How to save a relationship on the verge of breaking up

Relationships are like glass. 

Sometimes it’s harder to tell when they’ve been broken than when they are still in one piece, but when you know what to look for and how to handle them, relationships can be even more beautiful yet. 

Read this article as a guide on how to save your relationship that’s on the verge of breaking up.

1) Have more sex

It may sound pretty straightforward, but in fact couples on the verge of breaking up tend to limit having sex.

Maybe at that time both of them no longer have too many feelings for each other.

But it’s clearly a problem that if you find an effective way to fix, your relationship will probably last longer than it is now.

It is true that sex makes you feel closer and connected to your partner.

Having sex at least once a week will help you connect even more and make you feel more intimate with each other.

I know some people think that talking about sex is awkward but you can at least talk about the problems you’ve been having in bed with your partner and about how to fix them.

2) Don’t be afraid to talk about the problem

In my opinion, the best way to save a relationship from breaking up is by having open discussion about all topics.

Talking about problems can make you realize that the problem is not as bad as you think and it will help you understand each other better, plus it will make both of you feel more connected.

Avoiding a conflict by avoiding the problem, however, may lead to a deeper misunderstanding. Those problems will blow up like slow firecrackers once a certain threshold is exceeded.

3) Just listen

Sometimes people think they need to be the one who gives advice or solutions when they’re in a relationship with someone but I don’t think this is necessary.

When there are problems in a relationship, learning how to listen better is what we can do.

Don’t interrupt your partner, let them talk about the problem, ask them questions, and let them know you’re listening. 

If you’re worried that it will make your partner feel uncomfortable then just say “ I will try to listen better and try not to interrupt you next time”.

4) Show you care by doing everyday things

I am sure you know that saying the words “I love you” is not the only way to show you care about your partner.

There are many other ways to do this. 

Little things show how much we care about someone like helping each other with chores, making them feel special by giving them a gift or buying something they want, having a coffee together and telling them that they are great in bed are all examples of ways to show love other than saying “I love you”.

5) Don’t compare your relationship with other couples

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It’s not healthy to compare yourself and your partner to other people or couples.

It is understandable that we want to see if our relationships are as good as others, but comparing what is wrong or right between you and your partner can only make things worse. 

Even if you feel that your relationship is not exactly the same as what you see on social media, don’t think about comparing it either way because this will only put stress on the relationship.

It is also worth noting that people tend to post on social media about their enjoyable times, rather than their stressful ones.

Be aware that most relationships experience both positive and negative phases. Instead of wasting time envying other people’s relationships, focus on addressing the issues in your relationship.

6) You can’t change anyone, learn to accept

A lot of people get into relationships in order to change their partner, but we should remember that no one can change anyone. 

We all have our flaws and our strengths, things you may not like about your partner are just parts of him/her that you have to accept because they are not going to go away. 

When I talk about loving someone no matter what, I mean it. 

Love is accepting your partner for who they are and the most important thing is to accept them even if the flaws bother you. 

7) Have a weekly date night

Sometimes you have to set aside some time out at the end of the week to relax and have fun, even if you both are very busy.

It will allow you to connect in a different way and feel closer. 

Having a date night also allows you to discuss topics that are important for both of you, this could be about learning new things to become better versions for each other or planning the future together. 

You can also try something new on the weekend like making pottery or go to some painting course.

8) Do something you both enjoy 

A fun activity at home can help you connect, become closer and feel more connected. 

Try to think of different ways to spend time together daily, if you don’t have any ideas on how to do this then ask your partner what they would like.

For example, you could order a couple of pizzas, have a movie night with some games and snacks and just relax together.

Or plant something and take care of them together to see the plan grow as your love grows bigger every day.

Get to know what’s his favorite sport and play it with him. Most men like to train in some kind of sport. That doesn’t only help your relationship healthy, but also help your body look healthier and better. 

9) It’s not about who’s right or wrong, it’s about you being together

I know some people may think that their partner is completely wrong, but if you feel a little bit of the same things from time to time then it doesn’t mean things are all that bad.

Whether you’re arguing about something trivial or whether your partner is not being very attentive to you, I believe that all differences in a relationship can be fixed in time. 

Relationships are about connecting with each other and not just about the problems, so even if the problem seems big to you at first, it will be solved somehow and then when you look back sometime later, it isn’t as bad as you thought.

10) Don’t take each other for granted

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This is especially for the people who have been together for a long time. 

If you don’t take your partner seriously, you may realize that your partner has given up because there are too many fights and the relationship will end. 

Take every moment with them as an opportunity to make things better, learn to appreciate each other more and you’ll never regret the relationship.

11) Don’t use social media as a scapegoat

I remember when I first started using social media and I wanted to let all my friends know that I’m happy in my relationship.

I would post a lot on social media, in fact, I would like to say that at the beginning of our relationship we were addicted to social media because we used it to show people our happiness.

Nowadays, as with any addiction, we have grown out of this and are focusing more on each other.

I don’t want to say that social media is totally wrong, but it can be a bad habit of ours.

12) Confide in your partner and let them confide in you

I think it’s very important that we share our problems with each other and work together to fix them.

Especially when we have some sort of problem, although it may not seem big, but it can be resolved if you work together to fix it.

I’m sure that if both of you care about each other, the problem will be solved easily. 

For example, if you have a problem at work, then you can talk about it with your partner and maybe they will be able to give you some insights about the problem and even encourage you to find a solution. 

13) Learn to forgive 

Sometimes forgiveness can be very difficult but I believe it’s one of the greatest things that you can do for your relationship.

Forgiveness is something we have to learn. As a child, we learn to forgive by being punished, but as adults, forgiving someone that has hurt us is never easy. 

I think it’s important to learn how to forgive not only because they deserve that but also because it will keep us healthy mentally and physically. 

14) Don’t always expect the best from each other 

We all want our partners to be perfect and for them never to fault or make mistakes. 

When we constantly expect the best from them and make them feel guilty for every mistake they make then we are just setting ourselves up for failure. 

Of course, if you have a problem and expect your partner to help you or at least talk to you about it but he does not, that’s an issue and I would recommend talking about it. 

15) Complain the right way 

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Stating the issue is completely different from complaining. 

In fact, it’s very easy to complain about everything. But it’s not so easy to talk about some issue to find the solutions, without involving any emotion. 

I know a lot of people who complain but they never thought about what caused them to feel bad in the first place. 

I think that complaining can sometimes work as a release, but I don’t think we should be complaining just for the sake of it. 

The worst thing that can happen when we complain is that our partner doesn’t listen or doesn’t care.

Make sure to always talk about something that bothers you and be sure to make your point clear by saying everything clearly. 

Complaining the wrong way can be frustrating for both of you, so think before you complain. 

16) Don’t brand your partner as a bad person

When we get frustrated about something, then it’s easy to brand our partner as a bad person, but in fact, this is the worst thing that we can do. 

Remember that we are both human beings and only complaining can make us feel like blaming each other for our problems. 

Don’t say things like “you are so bad and I would not have married you if I had known that you were so mean!” because sometimes saying such things will cause arguments.

17) Don’t stay quiet when your partner is upset 

A lot of people are used to staying quiet when their partner is upset and I think this is not a good habit.

You need to confront them if you want to understand what is causing the unhappy feeling of your partner and what you can do to solve the problem.

If they are upset, then they need someone who will listen, and as I mentioned above, without judging them and telling them what they did wrong.

18) Do what works for you and your partner 

There is no “one size fits all” solution here, what works for me may not work for someone else. 

We can only know the best solution to save a relationship from breaking up by trying different things and seeing what works. 

If you have done everything above but nothing has changed, then change something. For example, you can change the way you communicate with your partner.

Maybe you both need more space, so talk less about topics that make you feel tense, or maybe one of you is having problems in bed and this it’s making the other one uncomfortable. 

19) Don’t give up

This is probably the most important thing that I can say to you. 

Being in a relationship with your partner is not always easy, but it’s worth it in the end. 

Don’t give up if there is a problem in your relationship or even when you think that it’s almost over. 

I have seen many relationships where just one of the partners threw in the towel and instead of trying to fix things they just gave up on their partner, but they ended up regretting it because they thought they had lost their true love. 

I know how hard it can be to repair a damaged relationship but it’s certainly worth holding onto it. 

20) Seek professional help

I know some people think professional help is expensive, but this may be the best solution for your relationship. 

Sometimes, the cost you spend on a relationship expert to know how to save the relationship from breaking up is a lot less than the cost of spending your time and money doing things that wouldn’t work.  

If you have tried all these things but your relationships are still not improving then it’s time to seek some professional help. 

An expert who can help you both understand each other, improve communication and understand how to move forward in your relationship is what you need at this point. 

If you are wondering where to find professional help, Relationship Hero is the place that I recommend.

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It’s clear that there are certain things that we should always consider using common sense, but it doesn’t make much psychological sense. That’s when I realized that what we believe to be true is not always true.

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I think that using some of these tips is a good way to make your relationship work.

I’m sure that if you try them out then you will definitely see positive changes in your relationship. 

Some people use these tips and they still don’t see any change in their relationship, but I believe that there are probably too many expectations of you in your relationship. 

We are both human beings and we are not perfect, so we will make mistakes. 

The most important thing is to accept our partners as they are and don’t always expect something from them in return.

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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