Are you also having trouble with your marriage? In fact, 50% of marriages in the US end in either divorce or separation.
Whether you notice that your husband doesn’t love you as much as you thought he did or you face some other kind of problem, one thing is for sure: marriage is hard.
After the initial rush of new love and those crazy hormones settle, you might find yourself in a relationship that seems to have fallen into a rut.
But guess what?
A relationship coach, whom I’ll talk about later, made me realize that it doesn’t have to be this way though.
Here are 28 clever ways to make your husband love you again that actually work.
1) Communicate your feelings more often
The truth is that communication is the key to every relationship, and this is especially true for relationships between husbands and wives.
If one or both of you aren’t communicating well, it’ll cause the relationship to suffer and fall apart. Wives tend to have a bad habit of hiding their feelings from their husbands.
And guess what?
This is especially the feelings that might offend them, like when a woman feels ignored or neglected.
If you’re in a relationship where one or both of you are guilty of this kind of behavior, you need to break the habit right away.
If you don’t, it could lead to resentment, which is never good.
So, what’s the solution?
Communicate more often.
What this means is that you have to be more aware of what your husband is feeling and thinking.
2) Surprise him with small gestures of affection
Believe it or not, small gestures of affection are the best way to make your husband love you again. It’s what he longs for as a person that loves and desires love in return.
But it’s also what he craves as a man. A woman who is not only physically attracted to him but also deeply loves and desires him is a rare find. It’s something that most men don’t even get to experience in their dreams.
And yet, it’s the kind of relationship that every husband dreams of having.
That’s why you should surprise him with small gestures of affection, such as a kind word, a thoughtful gift, or a massage.
As women, we tend to think that these things are for our benefit and not for him. But the truth is that he actually craves them.
3) Do something nice for your husband every day
One thing that my relationship coach told me to do was to do something nice for my husband every day.
And you know what?
This is indeed the best way to mend the marriage, which is what you need to make your husband love you again.
She suggested a quick video from relationship expert Brad Browning where he gives out tips about relationship issues.
From this video, I learned that I should avoid 3 critical mistakes I was making in my marriage.
The result?
I’ve realized that not trying to do something nice for him anymore was one of the reasons why intimacy was fading away from our relationship.
Now I know that I should do something nice for your husband every day.
It doesn’t have to be anything big, either. You can just do a simple thing like cooking him breakfast or giving him a massage once in a while.
Just make sure that you do it regularly so that he knows how much he means to you and how much you love him.
4) Don’t nag, fight, or be a critic
Nagging, fighting, and criticizing are bad habits that most women have.
And while it might not be a conscious decision that you’re making, it’s a bad habit that will hurt your relationship and make your husband love you less.
So ask yourself this question:
- Do you nag your husband a lot?
- Do you often criticize his decisions?
- Do you fight a lot with him?
If you answered yes to any of those questions, you need to make an effort to stop doing those things.
5) Be yourself and stop trying to change yourself for him
If you’re in a relationship and you’re trying to change yourself for the person you’re dating, you’re doing both of you a terrible disservice.
You’re making the relationship less interesting, less fun, and less attractive. And you’re also setting yourself up for a lifetime of frustration because you’re not being real about who you are.
Your husband would love to be with a woman who is confident, funny, and outgoing. But he would also love to be with a woman who is kind, caring, loyal, and warm.
You don’t need to change yourself to make the relationship better. Be yourself, and the relationship will take care of itself.
6) Show him how much you appreciate him
Let’s face it: no one is perfect, but both men and women tend to try to make their partners out to be perfect at the beginning of the relationship.
If you don’t show your husband enough gratitude for all that he does, he might start to think you don’t appreciate him.
There’s no relationship without appreciation and gratitude.
If there’s no appreciation for the sacrifices and efforts your husband is making for you, you’ll make him feel like he’s not important to you.
7) Help him to feel like a hero
Want to know how I managed to bring back an old spark in my marriage?
I started doing things that made my husband feel like a hero.
I would do things for him that weren’t always fun, but they were necessary, and they made him feel like he was doing something important and meaningful.
The thing is that before this, I didn’t know anything about the concept of hero instinct.
Developed by James Bauer, this concept helps women understand what men want from relationships.
So, I just decided to watch this simple and genuine video by James Bauer and found out that all I wanted to do to make my husband commit again was to make him feel like a hero.
If this sounds like something you would try for your marriage, don’t wait anymore – here’s a link to the free video again.
8) Talk to him more often
If you’re in a relationship, you should talk to your husband as much as possible. You should talk to him about your fears, your dreams, and your desires.
You should talk to him about your failures and successes. You should talk to him about your feelings and your thoughts.
You should talk to him about your goals and your struggles. The more you talk to your husband, the more you’ll know him.
And the more you get to know him, the more you’ll love him. Communication isn’t only about talking; it’s also about listening.
So be sure to listen to what he has to say because he might have something important to tell you.
9) Go on dates
Your husband is a man, and men like to be romanced, especially when they’re in a relationship.
If you don’t go on dates often, he might start to feel neglected, and this will make him love you less. You can go on dates in many different ways.
You can go on a picnic in the park, go out for dinner, or simply rent a hotel room and have a night of passion.
It doesn’t matter how you go on dates as long as you go on them often. When you go on dates, you show your husband that you’re interested in him and that you appreciate him.
You also show him that you care about him, that you want to be close to him, and that you love him.
10) Surprise him with gifts and gestures of love
There’s nothing better than surprising your husband with gifts and gestures of love. It’s a great way to show him how much you love him and how grateful you are to have him in your life.
You don’t need to go overboard and buy him expensive things all the time, but you can surprise him with gifts that are meaningful to him, gifts that show how much you love him.
These gifts can be anything from painting a picture of him to baking him a cake.
It can be anything that comes from your heart. And when you do this, your husband will feel loved and appreciated.
11) Help him feel more masculine
All men have a deep, innate desire to feel masculine and powerful.
They want to know that they have control over their lives and over the people around them.
And for you to help your husband feel more masculine, you don’t need to do anything special. Just do what you normally do: love and appreciate him for who he is.
But when you do this, you’ll also be helping him feel more masculine.
If you ever feel like your husband isn’t making enough money or that he isn’t in control over his life, make sure to reassure him that everything is going to be okay.
12) Be patient and forgiving
A successful relationship takes patience and forgiveness.
When you and your husband make mistakes, don’t be too quick to criticize and punish them. Instead, forgive them and be patient with them.
When you forgive your husband and show him patience, you give him the gift of love and compassion.
You let him know that you love him and that you appreciate him. You let him know that you wanted the best for him. You don’t have to wait for your husband to make the first move.
You can make the first move and start making your relationship stronger and healthier.
13) Help him grow as a person
Your husband needs space to grow as a person.
If you’re always by his side, you’ll prevent him from growing. But if you always encourage him to do what he wants and to be who he wants to be, you’ll make your marriage last longer.
When you encourage your husband to be himself and to do what he wants, you’re also encouraging him to be closer to you.
You’re showing him that you trust him and that you love and appreciate him for who he is.
14) Be there for him
One more way of showing your husband how much you love him is by being there for him, by giving him your time and attention.
I mean, who doesn’t want to be with someone who loves and appreciates them?
When you’re always there for your husband, he will feel connected to you, and you’ll make him feel loved.
He will also feel more confident and masculine because he will know that he has a woman by his side who loves and respects him.
But of course, it doesn’t mean that you always have to be with him and forget about yourself.
You have to be with him, but you also have to take time for yourself.
You don’t have to spend all your time with him, but you should make sure that you spend at least some time with him every day.
Your husband will always appreciate it when you give him your time and attention.
And when he knows that he can count on you to be there for him, he’ll feel loved and appreciated. He’ll feel like he has someone who loves and appreciates him in his life.
He’ll know that he has a partner in his marriage, someone who won’t leave him alone to face the problems of the world on his own.
15) Don’t blame or fight with him ever
Even though you might think that sometimes fighting with your husband is the best way to solve a problem, it is not.
Why?
Because the truth is that fighting with your husband will only make your marriage worse.
It will make both of you feel bad, and it won’t help solve the problem.
When you fight with your husband, it means that you’re upset with him and that he’s upset with you.
It means that two people who love each other are angry and frustrated with each other.
And when people are angry at each other, they tend to hurt each other instead of trying to solve the problem. And in a marriage, fighting can do a lot of damage.
And you know what else?
Your husband will feel loved and appreciated when you don’t blame or fight with him.
He will feel more confident, masculine, and secure because he’ll know that you are on his side and that you love him.
Of course, sometimes arguments are unavoidable between couples. And sometimes they can even be good because they help you solve a problem together and they bring you closer as a couple.
But if an argument gets out of control or if it turns into constant fighting, it will destroy your relationship.
So make sure that your arguments with your husband never turn into fights or blaming each other.
Always try to find a solution together calmly without blaming each other or getting angry at each other.
16) Be a good listener
Did you know that listening is one of the most important skills in a relationship?
Yes, it is.
The truth is that listening is one of the best ways to show your husband that you love him and that you appreciate him.
And if your husband feels appreciated by you, he’ll feel loved and appreciated by you.
But here’s the problem: not many people know how to listen well.
In fact, most people only know how to talk, not how to listen. But when you want to show your husband that you love him and appreciate him, being a good listener is very important.
So make sure that when your husband talks to you or tells you something important, you give him all of your attention.
Don’t do anything else at the same time or interrupt him while he’s talking because this will show him that he doesn’t matter much to you and that his feelings don’t matter much either.
And this will make both of us feel bad about each other.
And guess what?
If your husband feels like he can tell you anything without worrying about whether or not it will upset or offend you, he’ll be more likely to open up more often and share his thoughts with you more often as well.
And this will help strengthen your relationship because it will make both of you feel closer and happier with each other.
17) Be romantic on special occasions like Valentine’s Day
Let’s face it.
Some people think that being romantic on special occasions like Valentine’s Day is too cliche, but actually, it works!
What should you do about it?
If the two of you share a special bond, it doesn’t hurt to be romantic on special occasions like Valentine’s Day and Mother’s Day.
Your husband will feel loved when he sees how much his wife loves him every day of the year, but especially on days like this.
In fact, it’s one of the best ways to show your husband that you love him and appreciate him.
If your husband feels like he’s appreciated by you, he’ll feel loved and appreciated by you.
But here’s the problem: not many people know how to be romantic in a way that makes their partner feel loved and appreciated by them.
In fact, most people don’t know how to make their partner feel appreciated at all!
And this is why most relationships are unhappy or even failing nowadays because many relationships lack romance completely!
But if you want to show your husband that he means a lot to you, here are some tips for being romantic in a way that will make him feel more loved and appreciated than ever before:
Be creative about romance – If most people think about romance as flowers, chocolates, or expensive dinners only, they’re wrong!
In fact, there are many different ways to be romantic with someone.
They think it’s better to spend your time on something more constructive, like work or school.
But they’re completely wrong.
Being romantic is definitely not a waste of time, and here’s why: it shows your husband that you love him and makes him feel loved.
And if he feels loved, he’ll be happier and he’ll feel closer to you. And this will help strengthen your relationship even more.
So if you want to show your husband that you love him, make sure that you’re romantic from time to time as well, especially on special occasions like Valentine’s Day or his birthday.
18) Show him some affection
If you have a busy schedule, it can be hard for you to find time to show your husband some affection. But when you do, it will make a huge difference in your relationship.
Showing your husband some affection is a great way to remind him that you love him and that he means a lot to you.
And the best part is: it doesn’t take much time at all!
In fact, you can show your husband some affection in just a few seconds.
For example, you can kiss him when he least expects it or hug him when he comes home from work or school.
You can also give him a massage or tell him that you love him and miss him when you see each other in the morning or before going to bed.
You can also show your husband some affection by using the phrase “I love you” as often as possible in your everyday conversation with him.
I know it might sound simple, but it can be very effective.
Affection is important, and it’s something that men miss a lot in their relationships.
But how can you show him affection? Do you have to put in the effort in order to make him feel loved?
Yes and no.
You don’t have to act like a teenager in order to show your husband that you love him, but you should definitely make an effort.
Affection doesn’t need to be something big or expensive. It can be as simple as a kiss, a hug, or even just holding his hand while you’re walking together.
This is one of the best ways to show your husband that he means the world to you and that he’s special in your eyes.
It can also make him feel like he’s wanted by you, and it can help strengthen the bond between you two.
And the best thing about showing your husband some affection is that it’s not only romantic, but it also helps strengthen your relationship even more!
19) Show him your appreciation for the little things he does for you
Have you ever tried to show him how much you appreciate him for some of the things that he does for you?
If not, then I highly recommend that you do.
It’s important to show your husband how much you appreciate him, especially if you don’t do it often enough.
But what can you do? How can you show your husband that he means a lot to you and that he’s doing a great job in the relationship?
Well, there are many ways to do this, but one of the best ways is by showing your appreciation for the little things he does for you.
For example: You can thank him when he takes out the trash or does some other chores around the house.
You can thank him when he makes dinner or brings home a surprise dessert. You can also thank him when he does something nice for your kids, like playing with them or taking them out on a date.
Don’t forget to thank him when he surprises you with flowers or gifts! It doesn’t have to be expensive; even just a small gift will make him feel appreciated.
And don’t forget to say “thank you” whenever it’s appropriate! It will make a big difference in your relationship!
20) Give him a massage
This one is more practical than the others, but it’s a great way to show your husband that you love him.
I know it might seem like a silly or small thing to do, but it will definitely help strengthen your bond!
All you need to do is find a good massage oil and give him a 15-20 minute massage. And if you don’t know how to give a massage, check out this article.
Why is this effective for making your husband love you again?
Because a massage can be a very intimate and romantic gesture on your part, especially if you do it right.
It’s also important to make sure that he’s in the mood for a massage before you start. You don’t want to ruin the mood by starting something that he doesn’t want or is not ready for!
If he’s already in the mood for a massage and wants one from you, then go ahead and give it to him!
It will surely make him feel loved and appreciated! And it will also help strengthen your bond as well as help improve your relationship!
21) Be the best you can be – physically and emotionally
Let me ask you a question.
Whenever you’re around your husband, do you try to be the best version of yourself?
This tip to make your husband love you again is a little bit more difficult to accomplish than the others, but it’s still very effective.
You see, if you’re looking to make your husband love you again, then you have to be the best version of yourself!
You have to be physically fit and mentally healthy as well. This is important because you don’t want to bring him down or cause him any stress.
Instead, you want to encourage him and make him proud of you! And this will definitely help strengthen the bond in the relationship.
It will also help improve your relationship because he’ll feel proud of being with you, and he’ll respect and love you even more for it!
And there’s no better way than by being the best version of yourself that you can be! It doesn’t matter what kind of person or wife that is – just be the best version of YOU!
If that means going for a run every day or eating healthy food – then do it! If that means reading an inspirational book every night before bed or meditating before going to sleep – then do it!
If that means getting up early every morning to pray or go on a walk – then do it!
Just do whatever makes you happy and keeps you healthy both physically and emotionally, so that when he sees this positive change in you, he’ll love it and feel loved by his wife all over again.
22) Help him feel proud of you
Based on my long experience with my husband, the best way to make him love you again is to help him feel proud of you.
This tip is a bit similar to the previous one because it involves helping him feel good about himself and his decision to be with you.
You see, when your husband feels proud of you – it makes him happy, and he’ll love you for it!
So how can you help him feel this way?
Well, the key here is to continue doing the same things that you’ve been doing to make him proud of you in the first place.
This means continuing to be a positive influence in his life and continuing to be a supportive and encouraging wife.
But most importantly, he’ll definitely feel proud of you if you try to work on self-development and try to achieve your own goals in life.
Believe me, your success will make him proud.
23) Show him that you’re worth it
Let’s be honest: does your husband feel like you’re really worthy of his love?
You see, when your husband feels like he’s made the right decision by choosing to be with you – it makes him love and appreciate you even more!
So how can you help him feel that way?
Well, the key here is to continue doing all those things that make him think, “I’m so lucky she’s my wife!”
If he thinks back on all the times when you’ve been supportive of him, forgiving of his mistakes, and loving towards him – then this will definitely make him realize what a great wife he has!
And this will definitely help strengthen the bond in the relationship.
You see, when your husband feels like he’s made the right decision by choosing to be with you – it makes him love and appreciate you even more!
So how can you help him feel that way?
Well, the key here is to continue doing all those things that make him think, “I’m so lucky she’s my wife!”
If he thinks back on all the times when you’ve been supportive of him, forgiving of his mistakes, and loving towards him – then this will definitely make him realize what a great wife he has!
24) Make new memories together
If you think that you and your husband have lost intimacy or emotional connection in your relationship, a great way to bring it back is to try to make new memories together.
Let me explain.
When you do things together and have new experiences, it helps bring back the closeness between you two.
This is because you two get to see and experience things together, which brings back the feeling of being a couple.
So how can you do this?
Well, one great way to do this is by doing something that your husband enjoys doing.
For example, if he loves watching football – then invite him to a game with you or invite him to go for a drink with his friends who also enjoy watching football.
If he likes going fishing – then take his fishing gear out and join him for a fun day at the lake or river!
If he likes going on adventures – then make plans for your next adventure together!
This will definitely help bring back that sense of closeness in your relationship!
25) Show him how much you value the relationship
How do you show your husband that you value your marriage and that you want to work on things?
Well, one great way to do this is by spending time with him.
You see, when you take time out of your day to spend it with him – it makes him feel as though you really care about the relationship.
Regardless of what method you choose to do, show him how much you value your marriage, the most important thing here is that you do it.
And one of the best ways to do this is by spending time with him and showing affection even when you’re busy.
26) Show him that you trust him
Now let’s talk about trust and its importance in a marriage.
One of the biggest reasons marriages fall apart is a lack of trust.
If you don’t trust your husband to be faithful, then it’s going to make your relationship much more difficult.
And if you’re not sure if he’s being faithful or not – then it makes sense that you would have a hard time trusting him.
So make sure to show him that you trust him and that you’re completely sure about his commitment and honesty.
27) Communicate about intimate stuff
Whether you’re talking about your sex life or other intimate issues, make sure to talk about them often.
When you communicate about these matters, you show your husband that you trust him and that you care about him.
It shows your husband that he’s important to you and that he can tell you anything. And when he knows this, he will make an effort to be a better husband and father.
28) Show him that you’re glad he’s your husband
And finally, don’t forget to show him that you’re glad he’s your husband.
Sometimes we forget to show our husbands that we’re glad they’re in our lives.
This is something we need to change because it’s important for our husbands and their self-esteem.
We need to make sure that they know that they’re appreciated by us and that we love them very much!
So how can you show your husband that he’s special?
Well, the best way is through words! Tell him how much he means to you and how glad you are that he’s your husband.
Tell him how lucky you are to have such an amazing man in your life.
Final thoughts
As you can see, there are plenty of amazing methods that you can use in order to show your husband that you love him.
This means that even if you feel that your husband doesn’t love you anymore, there’s nothing you should worry about – you can mend the marriage and take control!
So the next time you’re feeling a bit down or having a bad day, don’t forget to use one or more of these methods in order to show your husband that you care about him and the relationship.
