Do you feel unsure about your boyfriend’s love for you?
Well, whether we like it or not, sometimes guys tend to fake their love for us. It’s sad, but also very common.
But how do you know whether your guide is really pretending to understand or not?
If you’re in doubt, you’re at the right place! In this article, we’ll reveal 17 no bullsh*t signs a guy is faking his love for you.
1) He doesn’t respect your opinion
Let’s start with the most obvious sign that he’s faking it. But before that, let me ask you a question.
Does your boyfriend really listen to your point of view? Does he really try to understand where you’re coming from?
What if he doesn’t respect your opinion?
Well, if a guy doesn’t respect your opinion, he’s probably not serious about you. Why?
Because respect is key in every relationship, and if yours doesn’t have it, then there’s no point in staying with him.
And if he doesn’t respect your opinion, then it means that he’s not as interested in what you have to say as much as he should be. It could also mean that he’s not interested in seeing things from your point of view.
And you know what?
That’s a sure sign his love for you isn’t real. He’s just pretending.
2) He doesn’t follow through with his promises
Do you have a deep desire to move in together? Or maybe you want to spend more time with him? Or maybe you want him to be more affectionate towards you?
Whatever it is, if he’s not following through with his promises, then he’s not serious about you, and here’s why:
Every relationship is built on trust, and trust is built on doing what you say you’re going to do. If he doesn’t follow through with his promises, then he’s not serious about you.
It means that he’s not committed to your relationship, and if he’s not committed to your relationship, then he’s probably not as invested in it as you are.
And if he’s not invested in it as much as you are, it means that his love for you isn’t real.
And you know what? If he never tried to follow through with his promises, chances are that all the feelings he has ever expressed to you are also fake.
Because if his feelings were real, he would have definitely tried to follow through with his promises.
3) A relationship coach can give you real clarity
While the signs in this article will help you understand whether your partner’s love for you is real, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
That’s what I recently did.
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4) He doesn’t take your feelings seriously
Let me take a wild guess.
He doesn’t care about your feelings and needs, right? That’s why you started thinking that his feelings for you were fake.
Why am I so convinced?
You see, if he really cared about your feelings and needs, he would care about how you felt. And if he cared about how you feel, he would do things to make you feel better when you’re upset.
And if he did those things to make you feel better when you’re upset, then it’s a good indication that his love for you is real.
But the fact is that your guy doesn’t do those things for you. At least not all the time. If he did, then it’s a good indication that his love for you is real.
Imagine this:
You’re not feeling well, and you don’t have the energy to do anything. You’re just laying in bed, watching TV, and feeling sorry for yourself. And then he calls you and asks you to do a favor for him.
You don’t feel like doing it, but you tell yourself: “It’s okay, I’ll do it later.”
But then he keeps calling and texting you every 5 minutes until you finally give in. And when you finally get to his place, he tells you that he needed help with something really simple… and now he’s mad at you because of that simple task.
He says that if only he had someone else on his side to help him out with it…
Now imagine another scenario:
You’re not feeling well, so your boyfriend calls and asks what he can do for you. You tell him that all you want is a hug from him…and then he comes over to give it to you! He also tells you that if there’s anything else you need, just ask him.
Which guy do you think cares about how you feel? If he’s the second guy, then it’s a good indication that his love for you is real.
So, here’s the thing:
If a guy loves you, then he’d care about your feelings and needs. He’d try his best to ensure that your needs are fulfilled as much as possible.
If there’s something that bothers you or something that makes you happy, all he has to do is communicate it with him and see what can be done about it.
But if he doesn’t even bother to do that, then he’s obviously not that serious about you. He’s just pretending.
5) He pressures you to be intimate with him when you’re not in the mood
Want to know another no bullsh*t sign a guy is faking his love for you?
Then you should think about how he behaves when it comes to intimacy.
Does he respect your feelings and needs? Or does he try to pressure you into having sex with him when you’re not in the mood?
If it’s the latter, then that’s a sure sign that his feelings for you are fake.
Because if he really loved you, then he’d understand that sometimes we just don’t want to be intimate with our partner. And he’d respect those feelings and needs of yours.
He wouldn’t try to pressure you into doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable.
But if your boyfriend pressures you into being intimate when you’re not in the mood, then it’s a good indication that his love for you is fake.
It means that no matter how much time passes, he’ll never learn how to respect your needs and feelings.
Why?
Because the fact is that your guy doesn’t respect your feelings when it comes to intimacy. At least not all the time. If he did, then it’s a good indication that his love for you is real.
Sooner or later, every woman would go through this kind of abuse from him…and eventually, leave him because of it.
So if this is happening in your relationship right now, don’t ignore it!
Make him understand what’s going on and why it bothers you so much!
But if he still doesn’t change his behavior after all these efforts, then it’s time for you to reconsider your relationship with him.
Because continuing this relationship would only make things worse for both of you!
6) He doesn’t make time for you
When a guy loves a girl, one of the first things that happen is that he starts making time for her.
He starts planning dates with her and taking her out more often. He makes sure she knows she’s important to him by giving her all the attention she needs.
But when a guy doesn’t make time for his girlfriend, it means that his love for her isn’t real.
Why? Because if he really cared about her, then there’d be no way in hell she wouldn’t be his priority at all times.
It would be impossible for him to spend so much time without thinking about how much she means to him – because she would mean everything!
And if not making time sounds familiar to you, then you should consider it another clear sign that his love for you is fake.
Otherwise, he wouldn’t be able to spend so much time without thinking about you.
7) Find the root cause of your problem
If you’re dealing with a guy who is faking love for you, have you considered getting to the root of the issue?
You see, most of our shortcomings in love stem from our own complicated inner relationship with ourselves – how can you fix the external without seeing the internal first?
I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy.
So, if you want to improve the relationships you have with others and make them more sincere towards you, start with yourself.
Check out the free video here.
You’ll find practical solutions and much more in Rudá’s powerful video, solutions that’ll stay with you for life.
8) He’s not open with you
Can I be totally honest with you?
Opening up about your feelings is the key indicator that someone is sincere to you. Therefore, if he’s open with you, it means that his love for you is real and sincere.
But if he doesn’t open up to you, it means that he’s hiding something from you and that he doesn’t trust you enough to be honest with you.
If he’s not willing to talk about his feelings for you, then it means that his love for you is fake and superficial.
Let me explain.
When a guy is faking love for you, he doesn’t want to open up to you – he wants to keep his feelings hidden and pretend that he’s not feeling anything.
He doesn’t want you to know what’s going on in his mind, because then you’d be able to see through him. And he doesn’t want that – so he keeps his feelings locked up inside and pretends that everything is fine.
But it’s not fine, because if it were, then he wouldn’t be having any problems with being open with you.
So if your guy isn’t opening up to you, then it means that deep down, something is wrong.
And if this is the case with your relationship now, then there’s a high chance that this guy doesn’t have true feelings for you at all! And it’s time for you to move on!
9) He doesn’t listen to you
Another sign that your boyfriend is faking his love for you is that he doesn’t listen to what you say.
If he refuses to take into consideration what you feel and think, then it means that the only thing important for him is himself.
If he doesn’t listen to you, then there’s a good chance that his love for you is fake. And if his love is fake, then there’s no reason for you to stick around.
So if your boyfriend is not listening to what you say, then it means that he doesn’t care about your feelings at all. And guess what?
It can also be a sign that he’s not interested in you as a person – he only wants to use you for his own personal gain.
And that’s exactly why he fakes his love – he’s only interested in your body, not your mind.
So if he’s not listening to you, then it means that his love for you is a lie. It’s sad, but often it can be true.
10) He disappears without telling where he’s going
Now I want you to think about something else.
How many times has he disappeared without telling you where he’s going? And how many times has he not returned your calls or text messages for hours?
If your boyfriend disappears without a trace, then it means that he doesn’t care about you. It means that he doesn’t want to be around you and he’s not interested in keeping you updated with what’s going on in his life.
It also means that when things are getting tough, he has a tendency to disappear and leave you hanging alone – which is pretty sad.
The truth is that if your boyfriend disappears without a trace, it means that his love for you is fake. And if his love is fake, then there’s no reason for you to stick around and wait for him to return.
Because if he doesn’t care enough about your feelings to tell you where he is or what’s going on in his life – then why should you do the same thing for him? That makes no sense at all! And I think we can all agree on this one!
The simple truth is that if a guy really loves you, he’ll never leave without telling you where he’s going.
Even if he just wants to go out with his friends for a couple of hours or if something comes up at work and needs his attention urgently, he’ll always let you know beforehand so that you won’t worry about him.
11) He never cares about your problems
When a guy loves a girl, one of the first things that happens is that he starts caring about her problems.
He starts offering her solutions and trying to fix every problem she has in life. He makes sure she knows she’s important to him by helping her as much as possible!
But when a guy doesn’t care about your problems, it means that his love for you isn’t real.
Why? Because if he really cared about her, then there’d be no way in hell she wouldn’t be his priority at all times.
Just think about it.
Does he care about your problems? Does he try to help you fix them? Or does he completely ignore them and pretend they don’t exist?
If he loved you, then he’d care. If a guy really cares about you, then he’ll make sure that your problems are gone as soon as possible because they’re bothering him too!
And you know what else?
It would be impossible for him to spend so much time without thinking about how much she means to him – because she would mean everything!
And if not caring sounds familiar to you, then you should consider it as another clear sign that his love for you is fake. Otherwise, he wouldn’t be able to spend so much time without thinking about your problems!
12) He’s overly protective of his phone
This one is a bit tricky yet simple.
If he’s faking his love for you, there’s a good chance that he’ll become overly protective of his phone. That’s because he’ll be afraid that you might see something on it that will make you think less of him.
So if he keeps his phone locked all the time and you can never see what’s on it, then he doesn’t trust you. And if he doesn’t trust you, then that means his love for you isn’t real!
Of course, sharing all of his messages and telling you everything he doesn’t might be a sign of a healthy relationship.
But if you notice that he intentionally tries to hide something, then he’s definitely not being genuine.
When a guy is in love with a girl, he’ll want to share everything with her. He’ll want to tell her all the secrets that he’s keeping from everyone else.
And he’ll want to show her all the pictures he has stored on his phone as well as any other personal things he keeps on it.
But when a guy is overly protective of his phone, it means that there are things on there that shouldn’t be shared with anyone…and especially not with his girlfriend!
And if you’re girlfriend doesn’t see this as a red flag, then she probably doesn’t see the signs of an abusive relationship very clearly either!
13) He never pays attention to you
Have you ever asked a guy for his attention and he’s just been ignoring you?
Or maybe he’s not even paying attention to what you’re saying?
If so, then he’s probably not serious about you, because if he was, then he would have paid attention to you. And if a guy doesn’t pay attention to you, then it means that he’s not interested in seeing things from your point of view.
And if he doesn’t see things from your point of view, then it means that his feelings for you aren’t real.
But before you jump to conclusions, it’s important to note that some guys are just naturally bad at paying attention to people.
So if he seems to be having trouble paying attention, then it’s probably not a sign that he’s not being sincere.
However, if you’re in a relationship with him and he’s been acting this way for months… then his lack of attention is definitely a sign that his love is fake!
So, try to be mindful of this sign and react if you catch it in your boyfriend!
14) He asks for favors all the time
If a guy is constantly asking you for favors, then it means that he’s not being as respectful as he should be.
And if he’s not being respectful, then his love isn’t genuine!
Here’s how it works:
A man who truly loves a woman will want to treat her with respect and make her happy. So if he never does anything to make you happy, then you know his feelings aren’t real!
For example, does he ask you for money all the time? Or maybe he asks you to do things that he should be doing himself.
Guys can be really stingy sometimes and will ask for money from their girlfriends even if they have enough of it themselves.
If your boyfriend constantly asks for money from you even though there is more than enough in his bank account or wallet, then this might be a sign that something isn’t right between the two of you and that there’s no real love between the two of you (or at least not as much as both of you would like).
15) He blames you for everything
Let’s imagine a scenario:
You’re out with your boyfriend, and you’re having a great time. But then, he starts to get upset about something.
And instead of talking to you about it, he just starts blaming you for all the problems that are going on in his life.
If this happens to you all the time, then something is wrong!
I mean, why should he blame you for something that he’s doing wrong?
And if he’s doing this all the time, then it means that he lacks maturity and is not capable of being a good boyfriend.
So, if you’re certain he’s blaming you for things you haven’t done wrong, then please be careful! And don’t get caught up in his drama.
And that thing is that he’s trying to make himself feel better by putting the blame on you for everything that goes wrong in his life. This is a clear sign that his love for you isn’t real! He’s just faking it.
So if this happens to you, then don’t let him get away with it!
Tell him how ridiculous it is and make him realize why he should start taking responsibility for himself. Because if he doesn’t, then nothing will ever get better between the two of you.
16) He often puts other people above you
Here’s one of the no bullsh*t signs that he doesn’t really love you:
If he often puts other people before you and spends time with them instead of you, then there’s something wrong!
It’s not normal for a boyfriend to have a lot of friends or spend more time with his friends than he spends with his girlfriend. It’s also not normal for him to spend a lot of time on social media or playing games on the computer.
If he does these things, then it just shows that he isn’t interested in spending time with you. And if this is the case, then something definitely isn’t right between the two of you.
And if this happens all the time and he never wants to hang out with you, then that means he doesn’t love you as much as you think.
He just wants to use you for his own selfish reasons and isn’t really interested in getting to know who you are.
So be careful!
Don’t let yourself get used by someone like this because it can be really hard to get over it once they’ve left your life!
17) His words and actions aren’t consistent
And the final sign that a guy is faking his love for you is that his words and actions aren’t consistent.
What do I mean here?
Well, it’s a fact that we all say things and do things that are contradictory. But if this happens often, then there’s definitely something wrong between the two of you!
And if he says one thing but does another, then he’s just not being honest with himself or the people around him. And this is why his words and actions aren’t consistent!
And guess what?
The fact that he’s inconsistent will likely make both of you really miserable. And it’ll also put a lot of stress on your relationship that isn’t necessary. And here’s why:
A real man will never say one thing and do another!
If you think he does, then that means he’s not being sincere about who he is. And if a guy isn’t sincere about who he is, then he’s not right for you!
Final thoughts
So there they are: the 17 most obvious signs that a guy doesn’t love you!
If he does any of these things, then just know that he isn’t being honest with himself or the people around him.
He’s just faking it for some selfish reason only known to him and no one else.
So don’t let yourself get caught up in this kind of drama because it can really take a toll on your emotional well-being over time!
Just remember: if something seems too good to be true, then you should keep these no bullsh*t signs that a guy is faking his love in your mind.
