I don’t know what feels worse, being cheated on or being ignorant of the fact.
Although, if I think about it, when my boyfriend was cheating on me I had this gut feeling that something was wrong but I just brushed it off as paranoia.
Do you think your man is cheating on you but you have no proof?
Maybe he’s been spending more time with the boys than usual, or perhaps he canceled another date with you without giving a good explanation.
If you suspect your man of cheating, how can you know you’re right?
Here are 35 telltale signs that your partner is cheating on you, so pay attention:
1) He constantly seems to be busy
Has your partner started to be really busy at work, or maybe taken on a new project?
You may want to ask yourself why he’s suddenly so busy. Sometimes, a partner who is cheating will suddenly increase their work hours so they have an excuse for not being around as much. Or, they may just be using work as a cover to see their mistress.
In my experience, if your partner constantly has something going on outside the home and can’t adjust his schedule to accommodate your needs, it could be a sign that he’s cheating on you. If he keeps on canceling plans with you and uses work as an excuse, he’s definitely trying to hide something from you.
But before you jump to any conclusions, take a look at the other signs that he’s cheating.
2) He’s become short with you and sometimes even mean
Here’s the thing: If your man is cheating on you, he might be feeling guilty about it and take his anger out on you.
I know it seems strange that he would wrong you and be mean to you because he feels bad, but the human psyche is a strange thing.
Words can really sting, so if your man’s suddenly short with you, or he says hurtful things whereas before he was always kind and gentle, something is definitely up.
3) He seems distant
A man who is cheating will probably have a lot on his mind. If he seems distant lately, he may be keeping secrets from you.
What’s more, he may be distancing himself from you to avoid getting caught by you.
If your partner suddenly seems very distant and quiet around you, without any obvious and logical reason as to why he is spending less time with you and speaking to you less, this could be a sign that he is cheating on you.
4) He’s always got an excuse for why he can’t see you
If your partner always has an excuse for why he can’t spend time with you, it’s because he doesn’t want to spend time with you.
Think about it: When you love someone, no matter how busy you are, you’ll always find time for them.
If he doesn’t want to spend his free time with you, I’m sorry to say but it probably means he’s spending it with somebody else.
5) You don’t really talk much anymore
If you don’t talk as much as you used to, it could be a sign that your relationship is in trouble.
You see, if your man is cheating on you, he may be trying to keep things on the down-low by not talking as much.
Maybe he doesn’t feel like he has a connection to you anymore or anything to talk about. Or maybe he may be trying to avoid getting caught by saying the wrong thing.
What’s more, he could be feeling incredibly ashamed and guilty about his affair which is why he can’t bear to look you in the eyes, let alone talk to you.
If you’re having trouble getting him to talk, maybe there’s an underlying problem in the relationship that you’re unable to see — because deep down, you’re struggling, too.
If this is a case, perhaps this self-love quiz can help.
In this quiz, you will be asked a variety of questions about the relationship, such as how you feel about your partner and how he makes you feel.
As you go through the quiz answering each question, the answer becomes clearer and clearer — but nothing else can answer your questions better than the results by the end of it.
So if you feel like he’s cheating but have no proof to prove it, recognizing the problems in the relationship is the first step.
Because when you finally see what went wrong in the relationship, you’ll also see why he’s seeking fulfillment outside of it.
6) He started wearing perfume
If you’ve always had to remind your man to put on deodorant and he suddenly starts wearing perfume, it could be another sign that he’s seeing someone else.
His newfound love for perfume could all be part of his attempt to seduce someone else.
What’s more, if he’s seeing another woman, by wearing perfume himself he’s attempting to mask any traces of her perfume that he may have on himself. Sneaky huh?
7) He changed his appearance without any apparent reason
If your man suddenly gets a new haircut or grows a beard, he may be doing it to appeal to another woman.
A makeover is usually a sign that someone wants to make a change, and often that change is their partner. Have you ever gotten a new haircut after breaking up with an ex? I know I have. It made me feel good and new and ready to find someone new.
8) He stays late at the office a lot
Now, maybe your man has a demanding job that requires a lot of time and effort. Maybe it’s normal for him to put in extra time at work.
But, if your man is staying late at the office more often than he used to, it could be because of more than just work.
If he’s suddenly always coming home late, there may be a reason for it. He may be spending his time with his new lover and using work as an excuse.
9) He has mood swings
If your man is cheating on you, he could be experiencing a lot of mood swings.
He may go from happy to angry and frustrated to sad in a heartbeat.
But why?
Well, this can happen when a person is constantly lying and hiding things from the person they love.
If your man is cheating on you, he may feel guilty and ashamed, which is why he may be experiencing mood swings.
10) He keeps getting calls and texts late at night
Who could possibly be calling him so late?
If your partner keeps getting calls and texts late at night, and he keeps making up lame excuses like it’s just a friend or a colleague without giving you a proper explanation, it’s probably his mistress.
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11) He’s suddenly secretive
If your partner suddenly becomes very secretive about his day-to-day activities, this could be a sign that he’s cheating on you.
If you ask him when he got a new tattoo, or how his day at work was, and he becomes very quiet and secretive and changes the subject without giving you an answer, you should be wary.
If your partner has always been very open and honest with you, and then out of the blue he starts avoiding questions or gets defensive when you ask him questions, you should take this as a warning sign.
12) He has two phones
Here’s another sign that he could be cheating on you: he has two phones, and he keeps his second phone hidden from you!
Why would he need two phones if he isn’t up to something sneaky and sketchy? What is he, a spy?
If you find your partner’s secret phone and confront him about it and he doesn’t have a good reason for why he needs two phones, you should be suspicious.
13) You’re hardly ever intimate
If your partner has always been very open and loving with you, but all of a sudden he no longer seems interested in being intimate with you, this could be a sign that he’s cheating on you.
Think about it, when is the last time you had sex?
If he’s not interested in being intimate with you it’s because he’s getting his needs met somewhere else.
14) He doesn’t want you posting pictures of the two of you on social media
Has he asked you to stop posting pictures of the two of you on social media? Why would he suddenly do that?
Well, maybe because he doesn’t want his mistress to see. He’s probably been telling her that it’s over between the two of you and if you post pictures contradicting his lie, she could get mad at him.
15) He buys you flowers for no reason
If your partner buys you flowers or gifts for no reason or takes you out to a fancy restaurant when he wouldn’t normally do this, this could be a sign that he’s cheating on you.
But wait, why would he do something nice for you if he’s cheating on you?
Two reasons: First, he feels guilty for what he’s doing to you so he thinks that by getting you something nice or taking you someplace special, he’s making up for the wrong he’s caused.
Second, if he thinks you might be getting suspicious and are on to him, he could be doing nice things for you to throw you off the scent.
16) He accuses you of cheating
This one is actually quite common.
A cheating partner will often accuse you of cheating. It’s another way to keep you from finding out what they’re doing.
When he accuses you of cheating, you’ll be so busy defending yourself and wondering what you did to make him think such a thing, that you won’t have time to think about his strange behavior.
17) His friends act weird around you
If your man’s friends start to act weird around you by giving you strange looks and being uncharacteristically quiet around you, they could know something you don’t.
They probably know that he’s seeing someone on the side and feel uncomfortable being in your presence and pretending that everything is fine.
They can’t come out and tell you what they know because they’re his friends, but their behavior speaks for itself.
18) He’s changed the password on his phone
If you’ve always been open about using each other’s phones and your man has changed the password on his phone without telling you, don’t let it slide.
A sudden change in behavior is often a sign that he’s covering something up, and it’s important to understand why.
If your partner has recently changed the password on his phone, it could be a sign that he’s hiding something.
You may have noticed that he doesn’t want you to access any apps on his phone, or that he’s deleting old messages.
If you’re not sure what to do, don’t hesitate to confront him about the change and ask him why he did it. Give him a chance to explain himself, but don’t let him avoid the question completely.
If he doesn’t have a legitimate reason for the change, he’s definitely hiding something.
19) He takes calls in the other room
This is classic cheater behavior.
When your partner suddenly starts taking calls in the other room, it’s a big red flag.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he’s probably talking to his mistress. Whatever the purpose of the call is, he wants to conceal the conversation from you.
If he suddenly starts taking calls in another room, ask him about it. Don’t be aggressive or start a fight, but let him know that you’re curious about his behavior and want to know why he’s avoiding you.
If there’s a logical explanation for his behavior, he’ll let you know. However, if he’s hiding something, he might lie to you or avoid the question.
20) He doesn’t take you out anymore
If your man used to take you out on at least one date each week, but suddenly he’s too busy for you, he may be cheating on you.
Cheaters often have no time for their partners because they’re spending time with their mistresses.
Usually, cheaters will try to cover up their absence, so if you ask him where he was, he’ll have an excuse ready.
If you notice that your partner doesn’t take you out anymore, let him know that you’re disappointed. Be careful with your words, though, and don’t sound too accusatory.
If you confront him about it, he may feel attacked and get defensive. Let him know that you miss being treated and taken out by him.
21) He seems annoyed with you
When your partner suddenly starts getting annoyed with you for no reason, it could be another sign that he’s cheating.
Maybe he’s annoyed that he’s in a relationship with you. Maybe he doesn’t know how to get out.
Or maybe he’s feeling guilty and is taking out his frustration on you.
If you notice that your man is suddenly annoyed with you for no reason, ask him why he’s angry.
If he’s cheating on you, he’ll definitely try to brush it off and get defensive. If he’s hiding something, he won’t be able to tell you the truth and you’ll know something’s up.
22) Your friend spots him in town with another woman
If one of your friends sees your boyfriend in town with another woman, there’s a strong chance that he’s cheating on you.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he may have a regular schedule for his visits to his mistress.
If your friend spots your boyfriend in town with another woman, ask him who the woman was.
Be careful with your words, and don’t accuse him of anything. See what he says and how reacts. If he’s cheating on you, he’ll most likely lie to you and act funny.
You never know though, it could just be an innocent misunderstanding – he could have been with a family member or colleague and your friend jumped to the wrong conclusions.
23) He keeps evading your questions
The truth is that if your boyfriend keeps evading your questions about his behavior, he may be trying to hide something from you.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he may have become aware of your suspicions. He may know that you’re keeping an eye on his activities, and he’s trying to confuse you so that you don’t catch him in the act.
If you’ve been asking your boyfriend questions about his behavior and he keeps avoiding them, confront him about it.
Calmly ask him why he’s avoiding your questions, and what he’s hiding from you. If he’s cheating on you, he won’t be able to tell you the truth. He’ll most likely become defensive and try to change the subject.
24) He talks about taking a break from the relationship
If your boyfriend suddenly starts talking about taking a break from your relationship, it could be that he wants to be someone else.
He may say that he needs some time to think about his life, or that he needs to focus on his work.
If you confront your boyfriend about his strange behavior and he suggests taking a break from your relationship, don’t let him get away with it – tell him to be straight with you. If your boyfriend is cheating on you, he’ll try to break up with you and give you another reason for it.
25) Your friends tell you that something is up
If you suddenly notice that your friends are giving you strange looks or questioning the nature of your relationship, it’s possible that they have noticed something that you haven’t.
People who are cheating often start to distance themselves from their friends and family members, so that they can have more time to spend with their lovers.
If you notice this, ask your friends what they’ve seen and heard so that you can get to the bottom of things as soon as possible. There’s no need to be embarrassed — most people are kept in the dark while their partners are seeing someone else and they don’t know until they’re told.
26) He criticizes your appearance
When your partner starts to criticize your appearance, he’s not only being a jerk, but he’s probably looking for faults that he can use to justify cheating on you.
Many cheaters will try to find something that you do that they don’t like, and then use that as an excuse to justify cheating.
Don’t let his comments make you feel bad about yourself or become insecure about your looks. Tell him that if he doesn’t like what he sees, he’s free to leave anytime.
27) His stories don’t add up
If you notice that his stories and excuses don’t add up, that there are too many inconsistencies, I’m sorry to say but it’s because he’s lying and it’s most probably another sign that he is cheating.
For example, if he tells you he was out for drinks with Barry after work and later changes the story to say he was with Pete, then you know he’s making it up.
28) He’s always out with his friends
Does he seem to always be with his friends but rarely wants to spend time with you?
The sad truth is that if he’s spending more time with his friends than usual, he might be cheating on you.
If you feel as though your partner is blowing off your dates, or if he keeps canceling them for no reason, this could be a sign that he doesn’t want to see you.
Many cheaters will start to blow off their significant others to have more time to see their lovers.
29) He doesn’t like when you ask about his day
If your partner suddenly becomes defensive when you ask about his day, this could indicate that he’s seeing someone else.
Think about it: If you were just being polite and asking a normal question and he acted as if you accused him of something, then something is certainly up.
Many cheaters will try to avoid talking about their day instead of making up lies.
30) He’s learned new moves in bed
If you hardly ever have sex and your partner suddenly starts doing things in bed that he’s never done before, you should ask yourself where he came up with such moves.
If you ask me, he’s either learned some new stuff from his lover, or he’s been going online looking for ways to impress his new lover with his skills.
All in all, if your partner has suddenly started doing new things in bed, it’s never a good sign.
31) He tells you to stop texting and calling so much
If your partner tells you that you’re calling him and texting him too often, it’s because he’s up to no good.
Cheaters will often tell their significant others to back off because they don’t want you to call when they’re with someone else.
32) He doesn’t say “I love you” anymore
If you used to hear “I love you” several times a week from your partner, but now he seems to have stopped saying it altogether, this could be a sign that he is cheating on you.
Many cheaters will stop saying “I love you” to their significant others because they don’t want to feel as though they’re lying to them.
33) He hardly ever has a kind word for you
If your partner used to have a kind word for you all the time, but now he rarely has anything nice to say, it could be a sign that he’s getting ready to leave you.
If your partner is cheating, he probably doesn’t have any feelings left for you and doesn’t feel happy being stuck in a relationship with you.
34) He has started hitting the gym
This is a guy who you had to force to go hiking or biking with you. He’s definitely not the sporty type, yet suddenly, he’s going to the gym 5 times a week!
If your man has started hitting the gym, it could be yet another sign that he’s cheating on you.
Let me explain: Some cheating men will hit the gym to boost their confidence and to get in shape for their mistress.
If your man has been working out a lot and eating healthier, it’s probably because he wants to look good for another woman.
35) You feel it in your gut
It all comes down to the gut.
Your intuition is powerful, and your subconscious knows more than you think.
If you feel that something is off in your relationship, pay attention to these signs that your boyfriend is cheating on you. Your intuition is based on years of experience and is usually right.
If you have no proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you but you feel it in your gut – then trust that feeling.
Being in a committed relationship is hard, and it’s even harder to detect signs of infidelity. If you notice signs that your partner is cheating on you, don’t ignore them. You deserve better and if your partner is cheating on you, you need to know about it so you can end the relationship and move on.
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