With all the trials and conflicts coming our way, being emotionally strong is definitely an asset.
Emotionally strong people tend to have a grounded and determined outlook, giving them the resilience to navigate life and face struggles head-on.
They’re likely to remain level-headed in solving problems and conflicts with people around them, allowing them to maintain healthy relationships with others.
No matter where you are in life, it’s never too late to be stronger emotionally.
To set yourself up for success, you can start by unlearning bad habits and practicing healthy ones, training your mind and body to stay calm and in control.
And this involves knowing where to channel your time and energy.
That’s why emotionally strong people don’t waste their time on:
1) Compromising Too Much Just To Be Accepted By Others
Emotionally resilient individuals don’t waste their energy bending over backward simply to fit into a crowd.
They won’t do things they don’t agree with or change themselves to please others.
It’s a trap we all fall into at times – transforming ourselves into someone we’re not, purely to feel accepted.
We might not admit it to ourselves yet, but we do this because we’re scared of being alone or getting rejected when people know our true selves.
But emotionally strong people aren’t afraid of showing who they really are.
They believe that the most meaningful friendships are with those who accept you for who you are and stay with you through the ups and downs.
Being with the fun and cool crowd doesn’t matter in the long run if at least one of them can’t be there when you need a friend.
2) People Who Don’t Value Their Worth
Emotionally strong people are resilient because they surround themselves with people who love and support them no matter what.
They invest time and energy in people who are important to them.
All the emotionally strong people I know usually have a lot of love to give. But once they’ve grown tired of you taking them for granted, they won’t hesitate to cut you off.
Spending time and energy on individuals who fail to recognize your worth can drain your mental and emotional well-being.
I experienced this firsthand. It left me feeling undeserving of love and affection, questioning my worth.
My enlightenment came when I ended a relationship with a partner who was emotionally distant. I had tried to mend our bond, clinging to the joyful moments we once shared.
Yet, the relationship had faded long before I recognized it, and it was a wake-up call that moving on was the right choice.
3) Petty Drama and Rumors
Emotionally resilient individuals don’t waste their time on pointless drama or idle gossip, whether it directly involves them or not.
Being consumed by such trivial matters can lead to unnecessary anxiety, worry about how others perceive you, or fear of being disliked.
It’s undoubtedly upsetting to hear rumors about yourself or discover that your private life is public knowledge without your permission.
These falsehoods can portray you as someone you’re not. Attempting to defend yourself often feels like being caught in a rigged game where you’re deemed guilty no matter your actions.
Through trial and error, emotionally strong people have learned to address minor conflicts in a mature, productive manner or simply disregard meaningless rumors.
Their focus lies on what truly matters: tangible issues and the individuals who genuinely care about them.
Ultimately, your values and kindness towards others will naturally refute any baseless gossip.
4) Toxic People Who Don’t Respect Others
I’ve also noticed that many emotionally strong people can be pretty social.
They relish the pleasure of meeting and connecting with others, and in the process, they find joy in every interaction.
Their knack for judging character helps them discern the tell-tale signs of toxicity. They can maintain a wide circle of acquaintances, but they won’t tolerate those who bring negativity into their lives.
Their goal is to surround themselves with people capable of forming mature and meaningful relationships.
Hence, when they encounter someone treating others poorly, they won’t waste their time or emotional energy on such individuals.
They understand that they could be treated similarly, and their first instinct is self-protection.
Regardless of how captivating or charismatic a toxic person may appear, an emotionally strong individual will likely keep their distance.
5) Dwelling on Unhealthy Thoughts and Self-Pity
Emotionally resilient individuals have taught me crucial lessons about not sinking into the swamp of negative thoughts and self-pity.
Granted, it’s easier said than done – practicing this requires time, and the journey is seldom linear.
But the endeavor is worthwhile, and the journey begins with one crucial step: self-kindness.
Dealing with and making sense of your emotions is helpful, but getting stuck in them can negatively impact your daily life.
It robs you of chances to learn from mistakes, try again, and lead a fulfilled life.
Emotionally strong people exercise their minds and bodies to rein in anxiety, often adopting healthy coping mechanisms and seeking professional help when needed.
I used to have a gloomy outlook on life, coupled with low self-esteem. I felt like I was being swept along by the currents of life with no control.
However, things took a turn when I reconnected with some old friends and summoned the courage to seek professional help.
I started to engage in activities that were beneficial for my mental and physical health.
I realized that doing things that bring me joy is a way of showing love to myself, providing me with the trust and resilience to confront life’s challenges.
6) Stressing Over Others’ Lives
While it’s natural to want updates about our loved ones’ lives, it’s important not to overburden ourselves with matters that don’t directly affect us.
Emotionally resilient individuals often have a knack for knowing when to step in and lend a hand, and when to step back, allowing others to navigate their own paths and learn from their experiences.
Helping others is admirable, but it’s equally crucial to recognize our own limits and prioritize self-care.
Getting too wrapped up in other people’s problems can be harmful. I learned this lesson when I tried to mediate a difficult breakup between friends.
Frustration overwhelmed me when my attempts to reconcile them seemed fruitless.
In hindsight, I realized I should have respected their space and the time they needed to heal. Overstepping wasn’t beneficial for any of us.
Sometimes, the best we can do is to be a supportive presence, not impose our opinions, and avoid stressing ourselves over decisions that aren’t ours to make.
7) Stressing Over Things They Can’t Control or Change
Emotionally resilient individuals keep a cool head under pressure by avoiding unnecessary stress over situations beyond their control or influence.
It’s common to become overwhelmed by emotions when confronted with challenging circumstances.
However, continually berating ourselves won’t alter the situation but instead might compound the distress.
Instead of reacting impulsively, emotionally robust people strive to evaluate the situation first.
They question whether there is any actionable step they can take to alter the circumstances.
If the situation is beyond their control, they focus on adapting to the new reality.
Chronic stress over things you can’t influence can wreak havoc on your mental health, creating a domino effect that negatively impacts your work and relationships.
8) Acting Tough When They’re Having a Hard Time
A common misconception is that emotionally resilient individuals never falter.
However, the true essence of strength isn’t about being invulnerable to weakness, but rather, it’s about choosing to persevere in the face of fear or uncertainty.
Emotionally sturdy people understand that acknowledging vulnerabilities is a critical step towards overcoming life’s obstacles.
Far from being a sign of cowardice, as some might believe, it’s actually a part of emotional strength.
For this reason, they don’t pretend to be okay when they’re weathering a storm.
Part of being emotionally strong involves recognizing your needs and having the courage to seek love and support from others.
So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed by life’s pressures and are on the verge of giving up, don’t hesitate to reach out to others.
Sometimes, what we need is to acknowledge our feelings, take a pause, and seek support from someone who can lend us a listening ear and a shoulder to lean on.