How to seduce a married man over text

Now I know this topic is morally questionable, but maybe you’re into a married man. You want to make a move and you’re wondering how you could seduce him through text.

I’ve got some pretty effective examples below.

1) Start with a funny text

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Since he’s a married man, you wouldn’t want to go straight for the attack. It’ll be good to play around with a funny text, such as this one:

“Do you know how much do penguins weigh? Enough to break the ice. Hello!”

And since this is more of a dad joke, I’m sure he’ll respond to you right away!

2) Compliment his looks…

Everybody wants to be complimented. This is especially the case for married men, who may not be getting compliments for their wives the same way they used to.

That being said, one of the best ways to seduce a married man is to send him texts of praise. Good examples include:

“You looked dashing while you were presenting!”

“Your new haircut looks super!”

“I like your clean-shaven look!”

3) …as well as his qualities

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It’s not enough that you compliment a married man on how he looks. If you want to appeal to his heart, then you need to gush about his great qualities as well.

Wives often forget about these, after all.

For example, you could text him:

“I don’t know how you do it, but you always know exactly what to say when the boss is acting up.”

“No matter what happens at work, you always take the time to listen to what I have to say.”

“You work harder than anyone I know. Boy, your wife is lucky!”

4) Think convenience

Even if a married man likes you back, he may not give in to your texts if the location is out of his way. If you want him to say yes to your text invites, then you need to think about convenience.

For example, if you’re planning a ‘group’ post-office coffee date, then it’ll help if you do it in a place that he’ll probably pass along on the way home.

“Hey, we’re having a coffee run after work at (insert coffee shop here) with (officemates’ names here.) I think you pass by there every time? Hoping you could come!”

5) Appeal to his interests

You probably know this man’s hobbies and interests. So if you plan on seducing him, you need to use this knowledge to your advantage.

Shoot him a text that’ll make him want to spend time with you.

“I’ll be hiking this coming weekend. Want to tag along?”

“We’re going to Comic-con next week. I have an extra ticket if you’re interested!”

6) Plan a group outing

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If you want to be a subtle seducer, the best thing you could do is text him about a group outing.

“Hey! Some of our officemates plan to go camping this weekend. We only have one remaining slot though. Want to come?”

Notice the line ‘We only have one remaining slot though’? It’s to make sure that his wife won’t tag along.

That way, you get to make some moves without the wife around!

7) Put some pressure

Men – even the married ones – all have FOMO or the fear of missing out. So if you give him a deadline (aka put some teensy-weensy pressure on,) he’ll probably budge.

Messages that induce FOMO include:

“Ow. I’ll be leaving tomorrow, that’s why I was hoping to…”

“If you don’t come with us next week, we’ll probably be asking (name) to come instead…”

Final thoughts

By now you should have a good idea of how to seduce a married man over text.

And, if you want to succeed, you need to capitalize on the concept of the hero instinct.

I mentioned it earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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