How to accept your relationship is ending: 11 tips that actually work

When a relationship ends, it’s never easy.

Coming to terms with the breakup can be a long process, but there are a few tips that might help you accept that you are not with your partner anymore!

1) Get organized after the breakup

One of the most important things you can do after a relationship ends is get organized.

This could mean moving out (if you were living with your partner) or just figuring out your life goals moving forward.

You see, often we base a lot of life decisions on our partners and the relationship, so naturally, when a relationship ends, there is suddenly a completely new perspective.

This means that you’re going to have to make some hard decisions about what to do with yourself, and the sooner you do it, the easier it will be.

When you’re in a relationship, you don’t have to worry so much about making plans for the future.

But when a relationship ends, you suddenly have to start thinking about your future.

This means that it is important to start planning your life in advance, especially if you’re in school or planning on going back to school.

You can make a budget, get some job experience, and even set up your schedule so that you don’t feel overwhelmed when the breakup happens.

In essence, get organized so that you can start living your life again.

This will help you move on and focus on your new life.

2) Deal with the emotions

When the relationship ends, it can be very difficult to deal with the emotions that are associated with the breakup.

It can be helpful to spend time away from your partner and focus on your own life.

This will help you cope with your emotions and start to move on.

It’s useful to read books, watch TV, and get involved in other activities that you enjoy as it will help you forget about the breakup for a bit, but try not to completely distract yourself.

The better option is to learn healthy ways to cope with your emotions, like:

  • working out
  • scream therapy
  • journaling
  • dancing
  • creating art
  • meditation

This way, your emotions will not get stuck and you will heal faster.

But I get it, letting those feelings out can be hard, especially if you’ve spent so long trying to stay in control of them.

If that’s the case, I highly recommend watching this free breathwork video, created by the shaman, Rudá Iandê.

Rudá isn’t another self-professed life coach. Through shamanism and his own life journey, he’s created a modern-day twist to ancient healing techniques.

The exercises in his invigorating video combine years of breathwork experience and ancient shamanic beliefs, designed to help you relax and check in with your body and soul.

After many years of suppressing my emotions, Rudá’s dynamic breathwork flow quite literally revived that connection.

And that’s what you need:

A spark to reconnect you with your feelings so that you can begin focusing on the most important relationship of all – the one you have with yourself.

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Here’s a link to the free video again.

3) Understand why the relationship ended

When a relationship ends, it can be difficult to understand why things ended the way they did.

Often, it can be hard to determine whether the relationship was good for both of you.

If you’re struggling to understand why your relationship ended, here are a few tips that might help:

  • Talk to your partner about what happened. It’s important to get clarity on what went wrong and try to find common ground. This will help you move on from the breakup as quickly as possible.
  • Try not to blame each other. Blaming each other won’t get either of you anywhere and may even lead to more pain in the future.

Knowing what caused the relationship to end can make it easier to move on.

However, sometimes you will not get any closure. In those cases, you will have to give yourself closure in order to move on and live a better life.

This means you will have to face the pain, hurt, and disappointment that came with your loss.

It also means that you must learn from it so that you can navigate through life more effectively next time around.

4) Get back on track

The next tip to accept the ending of a relationship is to get back on track.

You see, breakups often turn lives upside down.

Days can be spent in bed, not working, not exercising, eating ice cream, and maybe even drinking.

This wallowing is okay for a couple of days, but it’s not a long-term solution.

Trust me, it will only make you feel worse about yourself and make you feel less attractive or desirable.

You need to get back on track and work towards a better life.

This can be done in a variety of ways.

Listen to your body’s needs.

Take care of yourself by getting some exercise, eating healthy, and taking care of your mental health.

It is also important to talk about the situation with someone you trust who can help you cope with your emotions and move on from the breakup quickly.

This will help you to start over and move forward with your relationship.

So what can you do to get back on track?

Begin with yourself. Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life, deep down, you know this isn’t working.

And that’s because until you look within and unleash your personal power, you’ll never find the satisfaction and fulfillment you’re searching for.

I learned this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. His life mission is to help people restore balance to their lives and unlock their creativity and potential. He has an incredible approach that combines ancient shamanic techniques with a modern-day twist.

In his excellent free video, Rudá explains effective methods to achieve what you want in life.

So if you want to build a better relationship with yourself, unlock your endless potential, and put passion at the heart of everything you do, start now by checking out his genuine advice.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

5) Spend more time with your friends

In order to start to accept the fact that your relationship is ending, it’s important to spend more time with your friends.

You wouldn’t want to be in a situation where you were all alone and had to face the truth.

When you’re ready, talk to your friends and let them know what’s going on.

They can offer support in a way that won’t hurt your feelings.

You see, they can also help you figure out why the relationship ended.

Sometimes third parties have a better perspective than when you’re tangled up with all the emotions.

They might be able to give you some tips on how to move on and make your next relationship better.

That being said, you shouldn’t spend your entire time with your friends now:

6) Spend time completely alone

One of the most important things you can do after a relationship ends is spending time completely alone.

This will help you process the break-up and get over any feelings of sadness or anger.

Spending time alone without any distractions forces you to confront your feelings.

Once you have time for yourself, you can start to process all of the information that came with the relationship.

You can also start to work on your own goals and figure out what you want to do next.

Sometimes when we’re in relationships, we barely get a minute to ourselves, which can be detrimental to evolving as an individual and figuring out what you, personally, really want.

Let’s say you’re trying to figure out what you want to do with your life.

You might ask yourself questions like:

“What do I want to do with my life?”

“How can I make a difference in the world?”

“What am I passionate about that helps others?”

You finally have the freedom to ask yourself what it is YOU want so you can build a life you love.

What does it take to build a life filled with exciting opportunities and passion-fueled adventures?

Most of us hope for a life like that, but we feel stuck, unable to achieve the goals we wishfully set at the start of each year.

I felt the same way until I took part in Life Journal. Created by teacher and life coach Jeanette Brown, this was the ultimate wake-up call I needed to stop dreaming and start taking action.

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It’s simple:

Jeanette’s created a unique way of putting YOU in control of your life.

She’s not interested in telling you how to live your life. Instead, she’ll give you lifelong tools that’ll help you achieve all your goals, keeping the focus on what you’re passionate about.

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If you’re ready to start living the life you’ve always dreamt of, you need to check out Jeanette’s advice. Who knows, today could be the first day of your new life.

Here’s the link once again.

7) Start taking better care of yourself

One of the first things you need to do is take care of yourself.

You need to focus on your health in all aspects, which means physically, mentally, and spiritually.

This includes:

  • eating nourishing food
  • drinking enough water
  • moving your body every day
  • getting enough sleep and rest
  • getting sunshine
  • meditating
  • journaling
  • doing breathwork
  • taking time off social media

By taking care of yourself you are proving to yourself that you are worthy of love and care.

Also, these habits will help you feel better about yourself almost instantly.

Nothing better than a confidence boost after a breakup.

8) Talk to a therapist or counselor

If you are struggling to deal with the aftermath of a break-up, talking to a therapist or counselor could be a good idea.

Talking about your feelings can help you work through them and develop new strategies for the future.

Additionally, it can help you learn more about yourself and how to better manage your time and energy.

You see, some people are under the impression that something needs to be seriously wrong in order to need a therapist, but that’s not the case.

Think about it: if your arm hurts all the time you will eventually go see a doctor, even though you know it’s not broken, right?

It’s the same with mental health. You don’t need to have anything terrible in order to benefit from some support.

9) Learn how to meet your own needs

When a relationship ends, you may feel like you need to do things that you didn’t before.

You may feel like you need to find someone new to share your life with. You may be feeling overwhelmed and lost.

But don’t worry! There are a few tips that can help you meet your own needs in the aftermath of a breakup.

Meeting your own needs is actually the first thing you need to learn after having been in a relationship for a while.

You see, oftentimes partners meet all our needs and we never have to worry about it.

It’s really important to learn how to meet your own needs.

A good place to start is by asking yourself what made you feel the most loved by your partner.

Once you have a list of those things, ask yourself how you can provide that same thing for yourself.

Maybe that’s:

  • quality time
  • words of affirmation
  • gifts
  • touch

Try to make yourself feel as loved as you can.

10) Think about if you played a part in the relationship ending

If you played a part in the relationship ending, it may be helpful to think about what you did that contributed to the end.

It’s important to remember that relationships can end for any number of reasons – sometimes without warning or without you playing a real role in it.

But to tell you the truth, even if you weren’t at fault, there is always something we can improve.

Think of this not as taking the blame, that’s not what I’m trying to tell you here at all, think about it more as taking back your power.

You see, when you realize that you did have influence in certain aspects of the breakup, you can take back your power and rest in the knowledge that you can learn from this experience.

It’s also important to remember that you can’t control what another person does, but you can control what you do and how you react to it.

11) Avoid trying to get back together with your ex-partner.

Having your ex-partner back will only cause you more pain and will make it harder for you to move on.

You need time to heal, so give yourself space and time away from them so that you can heal and don’t have any regrets in the future.

If you have children with your ex-partner, take the time necessary to get yourself back on track.

This means that you will need to take care of yourself and make sure that you are taking care of your children as well.

Make sure you have support from friends, family, and a counselor so that you can heal and get through this difficult time.

You can also begin learning more about how to become a better partner for the next person who comes into your life.

However, trying to get back your ex will not help you with accepting the end of this relationship, believe me!

You must learn to accept the ending of this relationship before you can move on and begin building a new relationship.

This is important because it will help you to get over the breakup so that when a new relationship comes your way, which it will, things will be easier for you.

You can get through this

Accepting a breakup is not an easy task, but you can do it.

If you follow these tips above, I have no doubt in my mind that you will come forth from this experience stronger and better than ever before.

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Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more!

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