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Don’t just “settle.” Be with someone who knows your worth.

“We accept the love we think we deserve.”

A powerful line from the movie The Perks Of Being A Wallflower that surely struck a chord to a lot of people.

Why? Because it is so incredibly true.

“Settling” is another depressing word that is now popular in our millennial vocabulary.

But it’s not only a term — it has become common practice in modern dating. So many people “settle” for relationships that aren’t good for them because they think that the alternative — being single — is much, much worse.

At an early age, we are programmed to tie our worth with our ability to find a partner. We are told that we are not complete until we find our other “half.”

This has made us so desperate for validation, that we even settle for toxicity. We jump from relationship to relationship. And we continue wasting our time with the wrong people because being single means we failed.

On the other hand, those who do refuse to settle are labeled “picky” or “unrealistic.” They are urged to “lower” their standards.

But why shouldn’t you fall for this stigma? Why is it so important to be with someone who knows your worth?

1. You deserve to be in a healthy relationship.

You don’t deserve being constantly lied to. And you absolutely don’t deserve to be with someone who makes you feel insecure. You should be with someone honest. Someone who values you so much that they wouldn’t do anything to willingly hurt you.

You need the kind of love that doesn’t make you doubt your worth or makes you think you deserve to be treated badly.

Life is too short to be with someone that doesn’t make you better in every way. You deserve the kind of love that empowers you. Not the kind that devalues you.

2. You deserve to be loved for who you are.

You shouldn’t have to change for love.

In fact, you shouldn’t have to compromise who you are just to have it.

You need to be with someone who sees you as you are and loves you for the entirety of it – the good, the bad, the quirky.


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Don’t be with anyone who wants to change you to suit their ideals. You don’t have to convince anyone to love you. They should love you for all that you are.

3. You deserve true, genuine love.

You need to be with someone who will give you true love. Something that is built to last.

You should have a life partner. The one who will be with you through thick and thin. Someone who uplifts you and supports you in your goals, not someone who prevents you from achieving them.

You need to be with someone who knows that relationships are work and they can be tough, but as long as you are together, you can get through all of it.

You should be with someone who is in it for the long haul.

4. You deserve to be cherished.

You should be with a person who recognizes that there isn’t anyone like you. Someone who appreciates how unique you are.

You deserve to be cherished for all of the amazing things you do. And most of all, you should be with someone who works hard at reminding you every day that you’re special, capable, and worthy. Especially on the bad days.

You deserve to be with someone who chooses you over and over.

5. You deserve to be with someone who is ready.

No more compromising. You shouldn’t love someone for their “potential.” Instead, you deserve to be with someone who is completely ready to love and be loved.

You should be with someone who is willing to take the plunge with you. Someone who has the courage for the crazy journey ahead.

You shouldn’t feel the need to compensate for the other person’s lack of effort. Be with someone who will put out as much effort as you do.

Because at the end of the day, you shouldn’t feel like you’re grasping for straws. You should stop chasing for the wrong kind of love.

You should only accept the best kind of love because you are worthy of it.

Written by Genefe Navilon

Genefe Navilon is a writer, poet, and blogger. She graduated with a degree in Mass Communications at the University of San Jose Recoletos. Her poetry blog, Letters To The Sea, currently has 18,000 followers. Her work has been published in different websites and poetry book anthologies. She divides her time between traveling, writing, and working on her debut poetry book.

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