Does he really mean “I love you?” Here are 20 ways to tell

If you’ve been dating a guy for a while now and you feel like things are getting pretty serious, you might be waiting with baited breath for him to say the three magic words.

But you don’t have to hear the words to know he does, in fact, love you.

There are more ways to read a guy’s actions than just waiting for him to come right out and say it.

But even if he does just, you know, come right out and say it, there are things to watch for with that too!

If he’s doing these things, it means he does love you.

1) He’s into what you say.

Whether you are talking about work, friends, or the oil change you got on your car this week, he is hanging on every word you say.

He finds your life interesting and wants to know more about what you know. He asks questions and keeps his attention on you, even if someone else walks into the room.

2) You’ve already done the deed.

Some guys will say they love a girl to get her to sleep with him – yes, that is still a thing. But if you have already been down that road, you know that when he does say it, he means it.

It’s not just a bait and switch tactic that some guys use to get you to go all the way. And yes, we are talking about grown men here.

He’s not putting pressure on you if you haven’t rolled around in the sheets yet.

If it just so happens that you haven’t had sex yet, you’ll notice that he’s not all in your face about it.

It doesn’t mean that he doesn’t find you attractive, but rather that he respects you and wants to do it when you are ready.

If he’s said I love you and he’s not trying to get you in the sac, then you know that he’s sincere.

3) It slipped out.

If you are laughing and having a great time and he accidentally says I love you, and then stops when he realizes what he said, you can bet that he meant it.

It might come as a shock to both of you when something like that happens, but you better believe he was thinking it the whole time.

He might not have been sure of his feelings, but when the time is right, the time is right.

4) He said it first.

You’ll know he means it when he tells you he loves you first. A lot of girls say it first, but when the guy comes out and says it, he really does mean it.

Especially if it’s random or there’s a threat that he might lose you. The truth all comes out when things change.

5) He tries to win you over even though you’ve already fallen for him.

He’s already got you on his arm, and you are already madly in love with him, but he is still hustling like he is trying to win you over every single day.

It’s amazing to watch and you might not know how to react when he keeps falling all over you long after he’s said I love you, but that’s how you know he means it.

6) You’ve met everyone in his family.

He’s introduced you to everyone he can think of, and they’ve introduced you to everyone else they could think of!

This guy is serious about you, just in case you didn’t already know. When you know your future in-laws better than you know your own family, it’s a safe bet that this guy is in love.

7) He’s talking about the future.

Whether or not he has said I love you yet will become less important when you catch him talking about your future together.

Even if he hasn’t told you how he feels if he is making plans with you that extend beyond the usual, “what are you doing next weekend?”, then you can rest easy knowing that it is just a matter of time before he comes out and says the thing he’s been thinking.

8) He’s introduced you to his friends.

This is a huge step. It shows that he’s proud of you, he’s in love with you and wants to spend a long time with you.

After all, these are the people that are closest to him, and he’s basically welcoming you into that inner tribe.

9) He wants to give to you

True love is about giving, not taking. When you’re truly in love with someone, you want to give as much as you can to them. You want them to feel protected and happy.

It also means that he is thinking of you before he thinks of himself. If that’s not love, then I don’t know what is.

10) He loves having fun with you, even when the task at hand is not fun

The saying, “It’s not the place you’re at, but the people you’re with”, is popular for a reason.

If he’s having fun with you, even when you’re doing something boring like washing the dishes or studying in the library, then that means that he loves spending time with you.

And if he loves spending time with you, then there’s a great chance that he genuinely loves you.

11) He looks at you…like a lot

Is he always keeping an eye on you? Watching you for your reactions? Looking at you after he has told a joke to make sure you’ve laughed?

It means he is intrigued by you, wants to impress you and wants to make sure you’re happy.

The people we love are the people we give most attention to. So keep an eye out for how much he looks at you and pays attention to you.

12) How shows significant empathy – in good times and bad

When someone loves you, they’ll likely show you sympathy when something unwanted ins happening in your life, and they’ll also show empathy.

They’ll try to understand it fully from your perspective and grasp how you’re truly feeling. They care about your feelings and they want to help you in the best way.

13) He’s physically affectionate

I’m not talking about the rough and tough sex and cuddle.

No, I’m talking about touch that is caring, soft and loving. Such as:

Does he rub his arm on your back and give you a nice, warm cuddle?

Does he give you a kiss on the cheek from behind while tenderly hugging your waist?

Does he let you know through his touch that he is there for you and thinking of you?

If you can answer yes to these questions, then there’s a good chance that he really does love you.

Check out these 9 types of hugs and what they mean to really get a gauge on what he is communicating with his hugs.

14) He responds quickly to your messages

There’s no beating around the bush. When you text him, he answers because there’s no hiding.

He wants to be there for you and to see you whenever you can.

He’s completely honest because he’s genuinely in love and there’s no absolutely nothing to hide.

15) He communicates his feelings

It’s not easy for a man to bare his soul and reveal his vulnerabilities.

But with you, it’s different. He feels completely comfortable in revealing his soul and letting you know what he is truly feeling.

You’re the spark that ignites his emotions and let’s him know that we’re not alone in this crazy world.

16) He is always giving you gifts

Now, let’s get one straight: I’m not talking about simply spending money.

A genuine sign that he loves you is when he constantly gets you things that you need.

For example, he knows that you need a new tooth brush, so he buys it for you when he’s at the supermarket.

After all, you’re always on his mind so when he sees something that you need, he gets it.

17) He doesn’t care if you don’t have sex with him

Yes, he loves having sex with you, but if you don’t want it, he doesn’t bat an eyelid because he simply wants to be with you.

Cuddles and kisses is all he needs to be happy.

18) He likes you as you are

Everything about you he finds beautiful. That’s why you probably hear him saying things like, “you don’t need to wear makeup”, or “both dresses look great on you”.

He loves you for who you are and superficial material objects like clothes or accessories doesn’t change his opinion of you.

To him, you’re beautiful just the way you are.

19) He has eyes only for you

If he’s not looking at other girls, or flirting with other females, then it’s a good chance that he only cares about you.

Attention from other girls doesn’t do anything for him.

If the only one he cares about is you, then he probably loves you like no tomorrow.

20) He lights up when is sees you

Love is the most powerful emotion in the world. It brings joy. It brings happiness.

So when he sees you, his eyes widen like he was doing some hard drugs and his smile is as wide as a cloud on a rainy day.

He loves you and you give him on all those feel good chemicals.

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