit to.

Again, this sign alone might not say a lot, but if you notice this behavior in combination with other signs, you will get more clarity.

8) She has a lot of male friends

One of the most obvious signs that a woman is dating more than one person is if she has a lot of male friends.

She might keep you at arm’s length and only be interested in meeting up when it’s convenient for her, or she might just be really friendly with all her guy friends.

If you can’t remember the last time she introduced you to any of them, there may be some truth to this suspicion.

Now: having male friends doesn’t mean you are automatically unfaithful.

However, when you know she has male friends but she never introduces you to them, that’s when things can get tricky.

In my own experience, there is nothing speaking against letting your male friends meet your boyfriend.

On the contrary, I’ve found it really helps with easing my boyfriend’s mind about me spending time with them.

So: if she never lets you meet her male friends, maybe you should talk to her about it and ask if you could meet them.

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If she doesn’t want you to – that might be a red flag.

9) You never talk about a future together

If you never talk about your future together, there’s a good chance she is dating other people.

After all, it’s hard to have the same long-term goals if you’re not exclusive.

If you are dating a woman who doesn’t talk about the future, it could also be a sign that she is not really interested in you.

This is because people who are interested in you want to know what they could expect from the relationship.

If she never talks about what her life would be in the future like if she was with you, it might be an indication that she has no intention of committing to you.

Of course, the reason for that could also be that she generally has commitment issues and is scared of thinking about a future together.

In that case, communication can go a really long way.

10) She goes out with her girlfriends at least once a week, if not more

One of the more common signs she’s dating multiple people is if a woman goes out with her girlfriends at least once a week, if not more.

When you call her out on her behavior, she will deny dating multiple people and try to play it off.

Of course, she might just enjoy going out, but if she never invites you to go out with her, the might raise some suspicions.

Ask her if she would mind if you joined her and talk openly about your worries.

11) She gets texts

Another sign is if you see your partner getting texts from other men.

If you notice that there are new phone numbers popping up on your partner’s phone, then it could be because she is texting with other people.

You see, when she reacts strongly when you ask her whether she is talking to another guy, then it can also be one of the signs that your partner dates multiple people.

The thing is, if someone is texting your partner as a friend, there is no reason for her to freak out when you ask about it.

This could be a sign that she is dating multiple people and that you should talk to her about it.

If she doesn’t want to talk about the issue, then you need to find out what’s going on.

12) You’ve never met any of her friends or family

If you have not met any of the woman’s friends or family, it could be an indication she is dating multiple people.

This seems an odd thing to do but some women like to be with a few guys at the same time. We live in a strange world.

There might be one main boyfriend who knows her friends and family, and the other guys are just “on the side”.

So, if your partner doesn’t make any effort to introduce you to friends or family, that’s a major red flag.

Maybe there are other reasons why she is holding back from introducing you, so talking about it with her is probably the best way to go about this.

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Communicate, communicate, communicate

You’ve just learned a lot of different signs that a woman might be dating multiple people.

The thing is, almost all of these signs on their own don’t mean a lot.

Only when they start piling up on top of one another is when you probably get a bit worried.

My biggest tip?


Voice your concerns, tell your partner that you feel like you might not be the only person she is dating.

Then you can come up with a plan on how to deal with the issue.

Sometimes, we’re afraid to ask something because deep down we already know the answer.

But you shouldn’t be afraid to find out!

Think about it: the best-case scenario is that you openly talk about it and you realize that there was nothing to be worried about in the first place.

The worst-case scenario is that you realize that your partner is not being unfaithful and now you get the chance to work it out or move on to be with someone who respects you more.

Those are not bad odds, are they?

It’s not easy, but you deserve to know the truth.

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Anna Scheucher

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