If you don’t have a true purpose in life, ask yourself these 13 questions

When you know what you’re striving for, everything from your daily routine to your long-term plans makes more sense. 

You connect to something deeper and live more purposefully. 

This isn’t just incredibly good for you. It helps you make a positive impact on those around you and contribute to this world in a good way. 

Discovering your purpose helps you grow and leads to a well-rounded life. 

If you want to know what your purpose is, ask yourself…

1) What makes me lose track of time?

Think about times you were so in the zone that everything else faded away…

It could be that you were painting, writing, playing a sport, organizing an event, or making sure someone else was laughing and feeling okay.

Whatever it is, if you got so absorbed in it that hours felt like minutes, it’s a sign that you’re pretty passionate about it. 

When we do things we love, it feels like time flies. And feeling this is a big hint about what your true purpose might be. 

2) What am I naturally good at?

Everyone has something they’re just naturally good at. And the things you lose yourself in are likely it. 

It’s easy to overlook these things as talents because they come so easily to us. But that’s exactly what talent is.

Maybe you’re great at talking to people and solving complex problems, or your food is to die for!

Your talents are one of the biggest clues in finding your life purpose. 

Ask yourself what they are and how you can use them in your day-to-day life. 

Aligning your purpose with your talents can make living it effortless and even more rewarding. 

3) What do I consistently receive compliments about?

Sometimes, other people see things about our lives more clearly than we do. 

Think about things people always compliment you about. 

It could be your party planning skills or how you creatively solve problems. 

Maybe you’re great at making people laugh or the best person for the family vacation budget job. 

When people consistently say you’re good at something, it isn’t just nice words. 

Compliments are clues about your strengths and talents. 

You should embrace these areas. 

Finding your purpose is all about recognizing and valuing the things you’re already good at. 

4) Who do I admire and why?

Think about someone you really look up to. It can be a famous person, someone close to you, or even a fictional character. 

Now, ask yourself what you admire about them…

Is it their business skills? 


The way they stand up for what they believe in? 

What you admire most in others usually reflects what you want for yourself. 

It’s like looking in a mirror that shows you your deepest desires…

You can use the reasons why you admire someone as a guide toward who you want to be. It’s a way of figuring out your goals and purposes

5) What issues do I feel strongly about?

Is there something that fires you up? For me, it’s sexual education for teens. 

I can’t stress the importance of this enough! 

Unfortunately, in my country, the topic is still taboo. 

Which made me realize how important it is that I share my story and educate parents on why they need to have open conversations about sexuality and sex-ed topics with their kids. 

For you, it might be climate change, animal rights, or education for underprivileged children. 

When we feel strongly about an issue, it can be a powerful driving force in our lives. 

You can transform this passion into your purpose.

How? Well, you can:

  • Volunteer.
  • Start a blog.
  • Join peer support groups. 
  • Make it your career!

Working on something you care deeply about can never be matched by just any job. 

6) What makes me feel satisfied?

people with a strong sense of purpose 2 If you don't have a true purpose in life, ask yourself these 13 questions

Have you ever done something that made you feel really proud of yourself? 

It could be something small, like helping a friend move house. Or something bigger, like organizing a fun run for autism in your town. 

These moments are clues to what gives you a sense of satisfaction. They show you what to chase after in life. 

If helping people makes you happy, look for ways to do more of it. 

If you love creating things, find ways to do this every day. 

Your purpose in life will allow you to do more of what makes you feel good and less of what doesn’t.

7) What am I curious about?

Like satisfaction, curiosity is a fantastic guide. 

Whatever you’re always eager to learn about could indicate where your purpose stems from. 

Are you into space exploration? Ancient history? How gadgets work or the best ways to grow organic crops? 

Curiosity can lead to exciting places. One of them being where you find your purpose. 

When you follow your curiosity, you’re more likely to find yourself doing something that makes you feel happy and fulfilled.

8) What challenges have I overcome? 

If you’ve never faced anything tough, I’m jealous! 

I’m pretty sure most people have. 

It doesn’t have to be something others consider hard, either. If it was difficult for you to work through, that’s valid. 

Maybe you had toxic colleagues or faced a really tough breakup.

It could even be a personal loss…

Overcoming challenges shows a lot about your strength and resilience. And when you’re following your purpose, you need this.

It can also point to what you’re really good at. 

Reflecting on these experiences can remind you of what you’re capable of and steer you in the direction of your purpose

9) What would I do if I didn’t have to worry about money? 

Imagine a world where money isn’t a worry

What would you do with your time? 

This question isn’t just for daydreaming. It’s a tool you can use to explore what you genuinely love. 

Would you travel? Or write a book? 

Maybe you’d start a band or make motivational videos on YouTube? 

Your answer reveals a lot about what you really want to do with your life

Sure, we all have bills to pay.

But this question can guide you about what you should be aiming for, even on a smaller scale. 

You can start doing small things that will build up to your purpose. 

So, also ask yourself:

10) What small steps can I take today toward my goals?

We often struggle to find our purpose because it feels so far away. And that’s because we’re looking at the whole picture at once. 

Break it down. 

Every big dream, goal, and purpose can be broken down into small things that get you closer to it. 

I’ve always thought one of my purposes is to educate others on topics I’m passionate about and help break stigmas. 

I want to do this through writing, specifically blogs. 

I’m not there yet, but freelance writing is a step toward it. Once I feel confident enough, I’ll start my own blog. 

In the meantime, I still get to help people by sharing advice and my experiences. 

Small actions add up over time. Before you know it, your dream will be within reach.

Plus, small steps boost confidence and motivation. 

11) How do I want to be remembered? 

This might sound a bit serious, but it’s a powerful question. 

Think about the legacy you want to leave behind.

How do you want your friends, family, and even strangers to think of you? 

Do you want to be remembered as kind or brave? 

You might want to be remembered as someone who always looked at life differently or someone others could always count on. 

This question will help you focus on the end result of your purpose. 

And keeping this in mind will help you make choices that align with whatever that is. 

12) What does my ideal day look like?

If you’re not living your ideal day almost every day, your life is probably pretty miserable. 

Despite what we’ve been brainwashed to believe, life isn’t about suffering. 

You’re supposed to be happy and do things you actually enjoy. 

So, picture your perfect day. From the moment you wake up to when you go to bed…

What are you doing? 

Where are you?

Who are you spending your time with?

The answer to these questions will show you what’s most important to you or what’s missing in your life right now. 

And when you identify this, you can start figuring out your purpose. Because your purpose will align with whatever makes you happiest. 

13) What are my values?

Values are like a personal compass. Whenever you feel lost, you should return to them. 

Think about what matters most to you. 

Is it honesty, creative approaches, helping others, or independence? 

Your values will help you make choices that feel right. 

Knowing what they are is key to making decisions that make you happier in the long run. 

And at the end of the day, that’s what a purpose should do. 

Being an adult can be confusing and hard. But once you know what your purpose is, your life can have more meaning. 

And if we’re being honest, who doesn’t want to live a life where it feels like they matter?

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Natasha Combrink

Nats is a writer who loves creating content for purposeful brands. She enjoys spending time outdoors, crafting, and diving down rabbit holes. After rediscovering life, she wants to help others live to their full potential. You can connect with her on LinkedIn.

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