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Look beyond the cleavage: Why I decided to go braless

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Does the figurine closest to you have a barrier above her breasts, something to prop them up, make them appear more lifted, or are they simply hanging naturally, without constraint?

The statue is already an object, no flesh, probably not arousable inducing; therefore it may not evoke further objectification, but women, on the other hand, seem to since 1914 although the mentality must have settled in and rooted itself far before then.

Am I triggered?

Maybe slightly.

I walked out of my house in a tank top and another layer of support underneath that wasn’t a bra, and the first comment I got was from another fellow woman. “That’s trashy, your boobs are bouncing around too much.”

Somehow me being free and oblivious of my girls, which are no larger than 34B, suddenly felt shameful. Am I not allowed to dress as I please and carry myself the way I naturally feel to? At this point, liberation is not even part of the equation. It is my divine right to embrace what I have been given, rather than flatten them out or boost them up with a wiry $100 lace bralette. The effect of gravity on my gifts is not exactly any of your concern anyway.

I am not blind-sighted. The nature of men and women are such that perhaps a couple approaching you while you are exploring your liberation and bra-less freedom may feel unsettled, probably rush past in haste, and speak about you negatively.

I would not let that shackle you if others want to be bound by the ego-mind. It shall have no effect on your free spirit. I can see what issues might arise and how being out in public could stir some unwanted or unnecessary perusing. But at the same time if, in this moment, I am dressed the way I know is authentic to me, it would be more unethical of someone to ban me from the grocery store then it would be me walking in the way I was crafted to. I believe in the articulation of our Creator. I think as a woman, spiritual or not, our bodies are radical, and perhaps to stop the constant inhibition of our inner goddess we might have to literally strip the parts of ourselves that are being contorted and made only to appeal to others in a way that feels unfair to ourselves.

That which has been taught to be seen as wrong could actually just be a way of a masochist, patriarchal, narcissistic diseased society to control you and demean your spirit, and in this half-functioning society, you will always be wrong anyway. What and who exactly are you wearing this bra for, and what made you feel like it was not your choice? If you truly want to wear a bra then I would urge you to ask yourself, do you want to because you may be considered unacceptable if you do not?

The idea I am raving about is to shift the limitations and uproot the conditioning that society has drilled into our psyches. We make up this society too, so why not play a wiser role and take a leading part. A carnally driven world has to step up to the challenge. Why we react with repulsion or disdain if hardened nipples show through a shirt seems childish to me. Are we not just oversexualizing a completely natural body aspect, and why have we not beautified and glorified this instead? In the fight to feel that we belong and to become equals, we are ironically subjecting ourselves to the opposite.

We are not discussing athletes who run professionally or gymnasts who wear a bra so that the attention of their audience can be more so directed to their artform. We are talking about outside of this world of theirs. Going braless does not mean you ought to forget to wear all of your undergarments and intentionally flaunt something that no one would like to see (at least the majority). It means that the boundaries you have placed on yourself as a result of the outsider perspective can be done away with. Sometimes I wonder if it is the fact that as you venture into the spiritual world you gain this sense of unconditional love and respect for yourself and that all the suggestions and fortifications of self from religion, culture, government, social media injected into your mind begin to become absurdities.

Women and men, there is a discrepancy here. Start looking beyond the cleavage.

Jaskiran is the creator of the podcast, Seek in Sight: rEVOlution of Self. Listen to the latest episode on “relationship with self” below.

Notable replies

  1. Nice article, @jaskiran. It seems pretty obvious to me that women should feel free to go braless if that’s what they want to do.

    But I would also be interested to consider the arguments of people who think women shouldn’t always be free to go braless. What would those arguments be?

  2. Jasikran, a beautiful piece of writing. I am sorry you felt “shame” from another’s comment. Be stronger woman!

    Justin, bras are definitely a first-world issue, but let me tell you a little of their sometimes-benefit.

    The chance of that firey sperm striking that (soon-to-be human) egg is one in 400 trillion, or so the statistics go. There is an absolute wonderment as the mother’s body begins to prepare, including the breasts which are to feed the child or children. A bra worn during this time encases and protects their importance, especially as they plump up in readiness. And once the baby is born and begins to suckle, there is leakage, and what a handing thing a bra is to pop a little mop inside! and to pin a reminder of which breast is next in the process. But the milk does not come for all women, and the bra become a comforter as this mother wrestles with both the gift of a precious child and the grief not being able to provide.

    Next on my list are women who’ve had a mastectomy. The grief, loss and disfigurement is as great as losing a limb. It is here a bra comes into its own to hold a prosthesis, which have been known to fall out and roll into the most hilarious of places, or embarrassing, depending on how you view it. The medical profession is still out on whether the breasts are one organ, or two. I think the studies are still balanced 50:50. So a woman who has had one breast removed lives on in uncertainty.

    And then there’s a percentage of women who have a direct and heightened connection between the nipple and clitoris. Lucky is the married man, hungry for loving, to find such a sex partner on the side. The gentle caress of a finger across the breast and into the bra, a sweet loving kiss of such intensity his wife no longer gives, and then two fingers tucked into a matching pair of nickers and lightly running across and inside the lips of her sex will provide him with an erection so hard as he lightly touches his now wet fingers around the head of his penis.

    Practicality, healing and porn … just three of the benefits of wearing a bra at times.

    As for arguments as to why women shouldn’t always be free to go braless opens up a never-ending debate on why we wear clothes at all.

    My suggestion to any man reading this is to go without underpants for one week and experience the freedom and joy (maybe wait till the fuss of COVID-19 has diminished and you’re back standing on public transport, knowing that your crotch is at the eye level of those seated … lol).

  3. Yes, I do believe women and girls are condition by society to wear bras and it does not enter a teenage girl that she has a choice to wear a bra. It is an interesting subject. To be social conditioned to feel shame if you are bra less just going about your business but I have a big bust . I feel very un comfortable not wearing a bra also it is western thing as many countries in undeveloped parts of the world, tribal communities no bra wearing.
    As a young woman, I’m middle aged now, I had men talking to my bust and on the other hand women admiring my bust. Lusted and envyed and me feeling a combination of embarrassment and shame. Strange feelings society has about women breasts. Lust, envy, cover it up in public and control its natural movements with wire and straps for at least 7 hours a day.
    Your article has certainly got me thinking. I do believe if I had smaller bust I would go bra less.

  4. Thanks for responding @missglynis and @CJdancer. Also I really appreciate that @jaskiran took the time to contribute this article (I’m hoping Ideapod can start publishing more guest-contributed articles - if anyone reading this is insipred to write an article, please reach out!)

    @missglynis you’ve got a beautiful way with your words. I can certainly understand the reasons of practicality, healing and porn for wearing a bra. As for the last point, I regularly do what you have suggested, it’s a great way to make your point :slight_smile:

    So these are good reasons for a woman to actively choose to wear a bra. Of course, when the decision is consciously made to wear a bra, that’s great.

    I’m also interested to explore those times when women unconsciously wear bras, for societally conditioned reasons. We do so many things unthinkingly. That’s fine, but it’s interesting to explore.

    @jaskiran briefly mentions in her article that women are discouraged from wearing bras because of the attention it brings from men. @CJdancer I can see that you’re also touching on this point. This is an interesting notion to explore as well. Is that a fair reason that this norm has built up over time?

  5. Avatar for Owen Owen says:

    I am surprised that no one has mentioned support. I have heard large breasted women say in the past that a well fitted supporting bra is great for reducing back ache.
    Now I’m just a man and always willing to help but I can only hold them for so long…

  6. I don’t know about the arguments against women walking braless. But to be honest, if they feel better walking that way, that would benefit everyone :upside_down_face:

  7. Interesting observations, jaskiran. Thanks for your article.

    While growing up in the 60s and 70s, “burning the bra” was a symbol of shedding repressive thought. I also recall halter tops, bralessness, and of course, an emerging topless scene at topless/nude beaches.

    I even gave a speech on the subject during a 10th grade social studies class. I argued, among other things, that men going topless while women could not, was patently sexist and discriminatory. Clearly, the double standard should be abolished, but was stunned by the adverse reaction from many fellow students. I would later come to understand that I just experienced my first conservative backlash.

    The woman telling you it was “trashy” was simply revealing her bias, and promoting a totally arbitrary standard. Clearly, whatever “standard” exists, has shifted over the generations (going from covering even ankles at one time) and differs across cultures. In Europe, breasts are freely exposed without society crumbling. In fact, they’re arguably more healthy than we in the US.

    So, as with many fights against silly establishment rules, there inevitably will be push-back. The transition will be clumsy, fraught with setbacks and bewilderment that the obviously right thing to do seems not so obvious to many. I believe we’re now seeing that play out across the world stage. The “Establishment” (another great 70s buzzword… :wink:) will use power, shame, and slavish adherence to tribal convention (religious, patriotic, etc) to maintain the status quo. It’s probably natural for those whom the establishment benefits, and/or those fearful of it.

    As a man, I think I can sympathize to a degree. Men’s testicles are not meant to be bound up in traditional tight mid-seam pants. It’s totally unnatural, uncomfortable and dangerous for testicular cancer. If needing to cover them at all, we should let them swing free in loose clothing like sarongs, bloomers, and harem pants. I often wear loose and underwearless pants in public and if anyone asks, would advise the same for all men. Like bralessness, it makes so much sense, that anything to the contrary feels practically evil.

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Written by Jaskiran

Jaskiran is a free-spirited individual and connects with herself and others through her writing and love for humanity. With an unending ambition to ensure that the light from within shines and rises in the hearts of others, Jaskiran intends to touch the world with words that heal and empower. Jaskiran is the author of “Thine Soul Surrendered,” and the creator of the podcast Seek in Sight where she shares her revelations about life and attempts to uncover the inner workings of her soul.

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