How to seduce a married man over text

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Now I know this topic is morally questionable, but maybe you’re into a married man. You want to make a move and you’re wondering how you could seduce him through text.

I’ve got some pretty effective examples below.

1) Start with a funny text

Since he’s a married man, you wouldn’t want to go straight for the attack. It’ll be good to play around with a funny text, such as this one:

“Do you know how much do penguins weigh? Enough to break the ice. Hello!”

And since this is more of a dad joke, I’m sure he’ll respond to you right away!

2) Trigger his hero instinct

Another way to seduce a married man is to send him texts that trigger his ‘hero instinct’.

One such example is to text him with “I need help with something.”

You see, this concept – the hero instinct – underscores what really drives men in relationships.

At first, it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives.

This is deeply rooted in male biology.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

3) Compliment his looks…

Everybody wants to be complimented. This is especially the case for married men, who may not be getting compliments for their wives the same way they used to.

That being said, one of the best ways to seduce a married man is to send him texts of praise. Good examples include:

“You looked dashing while you were presenting!”

“Your new haircut looks super!”

“I like your clean-shaven look!”

4) …as well as his qualities

It’s not enough that you compliment a married man on how he looks. If you want to appeal to his heart, then you need to gush about his great qualities as well.

Wives often forget about these, after all.

For example, you could text him:

“I don’t know how you do it, but you always know exactly what to say when the boss is acting up.”

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“No matter what happens at work, you always take the time to listen to what I have to say.”

“You work harder than anyone I know. Boy, your wife is lucky!”

5) Think convenience

Even if a married man likes you back, he may not give in to your texts if the location is out of his way. If you want him to say yes to your text invites, then you need to think about convenience.

For example, if you’re planning a ‘group’ post-office coffee date, then it’ll help if you do it in a place that he’ll probably pass along on the way home.

“Hey, we’re having a coffee run after work at (insert coffee shop here) with (officemates’ names here.) I think you pass by there every time? Hoping you could come!”

6) Send him a ‘special’ infatuation script

If you want to make a married man completely infatuated with you, then you need to send him the right kind of text.

As relationship expert Clayton Max puts it, if you want to get through to a guy, you can’t just convince him to be with you.

You have to appeal to his deep, primal instincts.

And yes, the easiest way to do this is by sending several powerful texts, which you can get by watching this free video.

7) Appeal to his interests

You probably know this man’s hobbies and interests. So if you plan on seducing him, you need to use this knowledge to your advantage.

Shoot him a text that’ll make him want to spend time with you.

“I’ll be hiking this coming weekend. Want to tag along?”

“We’re going to Comic-con next week. I have an extra ticket if you’re interested!”

8) Plan a group outing

If you want to be a subtle seducer, the best thing you could do is text him about a group outing.

“Hey! Some of our officemates plan to go camping this weekend. We only have one remaining slot though. Want to come?”

Notice the line ‘We only have one remaining slot though’? It’s to make sure that his wife won’t tag along.

That way, you get to make some moves without the wife around!

9) Put some pressure

Men – even the married ones – all have FOMO or the fear of missing out. So if you give him a deadline (aka put some teensy-weensy pressure on,) he’ll probably budge.

Messages that induce FOMO include:

“Ow. I’ll be leaving tomorrow, that’s why I was hoping to…”

“If you don’t come with us next week, we’ll probably be asking (name) to come instead…”

Final thoughts

By now you should have a good idea of how to seduce a married man over text.

And, if you want to succeed, you need to capitalize on the concept of the hero instinct.

I mentioned it earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

Written by Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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