How to make him want you back during a break

Are you currently on a break with your man?

That’s never an easy situation. Lucky for you, if you want him back, there are some ways you can go about it!

Let me show you how to do it:

Give him space

The first thing you should do when you are on a break with your man and you want him back, is to give him some space.

Let him know you are going to take some time off from each other and don’t be too clingy.

You see, being too clingy will only push him further away at the moment.

There is a reason you are on a break right now, so give him some time to sort out his thoughts.

If you let him know that you are going to take some time off from each other for a while, he will be more inclined to want you back.

You have to give him some time to think about what he wants.

Let him know that you are giving him space and he will start feeling more attracted to you.

Get your own life together

Another thing you should do when on a break is to get your own life together.

You see, if he sees that you have your own life, it will make him realize that you don’t depend on him fully, which is a really attractive quality to have.

Also, if you get your own life together, he will see that you are not letting him decide how your life is going.

But how do you get your own life together?

Well, there are a few pillars you should consider:

  • career
  • finances
  • health
  • relationships

You have to make sure that you are getting your career together.

This is really important because if he sees that you have your own career, he will think you are independent and won’t be afraid of leaving.

If you get your finances in order, it will give him the impression that you are self-sufficient and won’t depend on him fully.

Also, if your health is in check, he will see that you take care of yourself and don’t let things get out of hand.

He will be more inclined to want a relationship with someone who takes care of her body as well as her mind!

Finally, relationships. Make sure to figure out relationships with family or friends and don’t neglect them!

All of these things are essential in order for him to realize that you are doing well without him.

If you do all of these things, he will see that you have your own life and won’t feel like he needs to do anything for you.

But it’s not just about him.

You see, when you do these things for yourself, you will feel so much better, too!

You will realize that you don’t necessarily need him in order to be happy, life goes on!

This is a really healthy approach to getting back together, as you don’t want to be overly dependent on one another.

Trigger his inner hero

One thing you can proactively do in order to make him want to come back to you quicker than you’d think is by bringing out his inner hero.

You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.

I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this fascinating concept is about what really drives men in relationships, which is ingrained in their DNA.

And it’s something most women don’t know anything about.

Once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives.

They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger it.

Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?

Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel in distress or buy your man a cape.

The easiest thing to do is to check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12-word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.

Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.

It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.

Click here to watch the free video.

Cut all communication for now

During the break, refrain from contacting him a lot.

Sure, if he reaches out, you can reply, of course, but try not to be the one reaching out too much right now.

Think about it: this will give him a chance to miss you and to feel like this is a serious situation where he might lose you if he doesn’t figure things out soon.

Give him time to think about what he wants and needs in life.

Don’t push him to make decisions, let him make them on his own.

A good way to refrain from contacting him is the no-contact rule.

Set yourself a time, maybe a few days, a week, or even a month (depending on your break) and refrain from any and all contact during this time.

The good part?

Having a “deadline” in mind makes it a lot easier to stick to this rule rather than thinking “I won’t contact him”.

Again, you can obviously reply if he reaches out, but this will give him the necessary space to figure things out on his own.

Take an honest look at your relationship

This is the perfect time to take an honest look at your relationship and assess where things are not working out.

Think about how you can improve upon your relationship.

This is an opportunity to help each other get closer rather than to break up.

If you’re not happy, it’s time to make a change.

Figure out what needs to change so that you can move forward together.

You two might be in a very different place right now, but if you can work through these issues, things will get better!

Think about your future and what you want out of life.

When it comes to relationships, we are often unsure of what we want and what we don’t want in our future.

You might be wondering if he wants the same things as well or if he is happy with his life as it is right now.

There are obviously some things that didn’t work out the first time around, and in order to get him back, you will need to figure out what went wrong and work on it.

Were you too clingy?

Was he not present enough?

Did something happen?

These questions are important, as they will set the foundation of your new relationship together.

Don’t beg him to come back

One thing you should never, ever do is beg him to come back to you.

I’m serious, if you take one thing away from this article it’s this: never beg him for his love or attention.

The reason is simple. If you beg him to come back, you are disrespecting yourself.

You see, a woman who knows her worth will not beg for a man’s attention. If she doesn’t get it, she knows that he is not worth her time and that she deserves more.

If you’re a woman who wants a man to come back and is begging him to do so, then you’re not doing yourself any favors.

It’s time to work on yourself and your relationship.

You have to put in work and prove that he is missing out by staying away from him and doing what you need to do in order to make things better for both of you.

When it comes down to it, if he doesn’t want you back, he is not “the one”. It’s that simple!

I know, it may sound harsh but the man who is meant for you will not need to be convinced, believe me.

This relates back to the unique concept I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.

When a man feels respected, useful, and needed, he won’t need to be convinced to be with you.

And the best part is, triggering his hero instinct can be as simple as knowing the right thing to say over a text.

You can learn exactly what to do by watching this simple and genuine video by James Bauer.

Take good care of yourself

The number one thing you can do when wanting him to come back is to take good care of yourself in the meantime.

This will not only prove that you are an amazing and strong woman, but it will also make you feel great about yourself.

We’ve all been there before. We wanted someone to come back to us and they didn’t, and we were heartbroken.

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I know this is not the case for you, but I’m saying it in an effort to help you.

Be sure that you are taking care of yourself mentally as well as physically in the meantime.

You have so many other things going on in your life that it’s important that you’re happy!

If you don’t feel good about yourself, then being with him won’t make you feel better, either, trust me!

You deserve happiness more than anything else!

Be patient

Last but not least, you will need to be very patient if you want him to come back after a break.

I know, there are 1000 things you want to say or do in order to speed up the process, but the truth is, it will take as much time as it takes.

By being patient, you are showing him that you respect his need for space and that you are serious about the relationship.

If you are patient in this situation, he will eventually get the hint and start to come back to you.

Most importantly, make sure that whatever happens in your relationship doesn’t affect your self-esteem.

Remember, if he can’t respect or love a woman who is confident and happy with herself, then he isn’t worth it!

You got this

I know, you are in a tough spot right now, but try to remember that things will get better.

I just said be patient, but also set yourself (and maybe him at some point) a timeframe.

You will not wait around for him for months, wasting your time, will you?

Whatever you do, don’t put his well-being above your own, that’s a mistake I have made in the past, and nothing good comes from it, believe me!

By now you should have a better idea of how to make him come back.

So the key now is getting through to your man in a way that empowers both him and you.

I mentioned the concept of the hero instinct earlier — by appealing directly to his primal instincts, you won’t only solve this issue, but you’ll take your relationship further than ever before.

And since this free video reveals exactly how to trigger your man’s hero instinct, you could make this change as early as today.

With James Bauer’s incredible concept, he’ll see you as the only woman for him. So if you’re ready to take that plunge, be sure to check out the video now.

Here’s a link to his excellent free video again.

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Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more!

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