How to seduce a younger woman if you’re a much older guy

You can’t always control who you feel attracted to.

And if you’re an older gentleman, chances are your tastes in women probably skew towards slightly younger partners.

And why not – if the opportunity presents itself, it may be worth exploring whether there could be compatibility with a younger woman.

Although, this could present its challenges – especially if you’re significantly older than her.

But don’t worry, with today’s tips, you’ll be able to seduce a younger woman, no matter your age!

1) Use your emotional maturity to your advantage

Like we said earlier, you’re probably going to be older than your potential partner. And if you’re a significantly older man, your age can put a real strain on any relationship.

And it’s here that your emotional maturity will come in handy.

This is because younger women tend to be more impulsive in their behavior.

As a result, they may make decisions without fully considering their consequences.

Older men, on the other hand, generally have a better grasp on their emotions. As a result, they can usually keep a cool head when things start to get heated.

But this is not just about impulsive behavior.

You see, when you want to seduce a younger woman, you need to get really realistic.

The men her age are probably physically more attractive. They are younger and maybe healthier, so what can you offer, what do you bring to the table that she is missing from them?

More often than not, that’s emotional maturity.

Think about it: Chad from next door is probably not very mature, which means that she will have unnecessary fights with him, feel unheard and disrespected.

But you, as an older man, you see things differently.

You are emotionally mature, and that means that you will have a different view on things; her feelings will be more important to you.

Most importantly, you will be able to understand her a bit better.

This will be so ground-breaking for her that she will love being with you.

Trust me, for women, emotional attraction is much more important than physical attraction.

Now: a word for the wise: just because you’re older doesn’t mean you’re emotionally mature. There, I said it.

If you really want to seduce a younger woman, research emotional maturity. Read into attachment styles. Understand your own trauma and love languages.

When you become emotionally intelligent, she will love you.

Of course, there are other ways to convince her to be with you:

2) Help her out financially and spoil her

This seems to be a classic idea in this sort of relationship dynamic, and for good reason.

While you’re likely still working, your partner may be either in school or struggling to find good employment.

Since you are much older, you are probably a lot more established in your career and earn a lot more money than her.

As a result, you can probably afford to spoil her.

This doesn’t mean only buying expensive things for her every week. It can simply mean buying her small gifts, like chocolates or flowers, when you see her.

It also means making reservations at expensive restaurants and helping her out financially if she needs it; the goal of this is not to buy into this relationship, but rather to make your partner happy because she feels supported by you.

You see, for a woman, having a provider is very attractive. That doesn’t mean she is your sugar baby or that she only loves you for your money, but having a man support her emotionally, physically and financially is a very attractive thing for a woman.

It makes them feel cherished and loved, which can make the whole relationship easier.

Again, this doesn’t need to be about any expensive gifts or anything like that.

Simply invite her to dinner or help her out a bit when she is struggling.

Of course, you can take this as far as you want, spoiling her a bit, too.

In the end, this is where you have a leg up on a lot of young guys who are just starting out in their careers.

But that’s not what women are looking for anyway. They are just looking for someone who they can trust, who will make them feel like they have it all together, and that they can rely on him to provide for them emotionally and financially.

But it’s not all about money:

3) Chivalry and class are a lost art form that will seduce younger women

If you’ve been around the dating block once or twice, you’ve probably noticed that chivalry is somewhat of a lost art form.

In fact, you may have been a little surprised to find that the traditional gestures of romance that your parents or you used to do no longer exist.

This is because the dating scene has changed a great deal over the past few decades. And with it, a lot of the courtesies that people once took for granted are now a thing of the past.

Chivalry can’t be turned on or off like a switch, however. It’s an integral part of who you are as a person.

And if you can coax it back to life, it can be one of the most powerful seduction techniques on the planet.

You see, all these young guys who want to seduce younger women usually rely on the worst manners, like asking her to come over at 1am to watch a movie.

The good news?

Women love a man who can meet their high standards.

That means if you bring back chivalry, you can easily seduce a younger woman because she simply isn’t used to being treated this well, sadly.

What does that mean?

Well, you could take the lead and make dinner reservations at a restaurant for the two of you.

To the date, you could bring flowers and you can offer to pick her up or accompany her back home so you know she’s safe.

The point is, you make her feel like a lady and she will fall in love with you.

It’s not rocket science, it’s simply being a gentleman.

In a world full of fuckboys, finding a gentleman will make a young woman swoon, no matter your age!

Speaking of making her swoon, make sure to give her some space, too:

4) Leave her some freedom

While you’re likely to be a lot more mature than your younger lover, you don’t want to leave her feeling stifled in the relationship.

After all, companionship is about more than just being there for your partner. It’s also about giving each other the freedom to be who they are.

This means you should try to leave some space for your partner to be who she is.

This could range from giving her the freedom to decide when she wants to be in a relationship to letting her do the hobbies she loves without feeling judged.

But that also means not flooding her with attention all the time.

If you want to seduce a younger woman, you need to find a good balance between showing your interest and giving her some time and space to breathe.

Young women don’t want to feel “shackled up” right away, so give her some room.

At the same time, you should be there when she needs you:

5) Be a stable rock for her

If you’re dating a younger woman, you may soon discover that she’s still in the process of building her life.

She may be building her career, trying to get through school, or dealing with other aspects of adulthood.

If you’re an older man, you can use your experience to be a rock for her as she builds her life.

You can help her navigate the difficulties of becoming a grown-up without being overbearing or cramping her style.

You see, you can offer advice when she asks for it, or simply be the constant in her life that she can rely on.

This means you can be the stable force in her life as she tries to build her world.

In essence, you are building a relationship that allows you to grow with one another rather than growing apart.

The best part is, this doesn’t require either of you to change your personality or give up your hobbies or interests.

Simply use your age to become a rock for her to rely on.

Now: your physical appearance is not the most important aspect here, but it’s still important:

6) Keep yourself healthy and agile

If you’re dating a younger woman, you may be concerned that your age will become a problem as the relationship progresses.

As you get older, you’ll probably become less agile and healthy than you were in your younger years.

This can lead to you becoming afraid of moving around and doing the activities you love.

But if you keep yourself healthy, fit, and active, you can minimize these issues.

You can also show your potential partner that you’re a healthy individual who can sustain a long-term relationship.

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You see, when it comes to seducing a younger woman, you can’t hide your age.

I also wouldn’t recommend it – that seems a bit desperate.

Instead, embrace your age, while still showing that you take incredibly good care of yourself.

Make sure you eat nutritious food, work out, and just stay someone who can keep up with a younger woman.

Again, this is not about looking a certain way, this is about showing her that you don’t have one foot in the grave already, to put it bluntly.

Show her that there is plenty of life left in you and that you are healthy and strong.

Speaking of being strong:

7) Be a little dominant

While you may want to be a stable and healthy individual for your partner, you also want to leave her with a little bit of uncertainty.

This is because uncertainty is what drives passion and excitement in a relationship.

Without some uncertainty, your relationship is likely to get stale very quickly and lose its spark.

One way to add a little bit of uncertainty to your relationship is to be a little bit dominant.

This doesn’t mean you have to be controlling or abusive. Instead, it just means you have a little bit of an edge to you.

You can be a little dominant in the way you walk, talk, and even in the way you treat your partner.

Now, I won’t lie, it’s difficult to find the right balance between being dominant and being a pushover.

However, if you find the right balance, you can show your partner that you’re not someone she should mess with.

In doing so, you will make yourself appear more confident and appealing to her.

Trust me, a slightly dominant older man is very attractive to a young woman.

This brings me to my next point:

8) Be confident without being creepy

As you’re likely a little bit older than your partner, you may want to be careful not to come across as being creepy.

This is especially true if you haven’t been dating for very long.

While it’s important to be confident in your relationship, you should avoid coming across as being too forward or aggressive.

You should also be careful not to scare your partner off by being too clingy.

This could lead to your partner feeling uncomfortable in the relationship and her wanting to break things off before they’ve even had a chance to begin.

You see, especially for young women, they deal with a lot of creeps on the daily.

Don’t stare at her body for too long, don’t say anything creepy, simply focus on being a confident gentleman, and she’ll probably prefer that over anything else.

Now, speaking of being creepy, nothing is creepier than someone who pretends to be something they’re not:

9) Don’t act like you’re young – use your age to your advantage

If you’re dating a younger woman, it’s likely that you’ve noticed some of the challenges that come with the age gap.

There will likely be some raised eyebrows and curious glances as your relationship becomes public knowledge.

This could leave you feeling like you have to prove yourself as an individual. Or you could feel pressured to make your relationship work regardless of whether it’s actually viable.

The best way to deal with this is to use your age to your advantage.

This means that you should use your age to draw upon your experience and offer guidance and wisdom to your partner as she tries to navigate life.

Trying to act like you are younger than you really are will not help you in seducing a younger woman – she will see right through it and it will be unattractive.

Instead, embrace your experience and your knowledge and let it guide your younger partner through the difficulties of life.

Your age brings lots of advantages to a younger woman, you don’t need to pretend to be anyone else, trust me!

And lastly:

10) Go with the flow and don’t force things to happen

As you’re dating a younger woman, it’s important that you go with the flow. This means you should be careful not to push your partner into doing anything before she’s ready.

It’s important to remember that your partner is likely still discovering who she is and what she wants from life.

As a result, she’s likely to be in no hurry to jump into a serious relationship. Instead, she’s likely to be enjoying the freedom that comes with being single.

By going with the flow and not trying to force things to happen, you can help your relationship to develop naturally.

This means you can avoid coming across as being too eager. And it also gives your partner time to decide whether she wants to be in a serious relationship with you.

Final thoughts: be who you are

Finally, my biggest tip is to simply be who you are.

Don’t pretend to be anything other than yourself.

If you use these tips I’ve given you, I promise that you will be able to seduce a younger woman, even if it doesn’t work on the first try.

Younger women want stability and being cared for, something a lot of young men are too immature to offer.

So, go ahead and give them what they want!

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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