Felicity Frankish
It’s no secret that we are our harshest critics.
We are always seeing the worse in ourselves, from the flabby arms that need some toning, to the quick temper you can’t always control.
We spend so much time agonizing over these traits and flaws, trying to fix them so we can truly and utterly love ourselves – and share this love with the rest of the world.
They say you need to love yourself before first for someone else to come into your life and love you.
But we are conditioned to seek the approval of others before we can even begin to love ourselves. It’s a fact of life.
It’s time to turn all that around and put the control back into your own hands.
The truth is, you don’t need to wait.
There’s always something that will hold you back.
Instead, it’s time to let go of all your insecurities and manifest your own self-love.
You don’t need to fix anything. You can love you for you – and here’s how.
11 ways to manifest self-love
1) Come to terms
If you plan to manifest a different outcome and to go from nothing to self-love overnight, then you need to come to terms with your starting point.
Get in front of that mirror and really look at yourself.
Notice those flabby arms that cause yourself so much anguish.
Look at any flaws that you have been trying to push to the back of your mind for so long. Bring them to the front of your mind.
Ask yourself….
- How do I feel about myself?
- What areas am I not happy with?
Truly understanding exactly what is holding you back from reaching a place of self-love will help to propel you forward on this journey.
2) Re-adjust your priorities
We often get so caught up in the busy-ness of life, we don’t even realise that we’ve neglected ourselves.
Ignore your physical self and think about your mental happiness.
- Are you happy with where you are?
- Do you make time to do the things you love?
- Are you surrounded by people who care about you?
It’s time to take a look at your priorities are they currently stand, and move them around a little to focus on the important things. The things that matter to you most.
For this step, you need to be a little selfish.
It might mean stepping away from a group of friends who are a bad influence for you.
It may mean saying no to the odd social outing to make more time at home to do things you enjoy.
In order to manifest self-love, you have to know exactly what makes you happy and make it a priority in your life.
3) A genuine advisor confirms it
The signs I’m revealing in this article will give you a good idea about whether you can manifest self-love.
But could you get even more clarity by speaking to a real gifted advisor?
Clearly, you have to find someone you can trust. With so many fake advisors out there, it’s important to have a pretty good BS detector.
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A genuine advisor from Psychic Source can not only tell you about ways to manifest self-love, but they can also reveal all your love possibilities.
4) Indulge in a little self-care
You are the most important person in your life. But when you focus on all the negatives and things you don’t like about yourself, you tend to forget to actually look after and nourish your soul.
See if you can take some time each day to put aside for reflection.
Reflect on the things you’re thankful for in your life.
Reflect on those important relationships to you.
Fill yourself up with positive thoughts about your life and the people who surround you.
It’s amazing how much a positive outlook can, in turn, help you to manifest self-love into your life.
Unless you start caring for yourself and putting yourself first, you can’t expect self-love to just appear.
It’s a work in progress.
5) Stop comparing yourself
It’s so hard to do in this modern world. Everywhere we look or turn, we are faced with people who are younger, smarter, have smaller arms and so on.
If you compare yourself to everyone you come across in life and on social media, it will suck all the joy right out of you.
You need to quit comparing how you look with strangers on social media.
Quit comparing where you are at in life with your best friend.
Quit comparing how heavy your weights are with the person next to you in gym class.
You’ll never experience self-love if you keep holding yourself back.
Every time you compare yourself to someone in your life, you are placing another chain around your wrists, stopping you from enveloping yourself in one big hug and truly experiencing self-love.
Your journey is yours and yours alone, so it’s time for you to embrace that to start seeing some changes in your life.
6) Envision what you want
Forget how you feel about the way you look and the way you think others see you, and start focusing on yourself.
How do you want to see yourself?
What do you want to love about yourself?
When you look in the mirror, what judgement and worries do you want to let go of?
In order to manifest self-love, you need to change the way you feel about yourself. Create an image in your mind of the perfect version of yourself. The version of you you’re working towards.
Being able to envision that person and bring them to life in your mind gives you the perfect sense of exactly where you’re headed and how you plan to get there.
By picturing this person and seeing them in front of you, you’ll learn what it’s like to love being you. If you can imagine that. Then you’ll have no problem working towards it in time.
7) Invest in yourself
Now you know exactly what you want, it’s time to invest in yourself to help you achieve it.
If you’re looking to lose a little of that arm fat, what are you doing to achieve it? Have you booked in a fabulous personal trainer who will be by your side each step of the way? Have you invested in a healthier home-cooking menu? Have you purchased some weights or gym equipment that you can use at home?
If you’re looking to reach the next level of your career, again, what are you doing to get yourself there? Are you doing a degree to help increase your experience and be a more valuable team member? Are you staying back late to make a good impression?
At the end of the day, it’s great to have dreams and goals, but you have to be willing to fight for them.
Even just focusing on yourself and what you want to achieve will completely change your outlook. It’s the perfect opportunity to invest in yourself to get where you want to be.
That means no more excuses and no more feeling sorry for yourself.
Self-love will be easy to manifest once you feel great about the path you’re on.
8) Be open to receiving
As soon as you start on the path to manifesting self-love, you have to be open to receiving.
You know what you want, you have asked for it, and you’re working on achieving it. This is exactly how you manifest something into being.
Now you need to sit back and be open to good things coming your way.
It’s about willing your self-love into reality and then embracing those feelings that wash over you once you achieve it.
It can be hard to shake off the judgement and self-doubt that normally consumes our thoughts. It can be hard to accept that you do love the person you are, when you’re stuck comparing to others and seeking validation.
You have to be ready to feel differently about yourself and that will all come in time. Change the way you think and be open to the good feelings and experiences that come your way.
When you do notice them – embrace them! Don’t push them away out of your mind. Reflect on them at the end of the day.
That way, you’ll be much more open to these feelings next time they come knocking.
9) Stay kind
This is harder said than done.
When your journey doesn’t go the way you expect.
Or a roadblock suddenly crops up that stops you from reaching your dreams. It’s hard to stay positive.
You automatically find yourself reverting to the way it used to be.
Self-doubt, self-loathing, judgement…
These negative thoughts have been around in your life for a long time, so don’t expect them to just disappear in an instant.
They’ll want to creep back in every now and them.
It’s important to remember they’re just thoughts – they aren’t truths. Don’t let them get to you.
Push them away and try and focus on something positive that has happened for you. Make that the centre of your attention.
If you find yourself unable to get push away the negative thoughts, then hang out in them for a moment or two. Let them do their worst. Then shake it off and put your efforts back into your positive thoughts.
You’ll find it gets quicker and quicker over time and easier and easier to do.
Self-love is just around the corner.
10) Love yourself for who you are
You don’t need to have achieved your vision for self-love to come about.
With all the positive changes you’re making in your life, along with a renewed attitude, you’ll be able to manifest self-love into being.
It’s about loving who you are…not who you think you should be.
And not sitting around and waiting for validation from those around us.
If you’ve managed to put all these steps into place, manifesting self-love should be easy.
You should love yourself for how far you’ve come.
Love yourself for the changes you’ve made in your life.
Love yourself for your positive attitude.
Love yourself for all that you’ve achieved.
Love yourself for all you hope to achieve.
By cancelling all the other noise in our life, that comes from longing to different, comparing to others, and seeking validation, you truly have the power to make positive changes and manifest self-love.
Just don’t expect it to happen overnight. These things take time and it’s important to be patient. If you find yourself getting off track, then simply change course. Don’t give up. Don’t give in.
Self-love is waiting for you.
11) Break the habit
It’s time to focus on yourself and loving yourself.
Reference the above video at some point. The most powerful relationship you can have in life, is the one you have with yourself.
Your external relationships will reflect your internal relationships. If you don’t learn to love yourself first, you won’t discover the relationship you truly deserve.
In this excellent video, 5 Powerful Ways to Love Yourself (Self-Love Exercises), you will discover 5 powerful exercises to help you manifest self-love in your life.
It’s about concentrating on yourself and working to break the habit of relying on others to provide that love you desire.
These 5 powerful exercises will have you on the path to loving yourself instantly.
In conclusion
We’ve covered 11 ways to manifest self-love, but if you want to get a completely personalized explanation of this situation and where it’ll lead you in the future, I recommend speaking to the folks over at Psychic Source.
I mentioned them earlier on; I was blown away by how professional yet reassuring they were.
Not only can they give you more direction on self-love, but they can advise you on what’s in store for your future.
Whether you prefer to have your reading over a call or chat, these advisors are the real deal.
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