Women are extremely complex, and sometimes it can be difficult to know what they’re thinking. It’s not easy to get into the head of a woman, which is why so many men get intimidated by them.
But if you’re dating a girl and trying to figure out if she wants something more than just sex from the relationship, there are some signs that will help you understand her intentions better:
1) She’s always trying to spend time with you
One of the first signs of a girl wanting more than just sex is that she wants to spend as much time with you as possible.
If she’s always suggesting that you go on dates and meet up, it could be a sign that she’s not just in the relationship for the sex.
Why would she waste so much time trying to meet up with a guy who she just wants to have sex with? It doesn’t make sense.
If your girl is always suggesting that you go out together, that shows that she wants to spend more time with you.
If she’s not just trying to get you between the sheets, she probably wants to get to know you on a more personal level.
This is a pretty big sign – trust me! If a girl was only interested in sleeping with you, she’d meet up every once in a while, do the deed and that’s it.
But if she wants to meet a lot, that speaks volumes!
But wait, there’s more to that:
2) She doesn’t leave after doing the deed
If you’re having sex with your girl and she stays the night in your bed, that’s a sign that she wants to be around you even more.
The fact that she stays with you after having sex with you shows that she’s not just there for the sex.
If she wants just to have sex with you, she’d probably leave as soon as you guys are done doing it.
If she stays and cuddles with you, it could be a sign that she’s comfortable around you and wants to establish an emotional connection with you.
You see, most friends with benefits meet up quickly, do it, and then go back to their lives.
They don’t have breakfast together, they don’t watch movies and cuddle, and they definitely don’t go out on dates.
So, if you are doing all these things – that says a lot!
But you can also look at signs outside of seeing her:
3) She texts you a lot throughout the day
If the two of you constantly text each other throughout the day, it might be a sign that your girl wants more from the relationship.
If she’s constantly texting you to see how your day is and she wants to talk to you about her day, it shows that she’s interested in getting to know you on a more personal level.
If a girl is just interested in having sex with you, she probably won’t care about how your day is going and she won’t be interested in talking to you as often.
You might text to figure out where and when to meet up, but that’s about it.
If this girl is sending you memes, talking to you about her feelings, and sending you cute videos and pictures, it shows that she’s interested in getting to know you on a more personal level.
This is a pretty good sign!
But if you’re not sure, there are other signs that can help you figure out if your girl wants more:
4) You touch each other outside of the bedroom, like holding hands
When you and your girl are together, you probably hold hands, or maybe even cuddle.
These types of gestures outside the bedroom show that she’s interested in you on more than just physical level.
If she’s constantly holding your hand or cuddling with you, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more than just sex.
Holding hands is also a sign of trust, so if your girl trusts you to be around her, it could be a sign that she’s not just in the relationship for the sex.
You see, a lot of people will only get physical in the bedroom, but then when you hang out outside or with other people, they will be distanced.
If she still holds your hands, puts her head on your shoulder, or kisses you, that’s a pretty big sign that she is starting to really like you.
This goes hand in hand with the next point (no pun intended):
5) She wants to know more about you as a person
If you’re dating a girl who is interested in you on a more than physical level, she’ll want to know more about you as a person.
If she’s asking you questions about your childhood, your interests, and your ambitions, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more than just sex.
If you want to know whether she’s interested in something more than just sex, try asking her questions about herself. The more you know about her, the better.
You see, if a woman wants nothing but sex from you, she won’t be super interested in your life outside of the bedroom.
Sure, she might be down for small talk, but she won’t need to know anything about you or ask you any questions about your life.
But if she’s interested in you on a more personal level, she’ll want to know more about you.
She will ask you questions and she will listen intently to what you have to say.
No matter what you say, she will want to know more!
That’s when you know she is hooked on you as a person and is falling in love!
But that might also show in her other actions…
6) She seems overly anxious about protecting you from other women
If your girl is overly-anxious about protecting you from other women and doesn’t want you around other women, it could be a sign that she wants more from you.
If you’re dating a girl who just wants to have sex with you, she probably wouldn’t care if you talked to other girls.
But if she wants more from the relationship, she’ll probably want to keep you away from other girls.
She may even be possessive of you and try to show you off as if you’re her trophy. If your girl is doing this, it could be because she wants you to be hers.
Think about it: why else would she be protective whenever you talk or flirt with anyone else?
If she was just your friend with benefits, she wouldn’t mind as much, but if she gets jealous, there are feelings involved!
Trust me, it’s really nice to have someone who is so protective over you and wants to keep you for themselves!
If she’s doing that, it’s a clear sign that she has feelings for you.
But there are more signs…
7) You have started introducing each other to some friends
If you’ve started introducing your girl to your friends and possibly even family, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more than just sex.
If you’ve introduced her to your family and friends, it shows that she’s invested in the relationship and is comfortable around your friends.
Introducing your girl to your friends shows that she wants to be a part of your life. If a girl just wants to have sex with you, she probably won’t want to meet your friends.
To be fair, this depends on the kind of person she is and in which context you are meeting the friends, but if you actually go somewhere with her with the intention of meeting a few of your buddies, that’s huge!
But she will also be really sweet to you:
8) She gives you genuine compliments
If your girl is genuinely complimenting you, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more than just sex.
If she’s constantly telling you how handsome you are and how great you are at what you do, it shows that she wants more from the relationship.
If she’s genuinely complimenting you and she’s not just saying these things to get you between the sheets, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more.
This is especially true if she starts to compliment things that have nothing to do with your physical appearance or how you are in bed.
She might compliment your sense of humor, your empathy, or your ability to understand situations.
This is a big thing! Another big sign:
9) You sometimes talk about doing things together that lay far in the future
If you and your girl sometimes talk about doing things together that lay far in the future, it could be a sign that she wants something more than just sex.
If you’re dating a girl who just wants to have sex with you, she probably won’t care about what you do in the future and she won’t care about your hopes and dreams.
But if she’s interested in something more than just sex, she’ll probably care about what you want to do!
Not just that, she will be open to talking about things like a concert you want to go to next year or a trip you both want to go on.
Talking about things like that is a huge sign she wants more!
But talking in general can be a big sign:
10) You speak a lot more than before
If the two of you are talking more than before and if the conversations are more serious and lengthy, it could be a sign that she’s interested in something more than just sex.
If the two of you are talking a lot more and if your conversations are more serious than before, it shows that she’s interested in getting to know you on a more personal level.
If your girl is interested in something more than just sex, she’ll probably want to know more about you and she’ll want to talk more.
But let’s talk about something other than the talking:
11) The sex gets better
Yup, when you start to like a person, the sex automatically gets better.
This is an amazing thing, as you get more comfortable around each other and are able to communicate your needs a bit more.
The better the sex gets, the bigger the chance that she has actual feelings for you and isn’t just here for the physical intimacy!
But sometimes the lack of sex says a lot more…
12) You hang out without sleeping together
Trust me, when you start hanging out with a girl without hooking up at all, that is a sign that she is starting to like you!
She doesn’t just want you for the sex, she actually enjoys spending time with you, and that says a lot!
Think about it: why else would she want to hang out and watch a movie or go to a show if she knows you won’t sleep together?
13) She introduces you as more than a friend
When you and a girl are only sleeping together, she will likely introduce you as a “friend” to other people.
However, when she starts to like you, this might change to “the guy I’m seeing” or “the guy I’m dating”.
Believe it or not, these little details can make all the difference!
And another way to tell that she likes you?
14) She replies immediately
When a woman is falling for you, she will be anticipating your calls and texts, which means she will be responding right away!
She’ll be thinking about you, which means she’ll want to know what you’re up to and will want to get back to you as fast as possible.
Now, this doesn’t mean that if she doesn’t reply immediately, it’s a sign she doesn’t like you. There are a lot of reasons why a girl might not reply right away…
However, that actually brings me to my last point:
15) She stays in touch even when she’s busy
This is another big sign that a girl likes you! When she likes a guy, she won’t just disappear after the first date or every time the two of you hook up.
Even if her life gets busy and there’s not much time for texting or calling, or even if there was an argument between the two of you, it won’t stop her from staying in touch with you.
That’s when you know that she is catching feelings for real – she is making you a priority in her day!
You see, if she’s interested in something more, it’s important to note that she may not come right out and say it.
She may not be as direct as you’d like, and that may cause you to get frustrated and confused.
Because of this, you may have to use your intuition and gut feeling when trying to figure out if she wants more than just sex from the relationship.
These 15 signs should help you to figure out what she wants from the relationship and who you are to her.
When in doubt, don’t be afraid to simply communicate openly with her!
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