7 genuinely useful relationship rules the happiest couples follow

Love is a beautiful journey, but like any journey, it’s full of twists and turns.

Some couples seem to navigate these twists with grace, maintaining a strong and happy relationship through thick and thin. But what is their secret? Are they just lucky or is there a tried-and-tested formula to their success?

After observing the happiest couples around me and seeking wisdom from relationship experts, I have distilled the essence of their success into seven simple, yet profound rules.

These are not just theories or cliches but practical guidelines that continue to uphold the strongest love bonds.

If these words resonate with you, it may be an opportune time to take a closer look at your own relationship dynamics.

1) Embrace each other’s individuality

In the symphony of a successful relationship, the harmonious notes come from two distinct instruments, each with its own unique sound.

It’s easy to lose sight of your individuality when you’re part of a couple. But the happiest couples understand and celebrate their differences.

These couples know that they are not two halves making a whole but two wholes coming together to make something even more beautiful. They do not suppress their individuality but allow it to flourish within the relationship. They respect each other’s personal space, hobbies, and passions.

Rather than trying to change or control each other, they appreciate their partner’s unique qualities and contributions to the relationship. This mutual respect for individuality fosters a safe space for growth, trust, and deep connection in their relationship.

Understanding and celebrating each other’s uniqueness naturally leads to our next rule: communication. It’s crucial to convey these individual nuances through open and honest dialogue.

2) Communicate openly and honestly

In the labyrinth of love, communication is the compass that guides couples towards happiness.

The happiest couples understand that love is not merely a feeling, but a conversation – one that requires openness and honesty.

These couples believe in the power of words and the silence between them.

They don’t shy away from expressing their feelings, their fears, their dreams, and even their disappointments. They understand that bottling up emotions can create pressure that may eventually lead to an explosion.

These couples also know that honesty is more than just about telling the truth; it’s about being real with each other, even when reality is not as rosy.

They have learned that it’s okay to have difficult conversations because it’s through these conversations that they build trust, resolve conflicts, and deepen their love for each other.

Effective communication sets the stage for making quality time together a priority. It’s about turning those honest conversations into shared moments that count.

3) They make time for each other

Life is a whirlwind of responsibilities, deadlines, and tasks. Amidst this chaos, it’s easy for couples to drift apart, consumed by their individual lives. The happiest couples, however, carve out time for each other – not because they have to, but because they want to.

I remember observing this in my own parents’ relationship. Despite their busy schedules and the demands of raising five children, they always made time for each other.

Every morning, they would wake up before the rest of us to share a quiet cup of coffee together. And every night, after putting us to bed, they would sit down and talk about their day.

They taught me that love isn’t just about grand gestures or epic declarations; it’s about the small moments spent together, the daily rituals that become sacred over time. It’s about creating shared experiences that deepen the bond and create a reservoir of happy memories.

Making time for each other is not always easy, but the happiest couples know that it’s worth every second.

In these shared moments, friendship blossoms. This deepens the bond, moving beyond love into the realm of genuine companionship and mutual enjoyment.

4) Nurture the friendship

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At the core of every happy relationship is a strong friendship.

Happy couples don’t just love each other; they genuinely like each other too. They share interests, laugh together, support each other, and enjoy spending time together, just like best friends do.

Interestingly, a study by the National Bureau of Economic Research found that people who consider their spouse their best friend are twice as satisfied with their lives. This isn’t surprising because friendship brings a level of comfort, understanding, and trust that forms a solid foundation for love to blossom.

These couples work on building and maintaining this friendship throughout their relationship. They treasure it and understand its importance. They don’t just grow old together; they grow together, evolving as individuals while keeping the roots of their friendship intact.

Within this friendship, the ability to forgive becomes key. Letting go of grudges strengthens the trust and understanding that underpin a strong relationship.

5) Forgive and let go of grudges

One of the hardest yet most rewarding aspects of a relationship is the ability to forgive and let go of grudges.

Holding onto past mistakes or conflicts only breeds resentment and creates a wall between you and your partner. The happiest couples understand this and choose to forgive.

I recall an incident in my own relationship that tested this principle. It was a misunderstanding that escalated into a full-blown argument – the kind that leaves you with a heavy heart. We both said things we didn’t mean, and the hurt was palpable.

But in the silence that followed, we both realized the futility of our anger. We chose to forgive, not because it was easy, but because our love for each other was greater than any disagreement. That choice didn’t just resolve the conflict; it brought us closer together, strengthening our bond.

Forgiveness is not about forgetting or condoning the wrongdoings, but about releasing the burden of resentment. The happiest couples know that forgiveness is a gift they give not just to their partner, but also to themselves.

After forgiveness, the next step is expressing appreciation. It’s about acknowledging and valuing each other’s role in the relationship, keeping the connection vibrant.

6) Show appreciation regularly

It’s often the little things that make a big difference in a relationship. A simple “thank you” or “I appreciate you” can go a long way in making your partner feel valued and loved.

The happiest couples understand this and make it a point to express their appreciation regularly.

They don’t take each other for granted. They recognize and value the efforts their partner puts into the relationship, no matter how small. A loving compliment, a heartfelt thank you note, or even a warm smile can be powerful expressions of appreciation.

This consistent exchange of positive affirmations not only boosts their partner’s self-esteem but also reinforces their bond. It creates a culture of gratitude and respect in their relationship, making it stronger and more resilient to challenges.

Amidst appreciation, don’t forget the spark of romance. Small romantic gestures can reignite passion, reminding you both why your journey together is so special.

7) Keep the romance alive

Romance is not just the domain of new lovers; it’s an essential ingredient in long-term relationships too. The happiest couples know this and make conscious efforts to keep the romance alive.

They know that romantic gestures don’t always have to be grand or extravagant. It could be as simple as holding hands while watching a movie, preparing a special meal together, or surprising their partner with a thoughtful gift.

These gestures of love, no matter how small, have the power to rekindle the spark and keep the passion alive. They create moments of intimacy, reminding couples why they fell in love in the first place.

Keeping the romance alive requires effort and creativity, but the reward is a relationship that is vibrant, fulfilling, and full of joy. The happiest couples know that love is not a destination but a journey – one that’s worth every step.

Conclusion: Cultivating a lifetime of happiness together

In the end, these seven rules are more than just guidelines; they are the stepping stones to a fulfilling and enduring relationship. The happiest couples don’t just follow these rules; they embody them, weaving these principles into the fabric of their daily lives.

By embracing individuality, we learn to love not just the person we met, but the person they evolve into.

Through open communication, we build a bridge that connects two hearts, even when words are hard to find.

Making time for each other in our busy lives acts as a reminder of our priorities and shared love.

The friendship we nurture within our relationship becomes the bedrock of our bond, filled with laughter, support, and understanding.

Forgiveness and letting go of grudges teach us the art of moving forward together, stronger and more connected.

Showing appreciation is a gentle yet powerful way to reinforce our commitment and admiration.

And keeping the romance alive ensures that the journey, while familiar, is always exciting and filled with love.

Remember, these rules are not a checklist to be completed, but a journey to be cherished.

Every relationship is unique, and the path to happiness is not always linear or smooth.

But with patience, understanding, and a willingness to grow together, couples can build a love that stands the test of time – a love that is not just happy, but genuinely joyful and deeply satisfying.

Embrace each day as an opportunity to strengthen your bond, celebrate your love, and create a shared story that is as beautiful and unique as the two of you. After all, the journey of love is the most rewarding journey of all.

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Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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