So, you want to get your ex back.
Whether you’re reeling from the pain of a very recent breakup, or still quietly aching for an ex you lost months ago, it can be hard to ignore the voice in your head saying, “I need him back.”
And you shouldn’t ignore it. True love is hard to find and if you think you were meant to be together, then getting back with your ex is right move.
What you need now is a plan of action to get him back.
The good news is I’ve recently come across a fascinating new strategy that has helped thousands of women rekindle their relationship with an ex.
You simply tap into something men crave above all else when it comes to a relationship. Something they want more than love. And even more than sex.
Remember the book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus?
Well relationship expert James Bauer has just taken things to a whole new level…
What he really wants
In his latest video, James Bauer reveals a fascinating new concept in relationship psychology. He calls it the hero instinct.
And I think it holds the key to re-sparking the attraction with your ex and rewiring your future relationship with him.
The easiest way to describe the hero instinct is with the following line:
In a relationship, men want to feel like your hero. And it’s up to you to make them feel that way.
Visualize a caveman brandishing a club in one hand at a dangerous predator, while shielding you gently with his other hand.
This dynamic (if a little silly) scenario is the hero instinct in full flow.
Even in 2020, men have a deeply-rooted urge inside to provide for and protect women. And they want to be appreciated for their efforts.
Men are biologically programmed to protect you. It’s embedded in their DNA and they will only seek out a relationship (or stay in one) with a woman who can fulfill this need.
Watch James Bauer’s new video here.
Understanding your man
Most men want a deep, passionate relationship. We want it more than we let on.
But let’s face it:
Men can be confusing.
We rarely open up and share what they’re feeling. We simply don’t tell our partners what we need from a relationship.
James Bauer argues that when it comes to relationships, men are primarily driven by instinctive needs, which are the result of biology and evolution.
Instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior and this is especially true for how men approach their relationships.
And the kicker?
Most men aren’t even consciously aware of these instincts, even though they act on them all the time.
Because the desire to step up for women and protect them is a biological trait embedded in their DNA. It’s not always a part of their conscious thinking.
Understanding what really drives men can be a powerful tool for women. Not only to forge a better relationship between the two of you, but as a way to make your guy feel better about himself.
Sadly, not understanding what men really want out of romantic relationships is also one of the main reasons couples separate.
Learn About the Hero Instinct Here >>
Women don’t need a hero… but men still want to feel like one
I know this might seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
And I couldn’t agree more.
Today women can change a tire, open their own jars, and generally fend for themselves in life. In 2020, society has thankfully evolved past crude gender stereotypes.
However, this is not what the hero instinct is all about. What James Bauer is saying is that the biology of men remains unchanged.
And women’s dating strategies need to adapt to recognize that.
While women may not need a hero in their lives, men still want to feel like one.
This urge is still very much the driving factor for men in their romantic relationships. So it’s essential that women understand what it means and how they can use it to their advantage.
Click here to learn more about the hero instinct.
What this concept taught me
I don’t usually take much notice of “popular” new concepts in psychology or recommend videos by relationship experts.
However, it’s not often that a mirror gets held up to my lifetime of relationship failure.
Because that’s what happened when I first discovered the hero instinct. I ended up learning more about myself than I bargained for.
The simple truth is that I’ve been emotionally unavailable to women my whole life. I wrote about this here.
I now realize it’s because the hero instinct was never triggered in me. My relationships with women involved everything from ‘best friends with benefits’ to being ‘partners in crime’. In hindsight, I’ve always needed more.
Reading about the hero instinct was my “aha” moment. For years, I wasn’t able to put a finger on why I would get cold feet, struggle to open up to women, and fully commit to a relationship.
It took reading James Bauer’s book, His Secret Obsession, to understand my own patterns of (ultimately destructive) behavior.
Since then, I’ve written extensively about the hero instinct and other key biological drivers of male behavior on ideapod.com
How do you trigger his hero instinct?
The best way to learn more about the hero instinct is to read James Bauer’s book, His Secret Obsession.
I wrote a comprehensive review of it here.
His Secret Obsession gives you a step-by-step blueprint for triggering the hero instinct. James reveals the phases you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can make to tap into this biological drive.
It’s probably the most comprehensive relationship guide for women available today.
Here are a few of the main issues the book tackles:
- Why so many men don’t want to commit long-term to a relationship, even when they seem happy with you
- Why men frequently lose interest after the initial passion has worn off.
- How to get back with your ex.
James gives you the tools you need to make your man commit to you over the long haul.
If you want to learn more about the hero instinct and His Secret Obsession, check out this video by James Bauer. He gives a terrific overview of this fascinating new concept.
Learn About the Hero Instinct Here >>
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