7 habits of people who stay calm and poised (even when life gets tough)

Life is like a big adventure, right? It moves us around a lot, like a rollercoaster taking us up high and then dropping us way down low.

Imagine this: You’re in a tricky situation. 

Your boss is saying things about your work, there’s a fight happening with someone you care about, or you’re not working and it’s been a while. 

It’s like life is giving us a bunch of lemons, and honestly, we don’t really want lemonade right now.

We all go through times that make us feel a bit crazy. Everyday life can be really confusing.

But you know what? I found something that really helps. 

Instead of letting life’s challenges make me super stressed, I decided to relax. 

Yeah, I found a way to be calm even when everything seems to be going crazy. 

I discovered my peaceful place in the middle of all the chaos, 

And I’m excited to share the 8 things I do to stay cool and collected—even when life is being difficult.

1) Breathe, breathe, and breathe more 

I took advice from a therapist when I couldn’t deal with the toughness of my life. The first thing I learned is mastering my breath as it is super effective in controlling our calmness

I was taught that our breath in some way has a connection with how we feel. The rhythm of the breath affects the current emotion that you’re having. 

When you’re tense, your breathing is shallow, and fast. 

Are you reading my article while experiencing stress in your life? If so, let’s practice the “take a deep breath” exercise

Inhale gradually through your nostrils, letting your chest and lower abdomen expand as your lungs fill. Allow your stomach to fully expand.

Exhale slowly through your mouth or, if preferred, through your nose. Keep doing that in 2-3 minutes for each round, then take 1-2 minutes to rest, and continue doing this until you reach 5 rounds.

This exercise will activate the body’s relaxation response, reducing stress and promoting well-being. 

2) Talk positively to your mind

When I attended the job interview, I was so nervous. A lot of doubt and negativity came to my mind at that time. 

I knew I couldn’t do it well if my head was in such chaos. 

Positive self-talk is the method that I chose to overcome the situation. 

“I’m well-prepared and ready to showcase my skills. Confident and calm, I will get this job!” 

I kept repeating and repeating this in my mind.

This self-talk manages my inner state with ease. It replaces self-doubt and nerves with affirmations, fostering a mindset that encourages resilience and adaptability. 

I nailed the job interview perfectly. 

So, try positive self-talk. Make it simple but strong, powerful, and motivational. 

It’ll be your best friend when things get tough. 

3) You have to adapt to new things

Here’s the deal: Life is like a rollercoaster – full of ups and downs. 

You’re on for the ride, and it’s gonna throw stuff your way. Calm folks get this. 

They’re like the cool surfers riding the waves, knowing that change is part of the game.

They don’t go all drama when life takes a turn. Nope, they’re like, “Okay, let’s do this.” 

They see change as a chance to grow, like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly. It’s a game-changer mindset that helps them dance through the uncertainties of life with style.

I can relate. Back when I studied abroad, life hit me with a bunch of curveballs. 

Everything felt like a puzzle, and I was stressing out. New stuff, different vibes – it got to me. 

But, guess what? Slowly, I started getting the hang of it. Adaptability became my superpower.

So, if life’s feeling like a bumpy rollercoaster right now, remember, you’re not alone. 

We’ve all been there. Embrace the twists, dance with the turns, and soon you’ll be riding this rollercoaster like a pro.

4) Keep your body healthy

Have you ever heard the famous quote “A healthy mind in a healthy body”?  I bet you have.

I was so lazy in the past. Every day, I woke up with a tired mind.

How do you have the energy to maintain your positivity and calmness if you are always fatigued?

When your body’s waving the tired flag, avoiding some not-so-great choices can be a game-changer. 

Say no to things like alcohol, binge eating, and smoking. Trust me, those paths lead to frustration.

Taking care of oneself is a cornerstone of maintaining composure. 

Whether it’s through regular exercise, proper nutrition, or sufficient sleep, those who stay calm prioritize self-care, ensuring they have the physical and mental energy to face life’s challenges.

5) Share with friends and family

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We have our problems, and we have to deal with them in our own way. But when things are too overwhelming, don’t forget you have your family and friends.

They are the most reliable people for talking about an issue or expressing emotions.

 I’m never afraid to share with my parents about difficulties in my life. 

Also, note that sharing is a way to alleviate anger and find solutions rather than unloading frustration onto the listener.

Sharing a problem in a way that vents anger can be hurtful to the listener, sometimes feeling like an “emotional dumping ground“.

Additionally, choosing the wrong person to confide in, such as someone who can’t keep a secret or secretly dislikes you, can lead to another stressful situation.

So share, but tactfully and respectfully, and you’ll see how much calmer you feel as a result. 

6) Reduce multitasking and overthinking

Let’s talk about trying to do too many things at once. It turns out, doing lots of stuff at the same time doesn’t make us efficient. 

Picture this: 

Have you ever tried to catch a bunch of bubbles all at once? It’s pretty tough, right? 

Just like that, when we try to think about too many things all at once, our thoughts get all jumbled up.

I’ve noticed this in my own life. Sometimes, my brain feels like a big, busy marketplace where thoughts are shouting for attention. 

Jumping from one idea to another without really thinking about any of them too much. It’s like trying to catch a bunch of bubbles but ending up with none.

Here’s a lesson I’ve learned: 

We shouldn’t be too greedy with our thoughts. 

It’s important to take a moment in the middle of our busy lives to figure out what matters and what we can let go of

It’s a bit like cleaning up a messy room – we need to decide what to keep and what to throw away.

Thinking back on tough times, I remember a period when work, family, and personal stuff all hit me at once. 

During those times, I found comfort in simple things like taking a short walk outside, doing some deep breathing, or sipping a cup of tea quietly. 

These small breaks helped me calm down, refocus, and deal with everything going on.

So, as we go through the busy parts of life, let’s not fall for the idea that doing everything at once is the way to go.

Let’s remember that our thoughts can get stuck, and it’s okay to take a moment to figure out what’s important. 

In the middle of life’s challenges, taking a little break to find comfort can be the secret to not just getting through but enjoying the ride.

7) Focus on the present moment

You lose your calmness when you concentrate too much on your problems. Your mind wanders somewhere without realizing “Hey, you still have a life” 

After a stressful day, I come home and completely focus on doing my housework, having a bath, cooking, and eating. 

I won’t let any negative thoughts run through my mind 

I feel so peaceful while doing those things as I let go of bad emotions or difficulties, experiencing forgettable moments during that day. 

During these times, pay attention to physical sensations, the sounds you hear, the smells you sense, the steps you take… 

Practicing this technique enhances concentration, bringing your thoughts back to the present moment.

8) Think positively 

I’ve taught myself to look at problems in a positive way to control how I feel. 

Staying calm isn’t easy, especially when you’re mad. So, you have to change how you think to calm your emotions now and in the future.

No problem is 100% bad; there are always good and bad parts. The key is being able to see them.

When faced with low pay, excessive workload, and financial struggles, stay calm and focus on finding positive solutions.

Option 1: Take a break and look for a job that pays better.

Option 2: Work on getting better at your job and ask for more money. If it doesn’t work, know that you have the skills to find a job that pays what you deserve.

Hopefully, the tips above will help you to become a calm person, even when life gets tough. Remember to breath, be kind to your mind, and keep your body healthy. Your emotions will follow.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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