15 no bullsh*t ways to ask a girl if she likes you (complete list)

Are you in a relationship with a girl and want to know if she likes you? If yes, then we have some good news for you.

There are simple ways through which you can find out if that special someone likes you or not.

Here are 15 tips on how to ask a girl if she likes you.

1) Ask your female friends

Your female friends are the best sources to find out if a girl likes you. Ask your female friends about the girl you like and if they have observed any hidden hints from her to know she likes you.

They can easily spot things like her interest in you, change in behavior, or any action that she is trying to hide from you.

Also, it gets better if you two have mutual friends. These mutual friends can also help you in the same. Just be sure to let them know you are planning to ask the girl out and they can help you out in the process.

2) Watch out for jealous behavior

Here’s an interesting fact:

If she likes you, she will most likely show her jealousy. But if she is not really into you and only trying to impress you, she will be very passive, less reactive, and unemotional.

This reaction is a perfect indication for you because it shows the person’s true feelings. So instead of asking directly, observe her jealous behavior.

For example, you are talking with your female friend, and she suddenly becomes quiet and stares into space. This can mean that she is interested in you. Or if she leaves the room suddenly to go somewhere, then it’s safe to say she has feelings for you.

3) Test her feelings by talking about the future

Another thing that can tell you how she feels about you is by talking about the future.

You can start with these questions:

  • “What are you going to do after college?”
  • “Where would you like to settle down in life?”
  • “What is the best part of being with me?”

This can test her interest in you. But the key here is how you engage her in this conversation because if the girl dislikes you, she will surely find an excuse to dodge the conversation.

To make her talk, try to be very casual, slow on asking questions, and keep an open mind. Be a good listener and avoid any unnecessary questions like “when are we going to start dating?”

I know it’s hard to be a good conversationalist, but I also had a tough time with it at first. But the good news is, that the more you practice, the better you will become.

There are 3 steps that you should follow in order to be a good conversationalist: Keep your body language relaxed, keep eye contact and be confident, and avoid sounding boring.

4) Check to see if she is responsive while chatting with you over social media or texting

We all know the best way to check whether a girl likes you is by asking her directly. But you can test her interest in you by checking how she responds to your texts. So the next time you are chatting with her over social media or texting, pay close attention to the following things:

  • Does she respond quickly?
  • Does she try to make it sound like a conversation?
  • Does she seem like she is reading through the messages when you send them?

This can tell you whether she is interested in knowing more about you or not. It’s a good sign if she likes you.

Furthermore, the times that she responds to your messages are just like how she reacts to your texts when you are talking to her.

It means that she is getting used to your craziness and likes it because we all know that girls respond well when they feel they enjoy conversing with the guy they like.

5) Try coincidental meetings

You might think that seeing each other in an unusual scenario would be a bad idea, as it may seem too awkward. But it is actually a pretty good idea to approach her, especially if she has been giving you signals about her interest in you.

It’s also a good idea to check for signs that she might be interested in you by checking for random coincidences.

For example, the next time you are at the same place or the next time you are both returning from somewhere after not seeing each other for a long time (like when you’re both out on an adventure), try making eye contact and smile at each other.

If her face lights up and she talks more to you than usual, that’s a sign that she likes you.

This is a great method of meeting women because it is not unusual for two people to run into each other when they are out and about.

You also use this chance to express your interest in her and ask, “do you have time to meet up?”

If she accepts, then it’s a good sign that she found you attractive and is interested in you.

6) Send her an anonymous survey question

Have you ever done a survey before? I mean, most of us have done surveys in our lives.

You might be thinking, “Oh man! That’s annoying!” but you are wrong! Surveys are actually a great way to learn more about how people feel, what they like, and what they want.

Women usually prefer receiving these surveys because it makes them feel like they are being asked their opinion by a guy who likes them. Sometimes it also lets girls know that the guy is interested in them just by the way he takes the time to ask them for their opinion.

The best thing about this method is that you can customize your questions and make them relevant to you and your situation. Yes, it’s a good way of dating by stealth.

Here are some questions you can use to subtly ask her whether she’s interested in you:

  • What do you like about dating?
  • What don’t you like about dating?
  • Who are your favorite male celebrities?
  • What’s a trait of a good boyfriend/husband?
  • If you had to choose between: A man who is financially successful but has no friends and a man who can make friends and is financially struggling, which would you choose?

Depending on the answers, take note of it and interpret them for yourself. Also, make sure that none of those questions are too personal! You never know what she might reveal if she gets too personal.

Sometimes if the questions are very interesting and make her feel good, she might open up to talk about stuff that even she doesn’t know.

It’s also common for girls to discuss things with each other in surveys so why not ask her what kinds of things she discussed in her survey with her girlfriends when they were all together at some point in their lives?

Maybe through the survey answers, more details will be revealed about herself than what she revealed earlier. Then again, maybe not!

Either way, it’s still worth giving it another try next time! (Just remember: avoid asking personal questions!)

7) Send her a flirty text first

You might think this way is too old school and too “cringy”, but it’s actually a great way of getting to know each other.

It’s a good way of dating by stealth, and you can send her a message like this:

“I’m pretty sure that you’re into me.” Or you can start with “I really like you” or “I think we should be together” etc…

There’s no limit to what you can say! She might not respond to your message but if she does, it’s a good sign that she responded just because she found it funny. It’s also good if the text has some kind of suggestive message in it like:

  • I can’t believe how much I’m attracted to you. It’s crazy!
  • You’re so confident when you talk to me…
  • You make me want to be your friend (girlfriend) right now.
  • When I’m around you, it feels like we’re on a date.

It can also be a great way of encouraging her to ask you out by asking her yourself: “Hey…do you want to get some coffee or something? We have nothing to do that day”.

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8) Pay attention to the little things she does

Little things like a firm handshake and eye contact can say a lot about somebody.

Being able to observe how she interacts and how she conducts herself around other people is also a good way of finding out whether she’s someone worth getting to know better.

The same considerations apply to both men and women when it comes to this.

It doesn’t matter who’s talking or who’s being the one initiating the first contact, it’s what she does thereafter that matters most.

  • Are they lively and genuine in their exchanges with you?
  • Do they seem like they’re genuinely interested in you?
  • Do they have the right kind of body language?
  • Do they reciprocate your interest with the interest of their own?

If so, then you’re on your way toward making her feel comfortable enough to open up.

9) Go for the hug and see what happens next

Trust me, this works! I mean, a hug is the ultimate romantic gesture and women love them!

It’s not required that you should be Romeo to do this and she can have a good time doing it just by herself. When you hug her, pay attention to what she does next.

Some girls may resist your hug because they might think that it’s too much for them. However, they might still do it because they’re really into you.

Another thing to consider is that if she’s not interested in you but only wants to be a friend, then she would probably want to avoid hugging you.

And if the hug is reciprocated, then it’s a good sign that she’s interested in you.

10) Drop some hint

Here’s the truth:

You will never know if she likes you or not unless you approach her.

If you’re not sure whether she likes you or not, then it’s best to test the waters by dropping some hints that she’s likable and that she should at least open up a bit more.

“Hey, how are you doing? I hope your day was going great. My day was exhausting but I’m in good spirits so hopefully, yours is too!” And that’s about it!

You don’t have to get her in trouble or make her uncomfortable or anything like that.

Simply drop the hint that she might be someone worth talking to and see what happens. If all goes well, continue the conversation and build on it if necessary!

If not, it’s still a success in itself since you’ve now made a friend out of her, and seeing as this survey is still open, maybe next time there will be something else of value from which you can draw upon to better your chances of succeeding with her when you talk to her again!

Don’t feel bad though if this fails – chances are most guys probably stumble upon their first few dates as well so give yourself a pat on the back for actually finding this survey at all!

11) See if she blushes or gets awkward

Once you drop the hint to her asking her if she likes you or not, it’s only natural that she gets a bit awkward and might even seem confusing since it’s the first time she’s been approached in this manner.

This is okay!

It’s also normal for any human being to be affected by something new at first.

Don’t worry, it’s not her fault.

You’ve now made a friend out of her and she’ll be grateful whether she likes you or not!

If she blushes and shows signs of being uneasy, then there’s no questioning that she likes you! Pay attention to the color of her cheeks. Usually, a blush means that someone liked what they’ve just heard.

12) Try to go physical

I bet you’re struggling so hard to think whether she has feelings for you or not by now. Maybe she does but you cannot tell, maybe she doesn’t but you might be able to tell.

Well, it’s time to put her at ease and have the truth out in plain sight!

Do it by doing something nice for her which she can only do for women or things she can only do for a woman to see what reaction is elicited from her. Here’s an example:

Accidentally bump into her while you’re out on the town. Say something along the lines of “Oh, I didn’t mean to bump into you” and then think of something nice to say to her in return so you can gauge how she responds to it.

If she blushes, then she might like you (or at least wants to give you a chance!). If she doesn’t blush or appears a bit put off by your accidental bump into her, then chances are she is not interested in you.

13) Plan a small get-together

You’ve made a move on her and you’ve got some conversations going, so it’s time to make a big move now!

Remember that earlier when I mentioned that there are so many ways of asking her out? Well, this is another way!

So basically, why do people go for small getaways (especially if you’re male) vs. large ones?

It’s all about build-up, build-up, and then after you’ve built up a relationship with her, the big ask.

So this is probably the best time to do that anyways! I would suggest doing something like a picnic or going on a day trip or something of that sort.

This is because it shows her that you like her and that you’re comfortable with each other enough for you to spend some quality time with her and she’ll feel more open to your eventual questions about where you should go next.

After ya did, tell her how much fun it was and how much she means to ya! This will make her feel special and will help seal the deal. Also if you’re feeling particularly bold, ask if she wants to get together sometime soon.

14) Join a common group or club together

One of the ways to ask a girl if she likes you is to ask her to join a group or club with you by yourself.

This is more effective than if the two of you were to spend time together alone already.

Asking her outside of the group will make her feel special, and she’ll be more open to your basic chat about stuff if the two of you were just with each other outside of the group.

Many groups have an open-invitation policy, so you can simply come to her and ask her to join in without having to even explain much about it. Other times, you can if you feel the group requires a lot of explanation for her.

Another reason why this is effective would be if you want to ask the girl out on a date later. You can do this by asking her to join with other guys from the group or something like that.

15) Use some of her favorite words in your conversation

This tip is more of a way to get her to open up and just make her feel more comfortable with you.

In this case, it’s very easy since you know her favorite words by now. Remember when I asked you to try to think of the first few words that would come out of your mouth if you were to meet the girl?

This is what we’ll be doing here. Ask her to share her favorite quotes or lyrics if she had them.

From there you can use the words in your own sentences and express your emotions through that.

You can relate to the song she likes along with some other details which might make her feel a bit more connected with you as well!

Final thoughts

There are many ways to ask a girl whether she has feelings for you or not.

It can be risky if you’re not sure of yourself, but if you’re brave enough to have the guts to do it, it will be worthwhile!

Don’t worry if she doesn’t answer the question directly. The whole point of this is to see what she responds to so that you can update your aim on where you stand with her.

If you don’t want to keep wasting your time on girls who aren’t interested in you, get more inspiration by checking out this video by Kate Spring for more tips on how to get her attracted to you.

Not only you can be confident enough to know if a girl likes you or not, but you’ll also know how to win her over in no time!

I hope the article above has helped you! If so, please share it with your friends who need some more inspiration on how to ask a girl out on a date.

If you have any questions regarding anything discussed here, leave a comment below and I’ll answer them right away!

As always, thanks for reading, and see ya next time.

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