How to date beautiful women (even when they’re hotter than you)

When we’re trying to meet women, it can be hard not to feel intimidated.

Pretty girls are everywhere and they seem to be in a different league than us.

It’s important to remember that many of these so-called “hot babes” have experienced the same challenges as you – including how dating is an uphill battle for most of us.

Let’s just right in:

How to date women hotter than you

Guys tend to have set ideas about beautiful women – such as they’re vain and unattainable – which makes them too scared to approach.

If you want to date beautiful women that are hotter than you, there are a few things you need to know:

1) They have insecurities

The key to dating beauty is knowing that even the hottest girls sometimes feel insecure about themselves – in other words, they’re only human.

If you understand how to deal with her insecurity, then how you look will not matter as much.

Beautiful women are often insecure about their intelligence because people tend to assume that just because they’re beautiful it means that they’re dumb.

They’re also insecure about their bodies and how other people react to them (yes, even if they’re drop-dead gorgeous). This is why so many women have weird hang-ups about their weight, hair, or height.

The secret is to get a girl to open up about her insecurities. Once she’s done that, you need to assure her she’s beautiful and smart and that you like her and think she’s special.

2) Not all beautiful women are vain

News flash – not all beautiful women are vain!

She’s probably been told that she is beautiful her whole life and might just not care.

For most of us average-looking people, beautiful women seem like they live in a totally different universe.

And yeah, sometimes they do. It often seems like they have more opportunities than the average person does.

But don’t write them off as snobs; most of them are just regular people who are only concerned with living their life and having fun. The same as you!

The bottom line is that while some beautiful women are obsessed with their looks and use them to move up in the world, the rest don’t care about how pretty they are and may even find their looks burdensome and wish people would look beyond their pretty exterior.

3) They have feelings too

Now, people tend to forget that beautiful women have feelings too.

Often, less attractive jealous women make snide remarks about them and call them names like “bimbo”, while men use them to show off, the way they would an expensive sports car.

Just because someone looks good doesn’t mean that they don’t have feelings and that you can treat them any old way. That person is just as human as you are.

To make a point: The next time you see a beautiful woman, stop being intimidated by her looks and remember that underneath that pretty exterior she just wants to be treated the same way all women do; with respect and care.

4) They’re not just pretty faces

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Here’s a news flash: You can be drop-dead gorgeous and a rocket scientist!

Many guys tend to forget that looks are not the only attribute of a woman. Beautiful women can be as smart, funny, sweet, mean, kind, happy, angry, and curious as any other woman out there.

And the beautiful women who are intelligent and have a good sense of humor tend to be especially fun to be around.

All in all, the next time you’re in front of a hot girl, remember, just because she’s beautiful doesn’t mean that she’s dumb.

What are women attracted to?

If you’re not the most handsome guy on the planet, it doesn’t mean that you can’t get a hot girl.

If you want her to say yes to a date with you, you need to learn what women are attracted to.

While some hot girls are attracted to hot guys, others look for different qualities in a guy.

1) Intelligent guys

Here’s the deal: When a woman meets a smart a guy, she knows that he will be able to challenge her mentally.

She will also appreciate your ability to carry on a conversation with her about topics that are both interesting and intellectual.

What can you do to make sure you’re both intellectually stimulated and enjoying each other’s company?

There are several things you can do to ensure that your date is invigorating:

  • Express an interest in her life – including her work, her life goals, and her family.
  • Get involved in the conversation, make sure to tell her about yourself.
  • Don’t be afraid to express a difference of opinion. If you don’t agree with something, explain why you feel that way in a constructive way (without forcing your ideas and opinions on her of course).
  • Bring up a wide range of subjects and see which one interests her the most – from art to travel to movies to animals and nature.

2) Assertive guys

In my experience, women tend to like a leader.

You see, she wants the guy who will make decisions and take charge of the situation.

She doesn’t want some hesitant and wishy-washy guy. She wants a guy who knows what he’s doing and who is comfortable with the idea of being the leader.

The key to being an assertive guy is to know that you are more than capable of leading and taking charge. Don’t think of yourself as someone who needs to be led; instead, strive for leadership – both in your life in general and when dating.

3) Trustworthy guys

Women want a guy who they can trust.

Trustworthy guys are guys women can open up to. They can rely on them to be there when times get tough.

What’s more, if you’re a trustworthy guy it means you’ll be loyal and faithful to her.

Guys who are trustworthy are open and honest and make women feel safe.

4) A sense of humor

Women want a guy who can make them laugh. In fact, for some women, this is the most important trait they’re looking for in a man.

Life’s too short to spend being serious all the time.

A sense of humor is one of the first qualities a guy needs to have when he’s trying to get a girl to like him.

Whether you’re sharing an inside joke, sending her a funny text message, or cracking up at your own lame joke, it’s important you can make her laugh.

And the best part? Women find guys with a great sense of humor sexy. She’ll likely be giggling at your silly antics and will think fondly of you.

5) Guys who like adventure

Guys who are able to lead exciting and fun lives are always attractive to women.

What can you do to lead an exciting lifestyle?

Try out new sports. For example, you can learn how to scuba dive or go hiking in the mountains. Or you can go even further and go swimming with sharks and bungee jumping.

Think about it. There are lots of things you can do if you’re looking for adventure and excitement.

Be open to new experiences and don’t be too predictable.

Become a “yes man” and stop saying “no” to new things.

I know it can be hard sometimes. You’d much rather be at home in your pyjamas watching TV than going out on a cold winter night to do something new and exciting. Well, too bad.

If you want a hot girl, then you gotta make the effort.

How to talk to beautiful women

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Well, you can start by understanding that they’re just people. Just because you’re talking to a beautiful woman doesn’t mean you should be intimidated or act like a bumbling idiot.

If you can just get over their physical appearance, you’re much more likely to attract the right type of woman for you.

Women want guys who are confident and in control of their lives and bodies.

When she sees that you look confident, she will think it’s sexy. She’ll also appreciate your ability to talk about anything with her.

If you’re boring and one-dimensional, she’ll likely find other guys who are more interesting to be around.

What else can you do to make sure your flirting techniques are effective?

Make sure your body language is good. Good body language is one that shows you’re attractive, confident, and in charge.

You should have your posture strong and confident.

Your stance should be upright with your feet shoulder-width apart.

Your shoulders should be back and your hands should be relaxed by your side with the fingers spread out like a fan. Your head should be aligned directly below the center of gravity, which is in the middle of your neck and extending out through the spine.

When you’re speaking to beautiful women, it’s important that they can hear you well. If they can’t hear what you’re saying or if they feel disconnected from what you’re saying, they won’t like talking to you as much. So look her straight in the eyes and don’t mumble.

The most common mistake men make with hot girls

There are some common mistakes that guys keep making with hot girls.

1) Thinking of hot women as trophies

I know lots of men who think of hot women as trophies (hence the term “trophy wife”). They’re the ones spending thousands of dollars on fancy dinners, vacations, and diamonds.

But in the end, most of them don’t get very far. That’s because they’re not treating these women as people, but as things, as trophies to show around to their friends and peers when they go out.

What’s more, hot women can smell these men from a mile away! They avoid these men because they want to be with a guy who will appreciate them for who they are.

2) Thinking they’re too good to ask out

Here’s a common mistake that most of us have made at least once in our lives.

We tend to put beautiful women up on a pedestal and think of them as goddesses or something; like they’re too good to ask out.

But that’s ridiculous, beautiful women are people and like everyone else. They too want someone to talk to them and to see them for who they are.

Think about it:

Would you like it if you were the most attractive person in the world and wanted a date but no one ever asked you out?

Of course not. Well, beautiful women want the same thing.

This doesn’t mean that you’ll never face rejection. But you will never know if a woman is interested in you unless you ask her out.

Try it, you might just be surprised.

3) Ignoring her needs and wants

Here’s the thing, women don’t like guys who ignore their needs and wants.

They want someone who will be able to spend time with them, understand them and also listen to their needs and wants.

Nobody wants to be with someone who makes all the decisions and doesn’t take an interest in the other person.

So before you assume that you already know what she wants or that she likes the same things as you do – take the time to get to know her.

Ask her what she wants to do. Ask her what she’d like to eat instead of ordering for her in a restaurant – like she can’t order her own meal.

4) Having a one-track mind

If you want to go out with a hot girl because you’re only after sex, then she’ll see right through you.

Unless she’s only looking for a one-night stand, chances are that she’s going to want more.

So, take the time to know her as a person. See if you two have things in common. While sex is important, it’s not everything in life.

Then the next time you guys are going out, have some fun, have a good time with her, and see where the relationship goes from there.

5) Having the wrong body language

Women are very perceptive and they read body language very well.

You want to come off as confident and assertive, without appearing threatening in any way.

Some guys try too hard to appear confident and end up being pushy and annoying, effectively scaring the woman off.

I’ve seen it happen to many male friends of mine who get too frustrated when they don’t get the results they want. They put on this air of confidence and act like a jerk to the women so that the women will want them. But we all know that’s a huge turn off for both men and women.

So it’s important to keep your cool and stay calm when talking to women.

That way you’ll appear confident, in control, and attractive in front of her without being obnoxious or threatening to her at all.

Here are a few tips:

  • First of all, let her know that you’re interested in her by making eye contact with her. Look at her as if she’s the only woman in the world and make sure she knows that you aren’t talking to anyone else.
  • Lean in towards her without crowding her.
  • Don’t cross your arms or clench your fists. You want to appear open to getting to know her.

6) They make inappropriate jokes

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When you’re nervous, it’s easy to resort to humor.

You might think that making a joke will make you seem more relaxed and appear more confident. But that’s not always the case.

Instead of making you seem more relaxed and confident, your jokes may come across as lame or even offensive.

It’s also very hard for a woman who doesn’t know you to tell if you’re joking or not, which can be off-putting because it makes her feel like she doesn’t know how to take you.

In essence, when talking with hot women, just stick with the light humor instead of using lame jokes just to cover up nervousness.

7) Having the wrong attitude

Many guys have the wrong idea about how to approach hot girls.

They think that in order to get her, they need to be pushy or obnoxious. That’s not true. The only way you’re going to get the woman of your dreams is if you’ve got the right attitude.

It’s very important for you to be calm and relaxed with a beautiful woman because even if she was initially interested in you, she may not feel like she has any reason to go out on a date with someone who tries too hard.

8) Treating them like dirt

I don’t know who started this trend but I’ve seen it in many movies and TV shows.

One guy always tells his friend that the secret to making a gorgeous girl fall for him is to make her feel like crap about herself.

He says that because everyone treats pretty women well, if you treat them like dirt and play to their insecurities, they’ll fall for you!

Er, no! Talk about misinformation!

That’s not how it works. If you want to get a hot girl, the best way is to treat her with respect. Be kind and polite. Don’t make fun of them or belittle them in any way.

9) Not handling rejection well enough

If a woman rejects you, an important part of learning how to get a hot girl is learning how to handle that rejection in the right way.

Don’t act like a jerk.

Don’t give her the whole “I’m a nice guy, I deserve a chance” spiel.

10) They’re too slow to make a move

I understand that you may want to take your time before asking a hot girl out, but if you wait too long, you risk being friend-zoned.

And once you’re in the friend zone, it’s going to be a lot harder (maybe even impossible) to get her to go out with you than if you had just asked her out in the first place.

11) They try too hard

Some guys try too hard and end up looking like idiots most of the time.

It’s better to let a woman think you’re cool and laid back instead of appearing desperate and like you’re trying too hard to get her.

Sealing the deal

And there you have it, this article should help you get any beautiful woman to go out with you.

If you want to learn some techniques on how to be more assertive and confident, and how to avoid being friend-zoned, I’d suggest listening to what relationship expert Kate Spring has to say.

She’s transformed dating and relationships for thousands of men.

One of the most valuable things she teaches is this:

Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.

Women don’t like assholes because they’re assholes. They like assholes because those guys are confident and they give off the right signals to them. The sort of signals a woman can’t resist.

What if I told you that you could quickly learn the right signals to give to women – and you absolutely don’t need to become an asshole in the process?

Check out this free video by Kate Spring.

She reveals the most effective method I’ve come across to make women obsessed with you (whilst remaining a good guy).

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I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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