14 no bullsh*t ways to make him realize what he lost

Have you ever met someone who has an overwhelming air of self-assurance around them?

Their personality comes across as so confident and assured that you feel like they have the answers to everything.

However, there are some of us who need some help along the way.

The truth is, even though we want to find love and have it all play our perfectly, you can’t manufacture a manly man who only has eyes for you.

He has to find that within himself before he can come around.

But just because we can’t change the guy we like doesn’t mean that there aren’t things we can do to make him realize what he lost when you two went your separate ways.

This article will show you the top 14 ways you can make the man of your dreams regret losing you for good!

1) Show him that your life is great without him

The guy you like is probably going to have a hard time letting you go if he knows that your life is going better without him in it.

He might not realize yet that you can certainly enjoy your life without him in more ways than he can count, so show him just how great you are without him.

However, keep in mind that you need to do it tactfully, so it is not obvious that you are throwing this show just for him.

The idea is to make him question his decision.

Start with a cute outfit that shows off your best features.

Then, head out to the party and have a blast with your friends.

If you are lucky, he will be there too and get to see you having the time of your life.

He will realize that he has lost a lot when he let you go, and that is exactly what you want him to realize at this point, especially if he can’t figure it out on his own yet.

If he isn’t there, make sure you post the pictures on social media, so he can see just the great time you are having.

2) Look your best

Guys are visual beings, and they want to see a girl they left to suffer for them and weep without them.

If you want to show him that he has made a huge mistake leaving you, pay special attention to the way you look when you know he is going to be around.

If he has to see how well you look, it will make him second guess himself and think twice about walking away from you.

Put something on that he used to like seeing you in, and you can be sure you will get an emotional reaction from him in one way or another.

Make your best features stand out, and it will make you feel good.

People can instantly recognize when someone enjoys themselves, so he will come running to you for sure.

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4) Be mysterious

Make yourself seem like there is an air of mystery about you that will make your ex want to get back together with you.

This will make him feel curious and wonder what it is about you that made him fall for you in the first place.

You may wonder why you need to play these games, but you are the prize, and the more he sees that, the more he will want to get back to you.

5) Be happy

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Your happiness will rub off on your ex and make him realize that it was his loss after all. If you’re feeling a little bit down, try one of these tips to help perk up your mood:

  • indulge yourself
  • do the things you like
  • take a bubble bath
  • enjoy a spa day

All of these things will help you to feel better about yourself and spread positive energy around you.

Once he sees that you are glowing, he will feel sorry he even thought about breaking up with you. The point is to make this period as much enjoyable as possible.

This is the only way you can make sure you are doing the right thing.

Who knows, maybe you will realize along the way that you are better off without him?

Or, maybe you will come up with some new ways to come closer to him.

Anyway, this period can be fruitful for you; take full advantage of it.

6) Show him your feminine side

Ladies who embrace their femininity always manage to bring out the best from a guy.

If you didn’t pay attention to this side of your personality during your relationship, now it’s time to turn a new leaf.

We all come across as tough sometimes, but let him see you in a feminine light. Your guy will absolutely love it!

If you were always too available for your guy, make yourself scarce this time. He will be dying to see you and win you back!

He will be pretty much begging for an opportunity to prove himself to you again.

Don’t give him one just yet, though.

Take this as a chance to play a little bit and show him that he should not take you lightly. This is your chance to make a better relationship this time.

As mentioned before, guys are visual beings.

They get easily attracted to a woman when they see her smile, and they will be more likely to give you a second chance if they notice that you have that same effect on them too.

All you need to do is look at him in your sweetest smile, and he will be glued to his seat just by seeing it.

7) Manifest the things that you want

The Universe is powerful, no one can deny that. There is something behind everything we do that guides us and helps us manifest what we want.

For some reason, men like to be around women who are successful and have their life together.

Even as little as making it seem like your career is going well will be enough to pique his curiosity and make him wonder why he ever left an opportunity to be with someone with such drive.

You should strive to improve your life for your own sake, but keep in mind that the moment you start feeling the joy about being able to live the life you’ve always wanted, you can be sure that you will get noticed by him again.

I know it can be frustrating, but that’s just how things work.

8) Be confident

A confident woman is a powerful woman, and these days, men will do anything just to get an opportunity to be with such a woman.

There are certain ways that you can increase your confidence, such as:

  • meditation
  • yoga
  • sports (exercise is a great way to boost your overall confidence)
  • martial arts

Doing all of these things will give you the confidence you need to create the life you want and show just how capable you are to sustain your goals.

9) Allow yourself to feel the negative emotions

You may not want to hear this, but if you want to win your ex back and get him to fall for you again, you will have to be willing to feel some of the negative emotions that come with a breakup.

It’s not an easy thing to do, but when you learn how to control your emotions and look at them as just another wave in the ocean, it becomes much easier.

Look at it this way – going through all your emotions and understanding what caused the breakup can be a great lesson for you, so you can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.

But, beware – he should not see you suffer. If you feel the need to cry, do it in the privacy of your own home.

The last thing you want him to see is that you are a weak woman who needs him to feel better.

Look at it this way – it is your chance to purify your soul and go on with your life lighter.

Once he comes to his senses and comes to you again, you will be glad you gave yourself the chance to let all these emotions settle.

10) Stay close to his friends

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It’s pretty obvious once you think about it – if you want to know his whereabouts and find out all the things that interest you, keep in touch with his friends.

Not only will you find out what you want to know, but you will also get a chance to see him more often than you would normally.

This is a great way to take your relationship back, and it has the added benefit of keeping you close to your friends as well.

Besides, if you like his friends, why not enjoy their company?

11) Always be prepared

Being prepared will help you to appear confident and make him seem like he needs you more than anyone else ever did.

When I say prepared, I mean look your best, have something close to you that you can use as an excuse to talk, and always have a friend close by to be able to find a reason to leave quickly and leave him wondering what you are up to.

Think positively because when you think positively, you will become very powerful and be able to move mountains just by focusing your mind on a specific goal.

If you want to make him yours again, think of it as a clear mission and believe that the Universe is here to help you achieve it.

This is the power within your mind that will bring him back to you when he realizes how wrong he was in leaving you.

12) Keep the communication flowing

This is a crucial tip for getting your ex back that you must follow if you want to succeed.

Make an effort to communicate normally and don’t show that you are hurt.

It will make him wonder why you are so calm, which will make him think about you even more.

He’ll probably want to know what is going on, so don’t be afraid to tell him and show him that you aren’t upset.

Seeing you in your best mood will surely make him reconsider and do something concrete about getting back together.

You just need to stay calm and optimistic, and it will surely pay off very soon.

13) Make him remember all the good times

One of the best things you can do to make him realize his mistake is that you simply remind him of the best time you’ve spent together and leave him thinking about it.

You can tell him that you miss the way he made you feel back then and leave him wondering if he is making a mistake by leaving.

Do not provoke him, however.

It should be subtle, just enough to make him realize that he might have lost something really good in the process.

14) Don’t do anything drastic

You can’t force someone to love you, so don’t expect it to happen.

If you really love him, then do everything in a subtle way.

Show him what he might be missing if he leaves you for another woman.

If you really want to win him back, then always remember that getting your ex back is a long process, and you need to be patient and persistent.

Here’s the deal – you should keep your dignity all along. Make sure you do all these things gracefully.

Never beg your ex to take you back. It will not work, and it will weaken your position in his eyes.

Instead, show him that he is making a mistake by leaving because you are strong enough to live without him.

Do not act desperate because that way, all your efforts would be in vain, and that is certainly something that you should avoid at all costs.

Final thoughts

As you can see, making him realize what he’s lost is not easy, but I believe that if you are determined enough, then you can make it.

But, getting his attention back doesn’t have to be difficult.

Thanks to relationship expert James Bauer, we now know how men think and feel in relationships. This makes it a lot easier to reach a part of them that’s usually really hard to reach.

It’s called the hero instinct and it is a unique concept according to which, when you trigger a man’s innate drives, all his emotional walls come down. He starts to realize what he’s lost and feelings of regret start to activate inside him.

So if you’re ready to trigger this change in him, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.

Click here to watch his excellent free video.

Azra Jovicic

Azra Jovicic

I am Azra Jovicic and I love writing about psychology and wellness. I am just trying to make the sense of the world and share with others the things I’ve found out.

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