14 surefire ways to challenge a woman to chase you

Are you tired of chasing a woman and getting her attention but nothing seems to work? Wouldn’t it be great to change the dynamic and inspire them to come to you instead?

We, women, are viewed as complicated individuals, but it’s not that difficult to make a woman fall for you.

And I’m sure you want to know the secrets to win a woman’s heart and mind with tricks that work every time.

Let’s go over the ways to make this happen.

How to make a woman chase you? 14 easy ways that work

Most men spend time talking about where to meet women, how to start a conversation or ask her out. All these will be icing on the cake once you hit the Holy Grail: challenge a woman to chase you.

Here’s the truth,

A guy who never chases is someone who ultimately gets the girl.

So once you master the art of making a woman chase you, not only will your dating life change for the better but you’ll also turn to become the man of her dreams.

1) Make your first impression magnetic

First impressions always count. They are powerful and lasting so you have to make your meeting memorable.

Forget about those dirty pick-up lines – it’ll only be a major turn-off! Getting nervous and insecure are total attraction killers too.

Believe me; when you nail the first impression, a woman will see how interesting you are. And it will turn out to be love at first sight.

But when you screw things up or ruin your first date with her, it might be your last one.

So here’s the key: Be confident.

Smile at her. Start a conversation and show some interest.

When you genuinely listen when she talks, she’ll also get curious wherein she wants to know more about you.

2) Be physically irresistible

Okay, you don’t have to look perfect or wear the most expensive clothes out there. You only have to be clean, presentable, and desirable enough.

Looking confidently attractive is enough to make a woman desire and chase you.

Yes, we like it when a man takes care of his physical appearance. And we’re crazy for men who smell good too.

It’s time that you invest in yourself. When you look good and attractive, it will boost your confidence and self-esteem.

Here are easy tips you can be an attractive man:

  • Exercise and eat healthy
  • Get a good hairstyle
  • Wear proper clothes that fit you
  • Spray a scent that works for you
  • Practice good hygiene

3) Challenge her to keep things interesting

Remember this: when a woman has to work hard to get your affection, the more valuable you’ll become to her.

So be a challenge to her. Don’t be that needy, desperate, and eager-to-please guy.

Instead of doing all the effort, create situations where she has to do the chasing (without being obvious about it).

Be different from the rest of the men out there.

You have to come across as someone who has a lot of things going on in his life. Make her curious about you and your life.

4) Use your body language to seduce

Even if you’re good at talking to women, there’s a lot more to it than that.

You can seduce her and make her chase you without talking. And you can do it just by using appropriate body language.

Give these a try to see which works best for you:

  • Mirror her moves to set a sense of familiarity
  • Make lingering eye contact and meet her gaze
  • Smile every time you talk to her – it makes you look relaxed and fun
  • Stand out with your killer stance – it signals confidence and strength
  • Lean in for a few seconds – it shows you want her
  • But, lean out most of the time – and get her to chase you

But what if you haven’t mastered using your body language to seduce a woman you’re attracted to?

Well, then maybe you should reach out to professionals in the field to receive guidance. 

Based on my experience, I would recommend a certified coach at Relationship Hero. In fact, this is a website where I found this special coach who helped turn things around for me.

They are perfectly placed to help you with mastering body language to seduce women too.

The best part is that they will provide personalized advice to improve your love life and understand how you can improve your romantic relationships.

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5) Keep the mystery flowing

When there’s a sense of mystery in you, it can make you look like an irresistible alpha male.

This means that you don’t have to lay all your cards out in the open. You won’t get anywhere if you reveal too much of yourself on a first date.

Instead, be mysterious so she never knows what to expect from you.

And avoid sharing every information about yourself on your social media.

That mystery factor will make her get drawn toward you. If she desires you, she’ll get curious and would want to know more about you.

Let your enigma create an intense sexual tension that will make her chase you more than ever before.

6) Pay her sincere compliments

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Compliments create a magical effect as they have the power to make her day better.  However, you should be careful not to overdo this.

You don’t always have to compliment her looks alone – for she’s likely to receive it most of the time. Make it known that you see her more than her physical beauty.

For instance, you can compliment her ideas, personality, strength, skills – and even the way she cooks. It could even be those little things that will make her feel good about herself.

And when you compliment her, be sincere.

7) Get to know her better

Be interested in getting to know more about her – what she likes, her passions, and dreams in life. When she talks, listen attentively without interrupting her.

Make sure you avoid asking silly questions or details.

Here’s the key:

Don’t question her about her ex-boyfriends or the type of man she’s looking for right away.

Even if she knows that you’re interested in her, it will confuse her why you don’t want to talk about her love life.

Show that you’re equally interested in her – and you’ll be all she needs.

8) Use the element of desire in action

Being always there for the woman in your life could give her the impression that you’re needy and desperate. And this is the last thing you’d want to happen.

It’s better to pull back and give space from time to time.

Remember, you want her to do the chasing and not the other way around. So it’s perfectly fine if you pull back a bit. This way, she’ll get to notice your absence – and might miss you when you’re not around.

Here’s one thing you can try to do:

When you’re out with friends, don’t reply right away when she messages you. Instead, post a photo of you having a great time out there.

This would drive her crazy that she’ll want to spend time with you.

9) Be mindful of the small details

Here’s the truth:

Women love it when men give them special attention. And the anticipation of receiving that attention is the thing that drives them crazy.

This means that you don’t always have to buy her flashy gifts or shower her with obvious compliments.

We’re a sucker for small details.

So if you’re on a date, tell her how her dress reminds you of your favorite romantic movie. Or tell her that you dreamed about her last night or she’s in your thoughts during those days when you’re out of town.

When she hears this, she’ll want to hear more from you.

10) Inspire her mind

To make a woman chase you, you have to get to her mind.

Here are some tricks that work:

  • Send her a meme that you know she’s interested in
  • Show that you care about every little thing she says
  • Embrace her good and not-so-good sides
  • Value her opinions and respect her choices
  • Surprise her with short and sweet dates
  • Be interested in knowing her friends and family members
  • Put an effort to look good for her
  • Make her believe she can trust you

Yes, women seek mental intimacy too. Ask her interesting questions and engage in deep conversations with her.

When you make him think about you, she’ll get more obsessed with you. And when this happens, then you’re already so close to getting her heart.

11) Charm her with your humor

Most women see humor as an attractive skill that makes a man sexy.

Having a good sense of humor can do wonders and it’s a surefire way to make a woman chase you. That’s why when you can make a woman laugh, she’ll want to be around you more often.

But, know your boundaries. Avoid sarcasm, being ‘cocky,’ and jokes that will make you creepy.

You don’t have to tell jokes all the time or be a comedian at all. Sometimes, being able to take things lightly and find humor in things around you is enough to make her heart smile.

A woman gets drawn to a man who can make her laugh genuinely. And these positive feelings that you bring to her are something she can’t ignore.

12) You don’t have to be around her all the time

If you want her to chase you, don’t always be there whenever she looks for you.

It sounds harsh and I know you want to see her and be with her. But then, how will you know if she’s interested in seeing you or if she’s missing you?

Here’s the thing: Give her the element of desire to make her chase you.

Keep these important points in mind:

  • Don’t cancel your plans for her
  • Don’t text her back right away

When you keep canceling your plans with friends just to spend time with her, she’ll start to think you’re too easy and desperate. The same is true when you reply to her messages immediately.

Know that waiting to reply to someone back is a tactical game – and you have to win this.

So make it known that you have a life. Make her wait for a while so she’ll get curious about what’s keeping you busy.

13) Be emotionally available

Okay, you don’t have to linger and hang out all the time to build anticipation. But make sure that you’ll be there for her especially when she needs you.

Know that a woman gets turned off by an emotionally withdrawn man.

If you can sense that she needs someone to talk to and keep her company, or if she needs a shoulder to cry on, be there for her.

Be the kind of man who genuinely cares.

Show that you care and validate her feelings without telling her that she’s being too dramatic.

And the important thing you need to do is to be emotionally available yourself. Know that it’s fine to be vulnerable. Be respectful, reliable, and compassionate.

14) Stop chasing her!

Keep this in mind: The moment you stop chasing women, that’s the time when they’ll start chasing you.

No matter how much you like her – and even if you’ve succeeded in making her chase you – never chase her.

It’s time for a change and some role reversal.

Don’t keep following her around or be a desperate Romeo who stands outside her balcony every night.

You don’t have to be a love-sick puppy similar to what every other guy is doing.

Better build a sense of mystery and create a tension that attracts them.

Use the reverse psychology tactic that will make her seek you instead of the other way around.

Yes, you can win her heart when she ends up chasing you.

Want to make her yours? Here’s what to do

When you want a woman to chase you, you have to take matters into your own hands. If you let your confidence do the work while giving her the element of surprise, you should succeed.

This all relates back to the incredible advice I learned from Kate Spring. She’s transformed dating and relationships for thousands of men.

How? One of the most valuable pieces of advice I learned from her was this:

Women don’t choose the guy who will treat them the best. They choose guys they are deeply attracted to at a biological level.

Women don’t like assholes because they’re assholes. They like assholes because those guys are confident and they give off the right signals to them. The sort of signals a woman can’t resist.

Does this mean that you have to become an asshole to make a woman chase you?

Absolutely not! Kate Spring reveals the most effective method to make a woman chase you whilst remaining a good guy in her free video.

In it, she also teaches the right signals to give to a woman if you want her to like you so much that she becomes obsessed with you.

Here’s the link to the free video again.

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Czaroma Roman

Czaroma is a content strategist and copywriter with a purposeful mindset. She finds fulfillment in crafting content for entrepreneurs and life coaches. In a place of love and growth, she's raising a tribe of three with her husband - and writes to inspire people to create impactful relationships. Connect with her on LinkedIn and Instagram. Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/czaroma LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/czaroma-roman-39a55117/

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