16 essential character traits of a high-value man

Tired of dating losers?

Feel like it’s finally time to find yourself a high-value man?

Well then, you’ve come to the right place!

In this article, I’m gonna share with you 16 essential character traits of a high-value man so that you can be sure that the next guy you date isn’t another low-value guy!

Let’s dive right in:

1) Respectful

Let’s face it, a relationship with a guy who doesn’t respect you isn’t worth having, is it?

One of the most obvious ways to spot a high-value man is by the fact that he treats his woman with the respect she deserves.

But it doesn’t stop there!

He’s a good guy and that means that he treats everyone with kindness and consideration. He values other people’s feelings and opinions and totally respects their boundaries.

He’d never say anything to demean or belittle you or anyone else, that sort of behavior is beneath him.

Now that’s the kind of man you want!

2) Confident

The thing about a high-value man is that he believes in himself and his abilities.

So, why is that good?

Because it gives him a positive self-image and contributes to his emotional stability – which is something you want in the person you’re dating.

A high-value guy is self-assured without being arrogant – striking the right balance between self-assurance and humility is crucial – which inspires trust and admiration in others.

In short, a high-value guy is comfortable in his skin, sure of his abilities, and doesn’t have to pretend to be someone he’s not.

3) Responsible

A high-value man is a grown-up.

And after dating a bunch of low-value losers who act like adolescents, dating a high-value man will feel like a breath of fresh air.

So what exactly do I mean by, “He’s a grown-up”?

Well, I mean that you can be sure that he will always follow through on his obligations – without exception.

He has a job, he pays his bills, and he takes care of his family and friends.

What’s more, he’s the kind of guy who makes thoughtful decisions. For example, you’ll never see him spend more money than he earns!

All in all, he’s dependable, trustworthy, and committed to upholding his commitments and promises and he thinks about the impact of his choices before making them.

4) Integrity

If the guy you’re dating doesn’t have integrity, if his principles are easily bent and he’s always up to something, you can be sure he’s not a high-value man.

You see, a high-value man has strong moral principles and behaves according to them, even when faced with difficult choices.

He believes that honesty really is the best policy.

He knows right from wrong and is not the kind of guy to give in to temptation easily.

5) Empathetic

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A lot of people take empathy for granted, but unfortunately, even though it’s a very human trait, not everyone has it.

Don’t worry though, because, of course, a high-value guy has empathy.

He makes a point of really listening to others and he genuinely tries to understand their perspective and how they feel.

His empathy allows him to connect to people on a deeper level and offer support when they need it.

In short, he’s a good guy who treats others the way he would like to be treated.

6) Emotionally intelligent

Don’t let anyone fool you into thinking that an emotionally intelligent man is not masculine.

Trust me, you want to be dating an emotionally intelligent guy, not some macho man who doesn’t even know how he feels!

A high-value man is both manly and emotionally intelligent.

He recognizes and manages his own emotions effectively, and he’s attuned to the emotions of others. This results in better communication and healthier relationships!

For example, he’d never take his frustration or anger out on you. He’d recognize that whatever is eating at him isn’t your fault and find a healthy outlet to deal with his emotions – whether it be by working out, meditating, or talking to someone about it.

7) Reliable

Don’t you hate it when someone says they’re gonna do something or be somewhere and then they forget or flake out?

Well, luckily for you, that’s not something you ever have to worry about with a high-value man.

If he says he’s gonna do something, you can bet your life on it.

And guess what – he’s never late!

In fact, when you have a date he makes sure he’s a couple of minutes early, just in case! That’s how reliable and thoughtful he is.

8) Open-minded

The great thing about high-value men is the fact that they’re so open-minded.

They’re eager to experience new things and to learn from others.

They’re not afraid of diversity, in fact, they appreciate it.

You won’t ever hear a high-value guy make statements such as, “That’s not for me” or “That’s stupid.”

Instead, you’ll hear, “I’ve never tried that but I’m game if you are” and “I’d love to hear your perspective”.

Ask your guy if he wants to see Barbie with you. If he says, “Sure” then you’re dating a pretty open-minded guy.

9) Adaptable

The truth is that as much as we may hate to hear it, life is full of uncertainties.

We may want something and plan for it, but because of unforeseeable circumstances, we may not always get it.

So, what does a high-value man do under such circumstances?

Does he give up? Does he get angry? Does he whine?


He adapts to the new situation and moves on with his life. I guess part of the reason is his…

10) Positive attitude

It makes all the difference.

Let me explain.

There are two types of people – those who see the glass as half empty and those who see it as half full.

The former tend to focus only on the bad stuff in life, while the latter prefer to stay positive, even when times get tough.

Luckily, a high-value guy has a positive outlook and will always try to make the best out of a bad situation instead of complaining about it.

In other words, he’s a great guy to be around.

11) Self-disciplined

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Here’s another essential character trait of a high-value man: Self-discipline.

A guy who is self-disciplined is usually someone who makes conscious choices, is able to stay focused on his goals, as well as resist impulsive actions.

And when it comes to vices like drinking, gambling, and smoking, he’s not likely to have them.

Even when it comes to food, you’ll find that a high-value guy chooses healthy food and is able to resist junk food.

Try dating a high-value guy and maybe some of his self-discipline will rub off on you!

12) Generous

If you’re tired of dating selfish guys, then you definitely need a high-value man ASAP!

Not only is he willing to spend his money on others, but he’s also pretty generous with his time and knowledge.

And the best part?

He’s not keeping score and doesn’t expect anything in return.

13) Good communicator

I appreciate someone who knows how to communicate effectively, don’t you?

I’m talking about someone who actively listens when other people are talking (doesn’t just nod their head), someone who can clearly express their thoughts and feelings, and who works hard to resolve conflicts constructively.

Let’s face it, a low-value guy isn’t big on communication.

You wanna guess who is?

A high-value guy of course!

14) Self-aware

One of the character traits I truly love about high-value men is the fact that they’re so self-aware. I mean, it’s like they’re on a totally different plane than low-level guys.

They know what their strengths and weaknesses are. They can recognize their emotional triggers and know how to deal with them.

Is that all?

Actually, no.

A self-aware guy knows what he wants out of life and out of a relationship so you can be sure he’s not gonna say stuff like, “I’m not sure what I want… it’s not you, it’s me.”

15) Patient

The thing about a low-value man is that he has the patience of a two-year-old.

He needs constant gratification or he either becomes cranky or loses interest.

That’s something you don’t have to worry about with a high-value man.

He’s patient and understands that the good things in life are worth the wait.

Plus, when it comes to other people, he gets that everyone is different and that some people need more time than others to learn or do something. So he’s tolerant and fair and that makes working with him a pleasure.

16) Grateful

Another essential characteristic of a high-value man is that he doesn’t take the good things in his life for granted.

Oh no!

He makes a point of going through everything he’s grateful for each day – whether it’s by keeping a gratitude journal or taking a mental note of the blessings in his life.

And the result?

He’s got humility and a deep appreciation for everything good he has – even the little things.

The bottom line

Now you know how to spot a high-value man, you’ll think twice before accepting a date with just anyone.

And who knows, you may be going on a date with, “The One” before you know it.

Jelena Dincic

Jelena Dincic

Jelena has a background in photography and film-making and has spent the last few years as a content editor and copywriter. Jelena is a citizen of the world who is passionate about travel and learning about new cultures. She’s a foodie who loves to cook. And, as an art lover, she is always experimenting with new art mediums. When she’s not at her computer, she’s usually out and about in some forest with her dogs.

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