Have you ever wondered how some people are able to cope with difficult circumstances?
It looks like they’ve had a raw deal in life, but somehow they appear fine on the surface and even more together than you are.
Wouldn’t it be great if we were all able to cope with difficult situations like this?
Well, we can. It’s all about attitude, mindset and emotional agility — something we’re all in control of.
Below, I’ve gone over 10 habits of highly resilient people that we can all learn to adopt.
1) They don’t criticize themselves
Resilient people don’t waste time blaming themselves. They realize that there’s no value doing so. It’s better to learn from your mistakes and focus on what you can control. They know their interest is best served by moving forward.
2) They reach out
Humans are social creatures and if we’re going to go where we want to go in life, we need to have a support system. That’s why resilient people aren’t afraid to reach out for help when they need it.
Fear and loneliness make life more difficult. Resilient people realize this and make an effort to help others so that they’ll be able to get help when they need it.
3) They’re able to sit with discomfort
Resilient people realize that not everything in life will be comfortable all of the time. They’re able to tolerate discomfort because they realize that the universe is constantly changing.
If they’re experiencing a negative emotion, they know that will soon change. If they’re experiencing something positive, they enjoy the moment for what it is because they realize it won’t last forever.
4) They accept negative emotions
Resilient people know that when we we ignore and deny negative emotions, they’ll only get stronger.
They realize that embracing our darker emotions allows us to accept them rather than running away from them. And through acceptance, they become weaker.
Buddhist master Pema Chödrön, sums this up best. She says that negative emotions are also excellent teachers about what we’re experiencing in life:
“…feelings like disappointment, embarrassment, irritation, resentment, anger, jealousy, and fear, instead of being bad news, are actually very clear moments that teach us where it is that we’re holding back. They teach us to perk up and lean in when we feel we’d rather collapse and back away. They’re like messengers that show us, with terrifying clarity, exactly where we’re stuck. This very moment is the perfect teacher, and, lucky for us, it’s with us wherever we are.”
5) They don’t worry about perfection
Resilient people know that always seeking perfection is a sure fire way to not getting anything done. It’s also a definite way to experience failure.
No matter how hard you’ll try, you’ll never achieve perfection. When you’re learning, you won’t get there right away and when you’re a pro, you’ll realize how much more there is to learn.
A better strategy is to always try your best and not worry about perfection.
6) They know that overthinking is a huge cause of unhappiness
Overthinking a situation does nothing but make it worse. It can be exhausting staying up and thinking over every little detail of a hard situation.
Resilient people give themselves a break so they can focus on what matters. They distract themselves and let their mind relax. They hit the reset button on their mind.
7) They live in the moment
A resilient person realizes that the past doesn’t exist, the future hasn’t arrived, and the only thing that really matters is the present moment.
Every moment has something to be grateful for, and you’ll be much happier if you strive to find it.
They also believe that the present moment is where the future is created. If you work hard and stick to your priorities and goals, your future self will be incredibly thankful.
8) They avoid toxic people
Gossiping about others because it feels good? Please!
Resilient people hate this kind of negative energy. They know toxic people are soul sucking vampires and there’s no reason they won’t be bad mouthing you behind your back.
They prefer to talk about meaningful topics such as, what’s your purpose in life and what can we actually do now that’ll improve our future.
9) They’re not afraid to be alone
The best relationships are ones that allow you to grow and be free. A resilient person knows that unhealthy attachments are thwart with danger.
You don’t need to rely on someone else to make you happy. You need to be happy with yourself first.
This is why resilient people aren’t afraid of being alone. They’ll be happy anyway.
But if you can add to their happiness, then go ahead and come on in. But if you’re bringing in toxic energy, then you need to get out of a resilient person’s way.
10) They know that they’ll never win a battle against themselves
Your mind and your thoughts will always be with you. They are always there and present no matter what you do or say. When you push yourself beyond your limits, you’re putting pressure on your mind to work in overdrive.
But eventually you’ll run out of steam and then what?
You’ll be faced with the fact that once in awhile it’s okay to rest. Don’t think about the things you should be doing or all that needs to get done. Put yourself first and just let yourself live in the present.
This article was originally published on Hack Spirit.
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