There is one sure thing that is inevitable in this world that we live in, and that is change. We can spend our whole lives trying to insulate ourselves from things changing, like our relationships, our health, our careers and our environment. However, no matter how hard we try, and no matter how much effort we put in to keeping things the same, it is a law of nature that everything changes. That’s because we live in an energetic environment, both internally and externally, and this means that everything is renewing and transforming in order to survive and thrive. It turns out to be absolutely exhausting if we are unwilling to accept this fact, and we end up stressed, anxious and fearful of what might happen if and when it does. So what can we do to navigate our way through the uncertainty of an ever-changing world? Here are five tips that can help.
1. Accepting the way life shows up
It is so easy to feel happy when things are going good and everything is the way that we like it. Then, when something crops up, and circumstances change, we don’t like it, nobody likes unexpected change. Our initial reaction is to respond with resistance, trying to hold on to the way things were, it seems easier, it feels safer, and we like the comfort of it. However, the more we resist the change, the more agitated we become, and we feel totally out of control. If we can become aware in these moments that resisting the change only ends up making us feel worse, we can relax a little and start to come to terms with the change. It is only when we can accept what is, that we can move forwards with clarity.
2. Embrace the possibility of something new
It is interesting to note that a lot of people who have had to face big changes in their lives actually say that they are happier with how their lives are afterwards. Sometimes, when we are so engrossed in how things are, we are not inclined to look at how we would like to improve in some areas of our lives, and we don’t explore the possibilities that are potentially there for us to discover. Therefore, when change happens, we are forced to explore new options for ourselves, and this can lead to something truly magnificent for us. So, it is good to develop a habit of exploring little changes in our daily lives to allow us to get used to new experiences, and how something new can be good for us. This helps us to cope when bigger changes happen unexpectedly.
3. Let go of the idea that things need to stay the same to be happy
All too often, we associate our happiness with certain things in life. Then, when these things change, our happiness runs out the door and we are left with all these uncomfortable feelings to deal with. What if our happiness is actually not attached to these things, what if our happiness is something that we carry within us and that can be activated in different circumstances, we just need to be aware that our happiness exists always, no matter what.
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4. Explore ways to tap into deep inner happiness
Rather than allowing change to deflate us, wouldn’t it be wise to develop practices for enhancing our inner happiness so that change doesn’t affect us as much. Developing a daily gratitude practice is a wonderful way to train our brains to seek out the positive aspects of our lives, so when change occurs, we are more inclined to look at things in a positive way rather than a negative way. Meditation is another way to train ourselves to be calm and centred, no matter what is going on around us. Mindfulness can play a major role in keeping us present, recognising the magnificence of any given moment.
5. Come to terms with the fact that there is always change happening, and take personal responsibility
To be alive means that we are exposed to change in every moment. Our bodies are constantly changing, replenishing and renewing, our thoughts are always changing from moment to moment, our feelings change, our moods change, our outlook changes. Therefore, it is the same for everyone else, so if we can become aware of the fact that we really have no control over what others are thinking, feeling and doing, then we can take personal responsibility for our own thoughts, feelings and actions, and live a life of fulfilment and purpose, no matter what.