How to get out of the friend zone with a guy through texting

In this blog, we share with you some of our best advice for getting out of the friend zone.

As it turns out, texting – a form of communication that is easier to use than traditional ways such as talking or being present in person – is great for breaking the ice and making progress with a guy you find attractive without blowing the whole thing up.

These techniques are easy to use both on someone you’re interested in and someone who is not yet interested in you.

Here, we will talk about how to get out of the friend zone with a guy through texting.

1) Be direct.

You have to realize that if you want to get out of the friend zone, you will have to take a step forward in the relationship.

Text things like “I’m so glad I have a good friend like you”.

Or mention how good they make you feel, which is a very easy way to let them know that they’re in your thoughts when you care about the friendship.

Say things that are true and honest – but don’t lie or exaggerate either!

You want to let him know that yes, he’s a great friend now, but it would be awesome if there could be more between the two of you.

A good way to do this is just by being honest. Be direct, tell him how you feel, and let him know what’s really on your mind.

Be willing to open up and be vulnerable. See if you can hook him into what you’re going through, and see if he cares.

If he’s not interested in dating, then don’t play games and just move on.

2) Be assertive.

Don’t be afraid to take a step forward and be a bit more assertive with your actions.

For example, think of something fun you can do together, such as a picnic or a bike ride in the park.

Don’t be afraid to text him and ask him out on a date and be more flirtatious so that it’s obvious that you’re interested in him rather than just being friends.

It will only work if he feels the same way about you though, so if he is not interested just accept it and move on with your life.

3) Use humor to get out of the friend zone with a guy over text messaging mediums.

Humor is a great way to break up the friend zone and make him see you in a new light and for you to be more interesting.

Initially, he has been seeing you in his mind as just a friend, but when he sees you as funny, charming, and sexy, that will help him see that there is something more to your relationship than he thought.

For example, tease him about something that happened between the two of you through text messages so it can seem like flirting or playful banter.

However, make sure it’s light-hearted and not confrontational or mean. That is not the voice that you want to have to break through and get out of the friend zone.

A good way to say something flirtatious without coming on too strong would be things like “I’m glad I have you to talk to because I need someone who understands me.”

Or thank him for being there for you, but then let him know that you wouldn’t mind if he was there in other ways as well!

4) Be open-minded.

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When a guy is friends with you, he will feel more comfortable around you and be more open to talking about things because he feels like he can be himself.

He’s more willing to tell you about his problems and discuss his life with you. Keep your communication lines open and build up your conversations.

You don’t want to just keep doing the same thing because that’s going to make you appear boring or clingy, so try new things with him.

That way it could create some problems throughout the relationship and ultimately help break through the friend zone.

If he’s not interested, then ask why to see if that’s something you can work on.

It only takes the right words to say to get him interested in you.

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According to James Bauer, men don’t actually need a lot to feel content in their relationships. In fact, what they need has nothing to do with sex.

Men have certain innate drivers. And when a woman comes along and triggers them, it causes a powerful response. The result is a man who loves harder, commits wholeheartedly, and truly dedicates himself to the relationship.

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Here’s a link to the free video again.

5) Be honest about what you want.

You can’t hide how you feel about him.

If you like a guy and he has no idea, then you absolutely have to tell him.

But don’t just go into texting “I like you” and force it on him because that will come across as really awkward and suspicious.

Be honest with what you want from him and what your thoughts are about the relationship that is developing between the two of you.

You might have been friends for a long time, but if he’s been crushing on you for a long time too then he will feel thrilled to hear how you feel about him.

It’s going to help you out in the long run if you can keep your goals in mind and speak out about them with him.

Also, always be confident in what you want.

A guy will take things more seriously when he’s talking to someone confident and not afraid of him at all.

You may also text him and ask him what he wants, but don’t make it into an interrogation.

If he says that he just wants to be friends with you and hang out, then let him know how great that is, but how do you feel about dating?

Once you start getting more comfortable with your relationship it will become easier for both of you until things progress from there.

Regardless of the answer, you get back, just be open and honest with him.

Overall, when you make your moves on a guy through text messaging, don’t end up being too hesitant in what you say either because it will only come off as clingy or weird if that’s the case with you.

If he thinks you’re clingy or weird for asking these questions, then it’s not going to work out in the long run anyway.

6) Contact him throughout the day.

Sometimes you want to run out of things to say, so if you’re in a situation like that or just bored, don’t hesitate to contact him during the day for some extra entertainment.

Text him something funny that he might like, and we are sure he will appreciate your thoughtfulness and have something interesting to talk about with you later on!

You should also ask him questions about his life because it will give you an insight into his personality and the things that he likes doing and the problems that he has with other people in his life.

If you’re feeling shy about asking him questions, just tell him that you want to know more about him and let him ask you questions as well.

Keep it light and casual, but keep him in the picture.

Don’t just be in his head, try to add him into your day and make it a part of yours as well.

Don’t forget to have fun with it!

7) Break up conversations with “Can we talk about this later?”

If he is not interested in dating you, then don’t go on into a debate about why he should or shouldn’t be interested in you.

You want to show that you are not trying to push anything on him, so say something like “I don’t know what you want, but I’m not going to argue with you. Let’s talk about this later,” and drop it.

He might have something to say, but if not then just forget about it for that time, but don’t forget about the problem either.

You don’t want to just be one of his friends forever.

After breaking up the conversation with “Can we talk about this later?”, let him think about it while you go on with your day.

If you both decide not to talk again, then at least you know that he doesn’t want something more than friendship and that you should move on because your efforts aren’t being rewarded by him.

But if he does want to keep the friendship and if you feel like he sees a possibility of being more than friends with you in the future, then you are in for a ride.

I suggest you seek help from a professional to take your friendship to the next level.

I mentioned this fascinating concept earlier: the hero instinct. When a man’s inner hero is triggered, he’s more likely to see you in a different light and take your relationship to the next step.

Just by knowing the right things to say to him, you’ll open a part of him that no woman has ever reached before.

And the best way to do so is by watching this free video by James Bauer. In it, he’ll reveal simple phrases and texts you can use to make your man truly yours.

Here’s a link to the excellent video again.

8) Be yourself!

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If you want to get out of the friend zone, then it’s going to take some time.

But always be yourself whenever possible.

Don’t try too hard to make him like you or fall in love with you, because it could cause a rift between you and him.

Don’t try to force things on him and be more “Ms. Attractive” because you don’t want to come off as take, but at the same time, you don’t want to be perceived as boring either.

Stay true to yourself, but remember that you are playing a game of flirtation and intrigue, so someone’s going to have to put up a little effort on their end if they want something in return.

If he doesn’t know how attracted he is to you yet, then keep flirting with him and asking him out just to see how he acts when confronted with the idea of being with you.

The easiest person you could be is yourself and not try to be someone that makes people like you or think that they have something in common with you.

If he does like you and wants to get to know you better, then it will happen naturally, but if not, then don’t worry about it.

If he wants a friend, then be his friend. Don’t try to make him like you or fall in love with you when nothing is happening with this relationship.

There is plenty of fish in the sea!

It’s going to take time for him to get comfortable with dating someone so this is where patience and being yourself come into play.

9) No more beating around the bush.

If you want someone to go from being your friend to a boyfriend, then it’s probably going to take you asking him out and telling him how you feel about him.

There is no way around that.

If he has feelings for you as well, then it will be accepted right away, but if not, then just don’t contact him again.

Don’t give him any second chances if he doesn’t respond right away because if he isn’t interested in dating you and wants to remain your friend forever then that means that he is not going to change his mind.

So how will you text him about it? Tell him that you’re not going to give up on him and that you want to get to know him better, but if he doesn’t respond then it’s okay.

Don’t just assume that he doesn’t want anything more than friendship and try to push for something more than that.

If he doesn’t want anything more than your friendship, then let him know right away because with a person like that there is no room for someone like you.

10) Don’t take rejection personally.

If you have to text and ask your friend out on a date and he says “No” back to you, then don’t take it personally.

It’s not personal, it’s just that he is not into dating right now.

Even if he does turn you down the first time around, don’t give up hope on him because it’s a chance that you don’t want to miss.

If he needs a little more time, then give him some space and let him think about it.

If you see an opportunity, then pursue it! Don’t become discouraged because of one rejection.

Each time that he says no or gives you the cold shoulder, just add another piece to your puzzle to see how it fits into your plan on taking your status one step ahead.

Just wait for the next opening that you get to take him out on a date or tell him about how you feel about him.

Don’t let rejections get in your way because there will always be people who reject you until someone accepts you, so keep yourself busy and pursue your goals and dreams while you wait for the right moment to come along.


See, this guide can be useful for you in a lot of ways. This is the reason why I am sharing this guide with you all.

As you can see, it’s not always easy to be a good friend to a guy, but if you are patient and know what you’re doing, then things will surely turn out okay in the end.

I hope that you liked it and find it useful for you all.

But before you go, here is a simple reminder.

I touched on the hero instinct earlier – it’s the perfect remedy for the situation you’re facing.


Because once a man’s hero instinct is triggered, he’ll only have eyes for you. You’ll reach a part of him that no woman has ever managed to reach before.

And in return, he’ll be compelled to commit to you and love you like he’s never loved another woman.

So if you’re ready to take that plunge and reach new heights in your relationship, make sure to check out relationship expert James Bauer’s invaluable advice.

Click here to watch the excellent free video.

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Jude Paler

I am a poet with a positive outlook in life and a writer with a purpose in mind. I write to express my thoughts so that others will be inspired.

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