When you find your twin flame, you experience a relationship like no other.
This is a person whom you will love deeper and harder than you ever could have imagined, and they feel the same for you.
But be careful. On your quest to find your true twin flame, you’ll probably encounter some false twins along the way.
In the beginning, you might think they’re your true flame, but over time their inconsistencies and lack of commitment and support will cause you to doubt them.
This can be a painful process. Especially if you truly yearn to meet your twin flame.
So what are the signs that you’re actually in a false twin flame relationship? And what can you do to find your true twin flame? Read on for 21 signs that this person isn’t who you think they are. Let’s jump right in.
Signs of a false twin flame relationship
1) Past issues arise with a vengeance
In a regular relationship, if past issues start to come up, your partner will likely bail.
With a true twin flame, you’ll begin to face problems that will affect your future, and you’ll work through these problems together in hopes of creating better lives from now on.
With a false twin flame, issues from the past start to arise.
They’ll bring up traumas, anxieties, and hurt that you’ve previously experienced, rather than forcing you to work on current and future problems.
2) They can’t handle challenges
If you are with someone who is your true twin flame, your partner won’t give up when the going gets tough. A false twin flame will quickly move on to someone else.
Whether it’s through arguments, stressful periods, or testing times, a mistaken twin flame will always find an excuse to end things.
Whereas a true twin will find reasons to stay and work through the challenges.
3) A highly intuitive advisor confirms it
The signs I’m revealing in this article will give you a good idea about the fact that you’ve met your false twin flame.
But could you get even more clarity by speaking to a gifted advisor?
Clearly, you have to find someone you can trust. With so many fake experts out there, it’s important to have a pretty good BS detector.
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I was actually blown away by how kind, caring, and genuinely helpful they were.
A gifted advisor can not only tell you whether your twin flame is your false twin flame but they can also reveal all your love possibilities.
4) You focus only on yourself
A false twin flame will make your focus a great deal on yourself and make your world feel rather small.
Your true twin flame will make you look at yourself, your lifestyle, and your issues more deeply and learn important lessons from them. They’ll help you make important changes within yourself. And in turn, you will extend your focus to help others.
A true twin flame will come at a time in your life when you’re ready to expand and help others.
They’ll be a catalyst for your desire to help those around you and bring strength, happiness, and empowerment to not just yourself, but others as well.
5) You feel uncertain
When you are with someone who makes you feel insecure and not confident, you are likely in a low-quality interaction. This is not how a twin flame makes their partner feel.
One of the best parts about finding your true twin flame is that you are filled with confidence and assurance about your relationship with them.
Even when things get tough, you know that they will be by your side. Even when you are separated, you know that your reunion is near.
But, with a false flame, you’ll constantly feel uncertainty about the relationship, where it’s going, and whether your partner is the right one for you.
This uncertainty can be a real burden, and I know it well.
The struggle with deep feelings of confusion caused me to turn to a search for answers in New Age spirituality, but it didn’t go how I expected.
In fact, my quest to empower myself actually ended up doing the opposite and I felt even more unsure about my twin flame.
That was until I started finding real answers that led me to taking positive action.
6) Your partner brings you more anxiety than peace
A false twin will bring about many changes in you, yet you’ll feel greatly anxious or uncomfortable throughout the relationship.
This is a big contrast when compared to a relationship with your true flame.
A true flame partner will feel like coming home after a long and arduous journey.
Their company and support will be like that of an old friend, and you’ll know that you can leave your worries and anxieties at the door when you’re with them.
Your true twin flame will appear in your life when you’re ready to receive that relationship.
You two will have a deep soul connection, a natural flow to the relationship, and a sense of unseen understanding.
In contrast, you’ll feel no real soul connection or feeling of natural flow with your false twin flame. Trust your gut intuition, you will feel the difference.
7) You recognize your soulmate
Surprisingly, sometimes the most certain sigh that you’re in a relationship with your false twin flame is that you recognize someone else.
And guess what?
This someone is probably your soulmate.
But how can you find out for certain that they’re your soulmate?
Here’s the thing:
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8) They don’t protect you
If your partner is not willing to stand by your side and protect you, it’s a not-so-subtle sign that you’re in a FALSE twin flame relationship.
Your twin flame will love to care for you and be your hero. And this feeling goes to the heart of whether you’re in a real twin flame relationship or a false one.
It’s about calling upon someone’s hero instinct.
Simply put, when a man feels the urge to protect and step up for the woman in his life, he feels fundamentally united and connected with her. This desire for respect, meaning, and purpose is deeply rooted in male biology.
He wants to feel like a hero to his partner.
The simple truth is that it’s impossible to be in a twin flame relationship unless this instinct is triggered in your man.
9) They came when you were still finding your inner power
Your FALSE twin will come while you’re still learning about yourself and finding your inner power. They might help you in this process, but that’s not the role of a TRUE twin flame.
In a true twin flame relationship, your partner will come after you’ve gained this empowerment, and they’ll be a driving force in helping you expand and use this power.
They’ll be guiding you and helping you all the way.
Put another way, true twin flame partners aren’t brought into your life by coincidence, but rather by a greater life force to ensure those two are in your life together.
Like I said earlier, part of my turn to spirituality came about because of pain over my connection with my twin flame.
But it doesn’t mean that the same is going to happen to you!
So, try to be mindful of this sign and don’t let your false twin flame ruin your future.
10) You doubt your partner
If you have doubts about your current partner, it is a clear sign that they are not your true twin flame.
To wavier, your feelings towards your partner might be common in relationships you’ve had in the past, but it’s not a characteristic of twin flame relationships.
If you doubt your partner, this is because deep down, something tells you that, while they might be monumental in your life as a soul mate can be, or passionate love, but they aren’t your true twin flame.
They aren’t a mirror to your soul, and their lack of commitment when things get tough will make you increasingly unsure about whether your partner is your twin flame or not.
11) They avoid commitment
Your false twin will find a number of reasons to avoid fully committing to you and the relationship. They won’t be 100% in.
From ‘the timing isn’t right’ to ‘they need more freedom’, you’ll often hear these types of excuses.
A true twin flame won’t be afraid to commit to you.
They’ll see that the relationship is rare and unique and that it’s worth fully investing their time and emotions into.
12) Your false twin flame will move on quickly
If things do unravel, your false twin flame will quickly be on its way, and not look back.
Quite often, when the relationship breaks down, you’ll find that a false twin flame will move on extremely quickly. In their new relationships, they’ll also claim to have a deep connection, as they did with you.
You’ll start to realize that this person latches on to false hope, and forges false connections with numerous people, which means they were never your true twin to start with.
It’ll be painful to experience, but an eye-opening situation that will confirm your doubts about your partner.
13) They’ll keep you in a state of wonder
When you are with someone who is not truly your twin flame, you will always be wondering about what is really going on between you and them.
The lack of reassurance from your false twin flame means that you’ll know for sure what’s going to happen in the relationship.
You’ll want to progress with your partner, but they’ll always keep you hanging, sending you a trial of breadcrumbs and empty words.
This can lead to a lot of unhappiness and uncertainty, as you’ll want to believe them but their actions won’t match their words.
This lack of consistency will be a surefire way to know that they aren’t your true twin flame.
14) A false twin fears your success
If you are with a false twin flame, they will fear and grow jealous of any success you experience.
A true twin will embrace and celebrate your success and attainments.
They’ll encourage you, support you and be happy for you when you succeed.
A true twin will be inspired and gain motivation from your success.
A false flame will be the opposite. They’ll fear your rise in success and will act as if it’s affecting the relationship. They’ll find reasons to discourage you, and will often make you feel bad for your good fortune.
15) You have different visions of the future
If you are with a false twin flame, it will feel like you see your future differently and are on different paths that don’t ever merge.
One of the best parts of finding your true twin flame is that your visions of your relationship and lifestyle will be very similar.
When it comes to talking about the future, you will both have a similar outlook and goals which will complement and strengthen each other.
A false twin will never fully be on the same page as you. Their goals for the future don’t quite match up to yours, and compromises on your visions don’t come easily.
16) Your false twin forces you to awaken alone
A false twin will force you to awaken yourself, make changes, and experience growth, but it’ll be done alone and often at the expense of your happiness.
They will not go through any sense of growth themselves. And you won’t have the sense that you are learning and understanding each other more as a couple.
A true twin will be by your side and will embrace the changes and challenges together, you’ll never feel like you’re alone on your journey with them.
They will also go through changes and your bond together will feel more united and stronger.
17) They’ll make you self-destruct
When you are with a false twin flame, you will feel a swell of negative emotions that bring you down.
The constant uncertainty and lack of commitment mean that you’ll end up becoming incredibly frustrated and hurt.
They won’t make you a priority in their life, and you’ll start to feel unappreciated and undervalued.
You’ll be disappointed that this person who you love isn’t living up to the expectations that you hold for them and that whilst they force you to change and find your inner power, you often feel lonely and unhappy throughout the process.
A true twin flame will do the opposite. Their love and support will inspire and uplift you. You will feel lifted to a higher realm of functioning.
18) You can’t be fully yourself around them
If you are with a false twin flame, you will feel awkward and want to hide certain parts of yourself from them.
A true twin will love you and accept you as you are.
There’ll be no need to pretend or act a different way to impress them. They will want to know what makes you tick and fuels your passion.
A false flame will often find faults in your personality, and won’t ever be 100% satisfied with who you are.
This will lead to a lot of internal conflicts, as you battle between being true to yourself and pleasing them.
19) They distance themselves from you
A false twin flame will play games and pull away from you rather easily.
Do you ever feel like you’re chasing your partner? That they always keep you at arm’s length? This is typical behavior from a false twin.
They’ll let you in just enough to keep you interested and emotionally involved, but never enough to make you feel secure in the relationship.
Your true twin flame will have none of this. They will go out of their way to make sure you feel valued, send, and heard. They will be close by your side, and even closer when you need them.
20) They give you false hope
A false twin flame will talk up a beautiful future and then drop the relationship without hesitation.
As well as distancing themselves from you, they’ll string you along and keep you there for their disposal by feeding you false hope.
This will essentially keep your relationship in limbo. It can feel rather painful.
It never moves forward, but whenever you bring up this subject they’ll have plenty of excuses and promises to keep you around for a little bit longer.
A true twin flame will commit, be honest, and lovingly invest in your relationship.
21) There’s a lack of purpose to your relationship
A false twin flame might say all the right things and you share wonderful moments together, but underneath it feels a little superficial and shallow.
A true twin flame relationship will have clear progress, goals, and dreams for the future and you’ll be sure of the direction of the relationship.
A false twin will leave you doubting the relationship and wondering where it’s headed. You’ll question why you’re even with that person, and whether the relationship even has a future.
What to do if you’ve met your false twin flame
If you believe that you are in a false twin flame relationship, then not everything is lost.
Don’t worry, it’s an easy mistake to make. Especially when you truly want to meet your twin flame. This is all part of the learning process.
By digging a little deeper into the problems in the relationship, you may still be able to enjoy a deep, passionate experience. But maybe you want more?
You may be ready to get out of a relationship with your false twin flame so that you open your heart and time for someone who is your true twin flame.
How to get rid of a false twin flame
Eventually, enough is enough. It is time for you to end the relationship with your false twin flame.
The first thing you have to do is to act clearly. You do not want to delay the experience. If you decide to stick around with that person, it is only going to lead to more pain.
Nobody looks forward to ending a relationship, even if it is with someone such as your false twin flame.
So, how do you break up with a false twin flame? Some of the tips to keep in mind include:
- Break up with a person in your own mind first. If you keep focusing on the happy moments, you are going to have a harder time breaking up with them. Focus on the signs that pointed to a false twin flame. Remember how you felt. This will help you stay strong.
- Be respectful during the break-up; however, you also need to be strict. Establish boundaries. Be clear. Make sure the other person knows the relationship is over.
- Pick the right location. By this point, you should know your false twin flame pretty well. You should have a decent idea of how they are going to handle it. It is a good idea to break up in person to see their reaction. Do you want to do this in private? Do you want to do this in a coffee shop? Of course, you need to think about your safety. If you have any concerns about this, pick a public place.
- Before the breakup, make sure you work out the logistics. If you are living with your false twin flame, you have to know who is going to move out. If you are moving out, where are you going to go?
- If you believe you need support during this transition, you may want to let your friends know what is happening. That way, they can be there for you after the experience.
- You need to brace yourself for a few feelings. No matter how you think you are going to feel, your feelings are probably going to change when you see the reaction of your partner. Be prepared to get emotional.
- Do not be afraid to show emotion yourself. You have been in a relationship with someone who you thought was your true twin flame. It is only natural to have some sadness and tears on your end as well. Something you thought was special is now ending.
Ultimately, you need to stick to your guns. Do not back down. It is not unusual to get cold feet before it actually happens. Remember the signs that you are with your false twin flame. Stay firm and go through with it.
How to handle the reaction of a false twin flame
During the breakup, your false twin flame is going to experience a lot of emotions as well. Whether or not they saw it coming, you should be prepared for a few reactions. Some of the most common reactions include:
- They Beg You To Change Your Mind: Your false twin flame should not have to beg you to keep them around. They may be shocked, surprised, and blindsided. Remember that there is a reason why you are breaking up with them. If they haven’t convinced you to stay so far, they aren’t going to convince you now. Stick to your gut.
- They Could Get Angry: You can only control your emotional responses. You cannot control their emotional responses. Commit to remaining calm. If you are feeling hurt, angry, or want to lash out, stay calm. Reaffirm the breakup.
- They Might Appear Sad: Sadness is normal following a breakup. You may feel sad as well. If you notice your false twin flame is feeling sad, be empathetic. But, you also have to reaffirm the breakup. Do not send mixed signals.
- They May Promise To Change: This is a common reaction when you break up with your false twin flame. He or she may promise to change. They may promise to go to therapy. They could promise to do everything you want. Nobody should make promises they can’t keep. There is a chance you have heard this before. Go through with the breakup.
Think about some of these reactions ahead of time. You may want to have statements prepared if you see them.
What should you do after your breakup with a false twin flame?
After you have broken up with a false twin flame, there is a chance you will feel lonely and isolated.
This is a great time to reach out to loved ones for support. This includes friends and family members. You may want to find some friends or family members to hang out with as well.
Whether you go to a movie, grab a bite to eat, or simply hang out and talk, it is good to have some emotional support.
You also need to focus on the most important relationship of all.
When it comes to relationships, you might be surprised to hear that there’s one very important connection you’ve probably been overlooking:
The relationship you have with yourself.
I learnt about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his incredible, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to refocus on yourself.
And once you start doing that, there’s no telling how much happiness and fulfillment you can find within yourself and with your relationships.
So what makes Rudá’s advice so life-changing?
Well, he uses techniques derived from ancient shamanic teachings, but he puts his own modern-day twist on them. He may be a shaman, but he’s experienced the same problems in love as you and I have.
And using this combination, he’s identified the areas where most of us go wrong in our relationships.
So if you’re tired of your relationships never working out, of feeling undervalued, unappreciated, or unloved, this free video will give you some amazing techniques to change your love life around.
Make the change today and cultivate the love and respect you know you deserve.
Don’t forget your physical health, either…
Remember that you need to take care of your physical health as well.
Even if you need some time to cry it out, you need to cope in a healthy way. Try not to stalk your false twin flame on social media, as this is not healthy.
Speaking of social media, you may want to think about this as well when you are breaking up with someone.
- How public do you want to break up to be?
- Do you want to block your false twin flame on social media?
- Do you want to remove all pictures?
You should think about this ahead of time so you are not caught off guard when you see them posting pictures with someone new.
Finally, understand that second thoughts are natural.
It may take a few days for this to truly sink in. When you are having doubts, remember the signs that told you you were in a relationship with your false twin flame. Stick to them.
Finding your real twin flame partner
Luckily, the process is quite simple; focus on yourself.
To make it even easier, there are four simple steps that can be taken to opening yourself up to finding your true twin flame.
1. Trust your gut feelings.
You and your true twin flame will be drawn to each other, but you may have to follow your intuition and heart when it comes to freely embracing your twin flame. Resist the urges to hold back, and you’ll be surprised at what might happen.
2. Find yourself before you find them.
To really connect with your true twin flame, you must first have connected with yourself. You need to dig deep, understand, and accept who you are. Without this, meeting your true twin will come at a great expense; you won’t be ready and your lack of self-awareness will cause damage to the relationship.
3. Look after yourself to increase your vibrations.
You and your twin flame will bounce off each other’s vibrations, so it’s important that you look after yourself whilst you wait to find them. Eat and drink healthily, exercise, and sleep well. All of these changes to your lifestyle will increase the frequency of your vibrations.
4. Go with the flow.
Meeting your true twin flame will be an experience that you’ve never had before. It’ll be emotional, confusing, passionate, and more. Instead of resisting this, let the relationship flow and happen naturally. You have to trust the journey and let your soul’s connection guide you.
How to speed up the twin flame encounter
When you are ready to get out there again, you need to know how you can find your true twin flame. Of course, finding your true twin flame is not easy. Given your last experience, you may be a bit hesitant to get out there again.
Before you physically start dating again, it is important to look inward. Embrace being single and work on yourself. Some of the tips to keep in mind include:
- If you want your true twin flame to find you, make sure that you do not hide who you truly are. If you are afraid of being judged, you need to put this to the side. Remember that your true twin flame is going to love you for who you are. If you do not let people see the real you, you will not attract your true twin flame.
- Therefore, you need to be more vulnerable. You may feel some anxiety, but this is normal. Be upfront. Be honest. You will face rejection from time to time. Be willing to face it.
- You also need to let go of your attachment to specific results. If you are attached to specific results, you are going to appear needy. The healthiest relationship still has a bit of distance between them.
Once you have dealt with these issues, you will be ready to find your true twin flame.
In order to do this, you are probably going to go on a lot of dates. Be active about your intentions. Tell people you are looking for someone.
Socialize with as many people as possible. In this process, you are going to make new friends. New friends are always exciting. Eventually, a new friend may turn into something more.
If you have this mindset when you are meeting new people, you will open yourself up to finding your true twin flame. Then, when you feel that energy and spot the signs you may have found your true twin flame, be ready to act accordingly.
If you are ready to find your true twin flame, your true twin flame will find you. This is how you will unlock the door to a long-lasting, healthy, loving relationship. This is how you will find the one.
Live your fabulous life
As you move forward, it’s important to question why you are so attracted to finding your twin flame. You really have two options in front of you:
1. You can keep dating and secretly hoping that your twin flame will appear
2. You can enjoy your life and let go of waiting for your twin flame altogether
If you are meant to meet your twin flame, you will.
Sometimes we can hold ourselves back from living our glorious lives and self-sabotage our romances because they aren’t as we want them to be.
The best way out of this is to free your mind completely of the twin flame relationship.
You know the signs to look for. It will feel obvious and clear when you meet this special person. So why fret and worry.
Instead, I’d like to encourage you to focus on your life, your friendships, and strengthening the sense of how wonderful and fabulous you actually are.
Then when you meet your twin flame, they are a welcomed addition to your life.
Not someone you are expecting to fill a bottomless hole of your insecurity and despair.
Wouldn’t you rather meet a person who is excited and wants to be with you, not one who is trying to force a connection that isn’t really there?
I know it may seem hard to let go of spending your life looking for someone when you believe your twin flame is the only way.
It will be scary for a while, but I promise you’ll look back on this experience and laugh at yourself.
Nothing wrong with having high hopes but make sure your expectations are in check.
I want you to meet someone who is excited to be with you, not someone who is trying to force a connection that isn’t really there. Or someone with who you want to feel deeply connected.
So take some power and autonomy back. Reclaim your life. Enjoy it. Enjoy dating.
And feel the liberation of what it is to let any expectations go.
It really is a game-changer.
When it comes to your personal journey for growth and empowerment, have you honestly looked at which toxic habits you might fall into?
When you depend on others for your happiness, be it a twin flame or a self-professed guru, you can end up achieving the opposite of what you’re searching for.
You can hold onto beliefs that hold you back.
You may even hurt those close to you.
In this eye-opening video, Rudá Iandé explains easy it is for us to fall into this trap.
He has to sort through a lot of toxic advice packaged as spiritual wisdom at the start of his shamanic journey.
As he reminds us in the video, spirituality should be about empowering yourself.
It’s all about forming a pure connection with who you are at your core.
If this is what you’d like to develop, click here to watch the free video.
Even if you’re well into your journey, twin flame or no twin flame, it’s never too late to unlearn the myths you’ve bought into for truth.
Remember to seek out truth, love, and honesty. And you’ll be well on your way.