There are different kinds of intelligence and it can be measured in quotients.
Most of us know IQ or the intelligence quotient that measures our cognitive and logical ability.
Another type is Emotional intelligence which was first used by Professors Peter Salovey and John Mayer in 1990.
They defined it as the ability process emotion and use it as a guide to thinking and behavior.
It was journalist Daniel Goleman who brought Emotional Intelligence into the public arena.
He published a book that states emotional quotient matters more than IQ.
Because we are emotional creatures, our EQ has an enormous impact in all of our relationships.
EQ affects how we make decisions and identify opportunities.
Here are 5 qualities of an emotionally intelligent person:
Empathy is defined as the ability to feel what other people feel.
It is putting yourself in another’s shoes.
According to UC Berkeley, there are two types of empathy – affective and cognitive empathy.
Affective empathy refers to what we feel when we empathize with others. An example is feeling stressed when we detect another’s fear or anxiety.
This also includes mirroring what that person is feeling like feeling sad when your friend is sad.
The other type is cognitive empathy which refers to our ability to identify and understand other peoples’ emotions.
Dr. Tasha Eurich conducted research and found that there are two types of self-awareness.
Internal self-awareness represents how we see ourselves.
It includes our values, passions, aspirations, reactions, feelings, and behaviors.
The study shows that internal self-awareness is associated with satisfaction and happiness.
However, it is also negatively related to anxiety, stress, and depression.
The second type is external self-awareness. It refers to our understanding of how other people view us.
The research shows that people who understand how others see them are more skilled at showing empathy.
3. Deep thinker
Individuals with high EQ are problem-solvers.
An analytical mind hungers for improvement and making one’s self better.
People with emotionally intelligent mind practice discernment.
They are able to discern between things that they need versus things they want.
According to Maslow’s “Hierarchy of Needs”, our needs are safety, survival, and sustenance.
When those things are met, we can progress to our wants.
A “want” is a big house, nice car, good food, and even the newest phone available in the market.
Although we do not need those things to survive, we want them based on our own personal desires.
A person with high EQ is well-versed in knowing what is needed to truly live.
Emotionally intelligent people always establish needs prior to fulfilling wants.
Emotionally intelligent are adaptable.
Adaptability is not imitation according to Mahatma Gandhi. It is the power of resistance and assimilation.
People with high EQ recognize when to continue their course, and when it’s time for a change.
When their strategy is not working, they evaluate if something else will work.
5. Help others
An emotionally intelligent person wants success for everybody.
They lead with passion, optimism and the drive to help other people.
They are not concerned only with “WIIFM,” or — What’s in it for me?
Self-interest is important but people with high EQ maintain a spirit of desire and hope for wanting to see the people around them succeed.
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