How to seduce an older woman if you’re a much younger guy

So, you’re thinking about dating an older woman? Welcome to the club!

Take it from me, dating older women can be exciting, nerve-wracking, and a whole lot of awesome.

Older women tend to be more confident and know exactly what they want from life. They’re also usually a little bit wiser and more experienced in the ways of love!

If you’ve got your sights set on an older woman, then read on for some dating tips that will help you seduce her.

1) Be confident

If you want to attract an older woman, you’ll need to exude confidence.

In fact, women of all ages find confidence extremely attractive. The only problem is that it can be very difficult to be confident if you’re not very experienced. If you’re a younger man who has never had much luck dating women, then you may be lacking in the confidence department.

There are a few things you can do to build your confidence and make yourself more attractive to older women.

The first thing you should do is practice talking to women. Go out with your friends and go up to girls you meet and practice flirting. This will help prepare you for your older woman.

Another thing to boost your confidence (although it’s not going to work overnight) is to start working out. Exercising is a great way to boost your self-esteem and make you feel good about yourself.

If you want to take things a step further, you can watch this free video by relationship expert Kate Spring. She’s helped thousands of men find their confidence.

She’ll help you understand what women want and will teach you to approach that amazing woman you think is out of your league.

So what are you waiting for? Watch the free video now and you’ll be a step closer to seducing that older woman that you like.

2) Don’t be afraid to be yourself

If you’re looking to date an older woman, then you have to be honest about who you are and what you want out of life.

While an older woman might be able to teach you a lot about life, you should never try to be something that you’re not.

If you want to date an older woman, but you aren’t interested in pursuing a serious relationship, that’s perfectly fine. You should never try to change who you are because it’s what someone else wants.

Don’t let ageism or stereotypes put you in a box. Dating is about finding someone you click with, not finding someone whose age meets a certain requirement.

3) Dress with style

Jeans and a hoody might pass with girls your age, but older women appreciate men who take the time to dress well.

Good grooming and stylish clothing can go a long way in creating attraction, even if she is older than you.

Don’t overdo it though. You don’t have to wear a suit and tie to take her out for coffee!

Think: Smart-casual.

4) Take your time and get to know her

Older women are more confident than younger women, but that doesn’t mean you should jump straight into sex.

Instead, you should take your time and build a relationship with her.

If you’re interested in dating an older woman, then you should definitely be upfront about your intentions.

Let her know that you’re interested in dating her and that you’d like to take things slow and get to know each other better before anything physical happens between you two.

Don’t let your eagerness to jump into bed with her get in the way of dating her like a normal person.

You should still respect her, take her on dates and treat her like an equal.

5) Be attentive

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Older women are used to dating men who are eager to please them, but who aren’t really interested in hearing what they have to say.

If you’re serious about dating an older woman, then you need to be attentive to how she’s feeling and what she needs from you.

Don’t just take her out to restaurants. Take an interest in her hobbies and find out what she’s passionate about. Maybe she’s into art and you could take her to a museum or an exhibition.

Or maybe she really likes jazz and you can take her to a cold underground bar for a jam session.

These are great ways to show her that you like her.

6) Go easy on the gifts

If you want to date an older woman, it’s a good idea to stay away from expensive gifts.

Sure, she’s probably loved and dated some great guys in the past, but now that you’re interested in her, you need to let her know that you’re not out to buy her love.

Most older women want to be with a man who loves them for who they are, not because they can buy them expensive gifts.

If you really want to impress an older woman, open up your heart and not your wallet.

That said, you don’t want to appear cheap. When the occasion calls for it, don’t be shy with your money. Just remember, it’s not what will win her over.

7) Tell her how attractive you find her

Older women are not as insecure as younger women, but they may wonder why you’d want to date someone older instead of someone your own age.

You need to make her understand just how attractive she is to you. She needs to know that you’d rather be with her than a younger woman.

Tell her how beautiful and sophisticated she is.

Tell her how sexy she is. Tell her that she’s driving you crazy with desire!

8) Don’t give up if you get rejected

First dates are nerve-wracking for everyone, but especially for younger men who are trying to date older women.

If you’re interested in dating an older woman and it doesn’t go well, then don’t give up. Don’t let one bad experience hold you back.

Dating is all about trying and occasionally failing. The only way you’ll ever get better at dating is if you keep trying and don’t let rejection get you down.

This goes back to what I was saying earlier about understanding women. I know that now it may seem like a daunting task, but all it takes is experience and someone like Kate to can show you the way.

If your first date didn’t go well, watch Kate’s free video and learn some techniques that will guarantee your second date is a success.

Here’s a link to the free video once again.

9) Have a plan before the date

One of the best ways to impress an older woman on a first date is to have a plan for the date.

Before you go on the date, jot down a few ideas for things that you’d like to do. Make sure that the date is something that she’ll enjoy, but also something that you’re comfortable with.

Don’t take her somewhere like the opera if it’s something you don’t like or don’t find interesting. You want to make sure that you do something that you can both enjoy and that you can bond over.

10) Take her out to dinner

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Dinner is the classic first date.

It’s an easy activity that doesn’t require much effort or preparation on your part while still being romantic. You can choose a wide variety of restaurants depending on what kind of food she likes and how much you want to spend on the date.

Depending on how the night goes, you may want to end your first date with a kiss.

If you want to go for the kiss but you’re not sure if she’s ready for it, try ending the date early. If the date is going really well, then ask her if she’d like to go somewhere else for a drink. If she accepts, then you’ve got an excellent opportunity to go in for the kiss while you’re still on the date.

11) Be a gentleman – always!

Whether you’re dating a younger woman or an older one, remember to always be a gentleman.

Older women have probably dated some pretty bad boys in the past, and they’re probably a little bit sick of that. They want to date a man, not a boy.

If you want to date an older woman, you need to be a man. You want to show her that you are a gentleman in every way.

That means you stand up when she enters the room, open the door for her, pull out her chair if she’s dining with you, and treat her like the queen that she is.

12) Show her you’re proud to have her by your side

If you want to date an older woman, then you need to show her that you’re proud to be with her.

Depending on how big the age difference between the two of you is, she may be a little hesitant to go out with you. She may think you’ll feel embarrassed to be seen with her – I mean, what if someone thinks she’s your mother?

That’s why you have to reassure her. Show her that you’re proud to have her by your side.

And if you run into someone you know, be sure to introduce her as your date. She needs to know that you’re serious about her.

13) Don’t drop the L-bomb too soon

Listen very carefully: If you want to date an older woman, you need to make sure you don’t drop the L-bomb too soon.

Trust me, this is a mistake that lots of younger guys make when they start dating an older woman, and it can really backfire.

Don’t jump straight into talking about how much you love her when you first start dating.

Instead, focus on getting to know her, being present, and having a good time together. Let her get to know you.

Trust me, you’re not ready to talk about love when you first start dating someone.

You’re young and infatuated and think you’re in love. But she’s been around the block a few times and doesn’t fall in love that easily. She needs more time to get to know someone before she even starts to think about love.

In short: If you’re really feeling the love, be careful not to scare her off by telling her too soon.

14) Use your manners and be respectful of her boundaries

If you want to date an older woman, you need to respect her boundaries.

You might be feeling a bit full of yourself and think that you can get away with anything, but believe me, you can’t.

Whoever you’re dating, you need to respect their boundaries.

That means not trying to rush them into anything, not touching them in ways they don’t want to be touched, and not talking to them about things they don’t want to talk about.

Remember, be a gentleman.

Bottom line

Dating older women can be fantastic and you shouldn’t let society’s pre-conceived ideas about dating someone older hold you back from dating the woman you want.

If you want to go out with an older woman, then it’s up to you to make it happen. The best way to do that is to be confident in yourself, and give out the right signals.

This is another thing I learned from Kate Spring.

I thought women liked assholes, but it’s actually the confidence they give off that attracts them.

If you want to know how to show your confidence and how to give out the right signals to attract her, be sure to check out this free video now.

Clifton Kopp

Clifton Kopp

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