Does the no contact rule work if you were dumped? – 10 reasons why it works

If you were dumped by your loved one, did you ever wonder if the no contact rule would work?

It might be hard to believe, but yes.

It does work.

Here are ten reasons why the rule does not only protect you from a heartbreak but also keeps your mind sane and in a good state of mind.

1) It gives yourself time to recover from being rejected by your loved one

A while ago I mentioned in one of my articles that it is not time yet to forget about him/her.

This is why the no contact rule works.

It gives you time to recover from being rejected by your loved one.

As a person who was once dumped, I can tell you this for sure.

You might be feeling so much pain right now and you have a black hole in your heart.

But that hole will heal and you will feel better if you give it time.

In fact, after two weeks of no contact the pain does start to lessen dramatically.

What’s more?

The no contact rule gives you time to do other things in your life, be it going out with friends, or working on a project.

That way you’ll have your mind occupied and will be able to focus on something other than that terrible breakup.

Burnout is another thing that can occur if the grieving process goes on for too long, so the no contact rule could help prevent that as well.

2) Reminds you what’s important (yourself, life) and what’s not (your ex)

This is another very important reason why the no contact rule works.

If you were truly in love with your ex, then you would be devastated by the breakup.

But sometimes we let our love blind us and we forget what’s most important: ourselves.

Breakups are caused when two people cannot communicate and cannot solve their problems.

We spend all of our time trying to get back together, when all it does is hurt us.

The pain, frustration and desperation that comes with this is sometimes so hard to handle…and it can cost us our self-esteem.

When you do not have contact with your ex for a while, he/she will start becoming less of a priority in your life.

3) It gives you a chance to think about the situation rationally

Yes, it’s true!

It can be very easy to do something irrational when you’re heartbroken.

When I was dumped I had thousands of crazy thoughts going around in my head.

I was thinking about the future and I thought, “Is this really it?

I mean, I have to spend my life alone now.

Is there going to be a guy that will not leave me?”

In one of my previous articles I mentioned that you have to cry yourself out but after you do that, you have to think rationally.

“How can I get myself out of this situation?” And “Is this situation temporary or permanent?”

The no contact rule helps you answer these questions.

It gives you time for thinking about what caused the breakup and how to prevent it from happening again.

It gives you time to reflect on your life and see if you need any changes.

It will give you time to start thinking about the future, which is a very important part of getting over someone.

4) Helps with your mental health

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The more we’re exposed to hurtful events, the more our minds can focus on that one thing.

This can be very dangerous when it comes to physical health as well as mental health – but especially when it comes to mental health.

The no contact rule gives your mind a chance to focus on other things.

It helps you escape reality for a while and focus on something else.

This is one of the main reasons why the no contact rule works.

5) You learn more about yourself

The more you’re exposed to something, the more likely you are to learn about it.

This is another reason why the no contact rule works.

By limiting your exposure, you’ll have time to reflect on who you were while in that relationship and how your personality changed because of it.

You’ll be able to see how difficult it was for you and what you could’ve done better, or what made things worse.

I strongly believe that a breakup is a blessing in disguise.

It gives us time to look inside of ourselves and figure out what we’re doing wrong so we can change for the better!

You see, most of our shortcomings in love stem from our own complicated inner relationship with ourselves – how can you fix the external without seeing the internal first?

I learned this from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandê, in his incredible free video on Love and Intimacy.

So, if you want to improve the relationships you have with others and solve your problem, start with yourself.

Check out the free video here.

You’ll find practical solutions and much more in Rudá’s powerful video, solutions that’ll stay with you for life.

6) It gives you motivation to move on with your life

Why do I say this?

When we’re in love, we want to believe that everything will be alright when we get back together with our ex.

We want to believe that we will be happy again.

But sometimes it doesn’t work out this way.

This can take some time, but when you’re in love with someone, the last thing you want is to move on with your life and not think about them at all.

The no contact rule gives you the opportunity to accept that your relationship is over, for now at least.

It gives you a chance to move on and live your life without thinking of your ex.

Of course this doesn’t mean that it will be easy, but it will become easier after a while.

Yeah, I know it’s hard. I’ve been here before.

If you’re trying to get over your ex right now, I don’t think I have to tell you that you need this.

The no contact rule is the best thing for you at this time in your life and it really will help you get over that breakup as soon as possible.

7) It can help you get over it faster

One of the main reasons why no contact works is because you will be forced to focus on something else.

It’s very difficult to get over someone when we’re focused on the breakup all the time, and I mean obsessively.

For me, it took about 2 weeks for my heart to heal after I got dumped for real.

But then again, it might take longer for you so in this case, be sure to give it a few weeks before making any promises to yourself that you’ll move on with your life within a certain period of time.

The no contact rule can help you with this.

8) You get back all the confidence you lost while in that relationship.

I’m sure you know that people tend to act very differently when they’re in love and when they’re not, so there will be a period of time when you won’t feel that confident.

You have to fight for your self-esteem back.

The no contact rule is the best way to do this.

You’ll learn that confidence doesn’t come from comparing yourself to others and worrying about how confident they are – it comes from being yourself.

The more aware we are of our own emotions and feelings, the better we know ourselves.

9) Knowing what went wrong will help you not make the same mistake again

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This is one of the biggest reasons why the no contact rule works.

By respecting the no contact rule, you’re letting go of the past, while still holding on to what you learned from it.

It’s very important to know what went wrong in a relationship and why.

Think about it.

You should be able to pinpoint the moment of when things started going wrong and remember what made you want to break up with him/her in the first place.

You should also be able to look back on your relationship and see how much better life was before you met your ex.

When we don’t look back, when we don’t focus on our mistakes, we can make the same mistake twice:

We will have another bad breakup and experience pain – pain that could have been avoided!

If you keep focusing on your mistakes, they will keep coming back to haunt you.

You will keep making the same mistakes, even if you don’t make them consciously.

They’ll just happen without you knowing, and they will cause you more pain than they would have if you had never made those mistakes in the first place.

Don’t forget that a breakup happened and that it’s not your fault!

10) Help you realize that there are much more fish in the sea

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This is a very important thing to remember when you’re heartbroken!

Can you imagine what your life would look like if your ex was the only person on Earth?

Not a good way to go through life, right?

Even if your ex was perfect and you were perfectly happy together, there will be times when one of you will feel too suffocated by the relationship and decide it’s time to break up.

So some time later, perhaps even years later, both of you change.

You get different needs and different desires.

Perhaps you change who you’re attracted to and your tastes may have been different over time.

Whatever the case may be, it takes time for people to become together and stay that way.

You have to remember that there is a lot of life out there waiting for you.

You’re not just going to sit around on the beach waiting for your ex to call you every day and make you feel suffocated.

You have other options out there, so don’t give up!

Jump-starts your new life now!

No contact rule is going to help you become better at looking after yourself and your needs.

It can wake you up to what’s really important in life, show you that there are better people out there and it will always be a positive experience.

You can work on your career, on your health, or on improving yourself.

But as soon as you’re done with all of these things, you need to move back into the game!

I’ve been through all of this and I know that it works!

Even if you’re still in love with him/her, I’m sure that you can move on.

Just don’t give up before even giving it a chance.

This may be hard to do but it’s even harder to repeat the same mistakes again by staying in the relationship for too long!

If you want to start healing faster and move on with your life, then I recommend using the no contact rule as a starting point.

If you feel like doing it, then do it for 1-2 months for real!

You might get upset at times, but deep inside of you there is a voice telling you all this negative stuff is worth it.

I know how painful it feels to get dumped, but I want to assure you that there is a way out.

You can get outside help if things get really hard.

You can ask for a therapist and an analyst can help you analyze what’s going on in your life.

If you’re not sure how to find a good therapist, read this article about the best therapists.

I’ve been through this myself, and so has my family, so I understand how important it is to work through the pain instead of being trapped in it.

With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice tailored to the specific issues you’re facing in your love life.

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Why do I recommend them?

Well, after going through difficulties in my own love life, I reached out to them a few months ago. After feeling helpless for so long, they gave me a unique insight into the dynamics of my relationship, including practical advice on how to overcome the issues I was facing.

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There’s a lot to learn from a breakup and it’s important to take the time to go through it while you’re alone.

I know that it is not easy and you will worry about your ex, but just stop this and focus on yourself.

If you really think about your future, if you really think about doing the best for yourself, then I assure you that following the no contact rule is going to pay off – even if your ex doesn’t come back!

So why wait any longer?

Use this guide to get an edge on the right decision for you.

And if you need more support from the experts, click here.

Click here to get started.

Relationship Hero is a hugely popular relationship coaching site because they provide solutions, not just talk.

You’re going to be surprised how healing it is!

Nguyet Yen Tran

Nguyet Yen Tran

Yen is a freelance writer and a researcher specializing in mental health, self-awareness, and psychology. Her hobby is studying human behavior throughout their reaction upon situations. Be sure to check out her other posts on our blog.

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