10 habits that separate confident women from insecure women

When we talk about confident women, the first thing that comes into our minds are usually talented celebrities, female artists, or other personalities we look up to.

They’re amazing at what they do and appear to have the confidence some of us can only wish to have.

Some may not know it, but confident women don’t always have to be famous or have many awards and achievements under their belts.

Confident women may be as discreet as those you pass by on the street, or can be as reliable as your colleagues.

They may also be the loving and supportive female family members or friends you always go to when you don’t feel too good about yourself.

There’s more to being a confident woman than meets the eye, and a great deal of it is their unique perception of the world, like the following:

1. The World is Always Broader Than It Seems

You may have noticed that the most reliable women in your lives seem to possess comforting patience and a deep understanding of life.

They become your constants and strong support systems because they’re always there for you, saying the words you need to hear.

This is because confident women tend to have a broad perception of the world, giving them the calmness and wisdom in navigating life with openness amid uncertainties.

There are many things a confident woman doesn’t know about the world yet, but this doesn’t scare or intimidate her at all.

Instead, she’s always optimistic and enthusiastic about learning new things.

This broad outlook makes her deliberate and proactive in facing challenges head-on as she realizes that problems aren’t permanent and always have solutions.

She’s also unafraid to take risks and get out of her comfort zone.

2. Your Worth Depends on You

Confident women don’t depend their self-worth on anyone — not even on their partners.

They believe no one can really define you and make you feel complete other than yourself, no matter what others tell you.

Confident women can do anything and remain resilient in the face of challenges because of their security with themselves.

The world is undoubtedly broad – you’ll go through many ups and downs and meet different people who’ll leave valuable marks in your life, good or bad.

That’s why for confident women, trusting yourself is necessary for having the courage to take leaps of faith, learn from mistakes, and surpass hurdles coming your way.

Love and accept yourself before anything else because you’re the one taking control of your life.

3. Everyone is Special in Their Own Way

Confident women usually possess a strong sense of self, allowing them to have the courage to take risks, push their limits, and do great things.

Because of this, they also believe that everyone is special in their own way and are capable of amazing feats, especially in their fields of expertise.

They love supporting other women and celebrating how much they can do in many different respects.

That’s why you usually won’t find them judging or pitting other women against themselves or others.

There’s plenty of room for everyone to shine and be amazing in their own ways.

Confident women don’t waste their time and energy getting fixated on the unnecessary competition when all of us can work together and learn from each other.

4. Love and Kindness Still Go A Long Way

Cliché as it may seem, confident women still believe that love and kindness can go a long way.

Looking and feeling beautiful is nice, but what matters more for confident women is the values you live by and how you treat the people around you regardless of status.

That’s why you usually won’t expect them to be rude or unkind to others. 

Her broad outlook in life makes her caring and empathetic, having the ability to connect with anyone on a deeper level.

Even when someone has been mean to them, confident women tend to stay calm and level-headed.

This isn’t because they allow others to hurt them but because they don’t easily get fazed by anyone.

They prefer protecting their peace and avoiding getting too affected.

In these situations, confident women would rather have a mature conversation to discuss the problem.

I used to be reactive when running into misunderstandings with other people.

But after some time I realized that those situations weren’t as bad as they seemed, and I would’ve handled it better had I been calmer.

So I started working hard not to allow my raw emotions to get the best of me, and work harder on myself instead.

5. Everyone Has a Story You Don’t Know About

As confident women view the world from a broader perspective, they understand there are many people from various cultures and walks of life.

These people might not live the same way as they do or might have different beliefs.

And this doesn’t scare or intimidate a confident woman at all.

A truly confident woman knows everyone has stories she doesn’t know about, so she doesn’t usually judge others without listening to them first.

She doesn’t get defensive about the things she knows just because she’s heard new concepts or ideas.

She also doesn’t usually speak over others or impose her beliefs only to prove a point. As much as possible, she focuses on common ground with others and treats everyone with kindness.

6. Women Can Do Anything If They Put Their Minds to It

Most, if not all, women can agree that being a woman isn’t easy, much less being a woman with big ideas and ambitions.

That’s why it takes a lot of courage for women not to be afraid and go after their dreams.

Confident women know the path toward reaching their aspirations is going to be a bumpy road, but they also believe that you can do anything if you put your mind to it.

As confident women know that every woman is unique and special in their way, they also believe that anyone can do anything and achieve great things if they put their minds to it.

If you trust yourself, remain resilient in the face of challenges, and learn from your experiences, you’d succeed in life.

7. Don’t Be Afraid to Speak Out When Words are Needed

Confident women are brimming with big ideas, always striving to think outside the box and learn new things. Because of this, they’re enthusiastic about sharing their ideas and speaking their minds.

A confident woman also knows when to listen and speak. Because of her broad and optimistic perspective on life, she’s usually patient and empathetic.

A confident woman is someone who’s not afraid to connect with others on a deeper level, so she can usually put herself in the shoes of others and resonate with their experiences.

Because of this, she also dares to speak and stand with the abused and silenced.

8. All Problems Aren’t Permanent

Confident women believe that anyone can achieve anything if they put their minds to it because they have a positive and proactive perception of problems in life.

Their broad outlook in life and self-trust allow them to think that all challenges aren’t permanent.

There are always solutions to these problems. You just haven’t found the right answer yet if you feel stuck in a tough situation.

In the face of struggles, confident women strive to remain resilient and focus on looking for ways to solve their problems.

They tend to exhaust all possible options and get resourceful. And while they may get anxious, worried, and scared, they try their best not to allow these emotions to get the best of them.

After all, courage isn’t the absence of these emotions but the decisiveness to move forward amid uncertainties.

9. Setbacks and Mistakes are Opportunities to Grow

Confident women try their best to maintain an optimistic outlook in life.

They tend to remain resilient amid struggles and believe that all problems pass.

Aside from their broad outlook in life, this is also because they shift their perception of setbacks and mistakes.

They try to view these things as hurdles they need to overcome to grow and become better individuals.

Everyone makes mistakes, but these don’t make you less of a person.

A confident woman sees making missteps as an opportunity to learn important lessons and be better.

I know changing how you see mistakes and setbacks is easier said than done. To do this, you should remember that you’re valid and deserving of all the good things in life.

10. Life’s Too Short to Be Hard On Yourself

Confident women have a broad perspective of life, realizing that facing struggles, even those causing us to doubt ourselves, is constant.

Even if it can get difficult and cause you to consider giving up, life is still worth it – you’ll have people who become your support system and meet more who bring out the best in you.

You have full years ahead of you to learn, witness life’s beauty, and achieve the great things you’ve worked hard for.

A confident woman believes life is too short to be hard on yourself. Nobody’s perfect, so you shouldn’t punish yourself over the things you can no longer change.

What you can do is learn and live life to the fullest. You don’t want to miss out on fleeting moments in the present just because you were worried about the past.


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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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