How to seduce a coworker if you are a married woman

You’re a married woman who’s been on the job for a while now and you’ve grown increasingly attracted to one of your male coworkers.

Keep reading! Here are 6 tips on how to successfully seduce him.

Just a word of advice, make sure you’re 100% sure that this is something you truly want, or you might end up accidentally hurting your spouse’s feelings and ruining your family.

1) Use professional outings as an opportunity to get to know each other

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The first tip is to take part in social outings with your colleagues, but don’t let it seem like you’re flirting. Go for something that doesn’t have anything to do with work – like a sports night or movie night.

Here are some things you can do during these outings to show your coworker that you’re interested in getting to know him better:

  • Look directly at him when he’s talking.
  • Laugh at his jokes, even if they aren’t funny. Or just laugh in general.
  • Be positive and smile a lot – your natural positive attitude will take hold of him and before you know it, you’ll be smiling back at each other.
  • Be friendly to him. When he’s talking, reply to his questions or remarks that seem to be meaningful rather than just filling up space.

Pro tip:

Try to find common ground with him. If you’re both interested in the same hobby, then try to invite him to a social activity associated with your hobby. This way, you’re showing him that you’re interested in getting to know him better.

2) Establish a friendship before making any moves

Of course, you don’t want to go from 0 to 100 real quick. You’re a married woman and you have a reputation to protect.

That’s why it’s important that you don’t make any moves before establishing a friendship with this guy.

You can do that by being friendly but not flirtatious, by talking about things other than work as well as sharing small, private details about yourself – like your dreams and aspirations.

Want to know the best part?

Establishing a friendship with your coworker means that he’s more likely to open up to you, which is why it’s important to start the conversation in a way that doesn’t make him feel uncomfortabl

3) Find common interests outside of the workplace

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Once you’ve established a friendship, you can then start talking about the things that are most important to both of you.

For example, your coworker may have a hobby – such as sports or cars – that you can both enjoy. Then, share your love for these hobbies with him and get to know each other better through these shared interests.

You don’t want to make the first move though, because that would just make him feel uncomfortable. It’s best if he does that.

Once you get to know each other well enough, it’ll be easier for you to make the first move. Keep in mind that it has to be subtle and not too forward. That’s the only way he’ll know that you’re making a move in a romantic sense, rather than just trying to be friends with him.

4) Trigger his hero instinct

Trust me, every man has a hero instinct and he can’t help but feel attracted to women who trigger this instinct.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.

This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

5) Be upfront about your marital status

Another tip to seduce a coworker is to be upfront about your marital status.

You might think that this is a bad idea because you don’t want to scare him off. But it’s actually the opposite.

You can make it seem like you have problems with your marriage and that you’re thinking about leaving your spouse. This way, you won’t come across as threatening but more like the person who needs comfort and support.

If he senses that you’re unhappy with your marriage, he’ll be more sympathetic to what you have to say. You can then use this sympathy as fuel to flirt with him a bit more than usual.

Just remember that you can’t come across as desperate or needy.

6) Display your feminity

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The last tip is to display your feminity but in a subtle way.

You can do this by displaying some of the following things:

  • Your feminine side – your strong desire to look and dress feminine and your interest in fashion, beauty, or shopping.
  • Your love of romance and emotional connection – showing that you’re a romantic and want to tell each other intimate stories.
  • Your vulnerability – letting him know that you have problems and you’re unhappy with your life.

You may think that this will come across as desperate and needy, but it’s actually the opposite.

When he sees your feminine side, he’ll feel more protective of you and want to help you out. When he sees your vulnerability, it will trigger his hero instinct – which will make him even more protective of you and ultimately fall in love with you.

Final thoughts

We’ve covered 6 tips for seducing a coworker and the best thing about them is that they’re all completely natural.

All you have to do is be yourself.

But the best way is to bring out his inner hero. Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.

You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, all those emotional walls come down. He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.

And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.

So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video. 

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Thảo Anh Nguyễn

It is the little daily things that make life worth living and I know how to put you in the right perspective. I write about the intersection of life and love: how spirituality has changed my relationships, what I do to cultivate love in my life, and why I believe that all relationships are spiritual. Meet all your needs for your relationship and pieces of life advice with my articles.

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