Stop wondering if he is into you and start getting to the bottom of the way he acts around you.
Body language can go a long way to let you know if likes you too. You just need to know what to look for.
If you are pretty sure he likes you, but need a little more confirmation before making your move, check out this list of signs he’s into you.
Of course, the most direct route to the answer is to just ask the question, but if you aren’t there yet, these will do just fine.
So if you’ve been asking the question, “Does he like me?” then check out these 30 signs to finally work it out!
1) His recall is exceptional.
Not only does he listen to what you are saying, he remembers it. Sometimes, word for word.
Even if you only ever see each other in passing, he’ll recall something you said, bring it up, and make a point of letting you know he’s been thinking of you.
That’s a great sign he is interested in what’s going on between the two of you.
2) He seems shy when he smiles at you.
Believe it or not, guys are shy too.
With so much societal expectation on them, it can be easy to assume that he’ll just walk right up to you and talk your leg off, but the truth is that it is hard for men to approach women more than ever these days.
So if he is smiling at you from across the room, it’s a total flirt and you can take the lead to say hello.
3) He’s wondering what’s going on with you.
Instead of just coming out and asking what’s your relationship status, he’ll beat around the bush for a while and say things such as “you can’t be single!?” and pretend like he is surprised when you say things that could lead him to believe such things.
He might also say, “your boyfriend is a lucky guy” to find out what’s happening in your love life.
4) He accidentally keeps touching your arm or bumping into you.
At a party or bar, or just in a crowded room, he’ll keep touching your arm or bumping into you and making excuses about how full the room is.
Pay no attention, he’s totally doing it on purpose. You might even find yourself accidentally bumping into him too.
5) His body says it all.
There are some classic body language signs that can provide you with real time information about how he’s feeling about you.
Look for signs such as licking his lips, leaning in when he talks to you, standing close to you, touching your hand, and dancing real close!
6) He slips up and gets flustered when he talks to you.
Even the coolest guys can tongue tied around girls they like, so if the guy you are eyeing keeps making stupid jokes or saying all the wrong things, it could be that he’s not a knucklehead, but just really into you.
7) He is always fidgeting and inching his way toward you.
He can’t sit still but it’s not because he’s got a twitch.
It’s more likely that you make him nervous.
Remember that it’s harder than ever for guys to approach girls, especially ones that are rocking confidence and power.
More than ever women are gaining the upper hand in society and that can be off putting to even the most confident guy.
It’s not sexy, but it’s probably a good sign he likes you.
8) He’s clearly trying to get your attention.
He wants you to think he’s smart and successful.
For a long time, that’s all women wanted in a guy: someone to provide for her.
But these days, he’ll have to go out on a limb to talk about the good deeds he has done, the people he has helped, and the changes he has made in people’s lives.
Watch for him going on and on about how he saved a stray puppy and you’ll know he’s digging you.
9) He wants to make you laugh.
He’ll do whatever he can to get a chuckle out of you. Be kind and laugh at his bad jokes. It’ll bring the two of you closer than you can know.
10) He picks on you, but in a fun way.
He might tease you about your meal or your shoes, but it’s not because he’s a moron – although you might suspect that he is because he is making fun of you. Just know that he doesn’t actually mean to hurt your feelings.
He likes you, it’s just coming out all wrong.
11) He offers you genuine compliments.
Instead of telling you what a weird color your dress is, he’ll say how nice it looks on you.
We all know you put that dress on for you, but it’s nice to hear that someone else likes it too.
12) You get that special feeling.
You find yourself smiling when you think of him, and you look forward to seeing him. Whenever he talks to you, it makes you feel good.
Even if all he is saying is a dumb dad joke. Give the guy a chance to get it right. You’re obviously into him too.
13) It’s in his eyes.
Our eyes allow us to see many wonderful things in the world, but we often take for granted that our eyes have physiological responses to the world around us.
If you are wondering if the guy you are crushing on likes you too, pay attention to his eyes. Not just in how long he looks at you, but if he’s pupils react to seeing you.
Do they get bigger? Are they fixed right on you? All good signs that he likes you too.
14) It’s in his look.
Whether he looks you up and down or you stares a whole through you, paying attention to how he takes in the world around him is a great way to see what kind of things get his attention.
If he hasn’t looked at his phone since you sat down, chances are pretty good that he likes you. Or, he doesn’t have a phone. But it’s probably more likely that he likes you.
15) It’s in his expressions.
If his eyebrows keep moving up and down and he seems surprised when you are talking, like he’s just so excited to hear your voice, he likes you.
If his shoulders shrug and he is flashing you winks and looking at you to see your expression when something funny happens, he likes you.
16) It’s in his approach.
If he talks to you like you are the only girl in the room and if he gives you his undivided attention, pucker up, girl, he’s into you.
If he leans in and asks you more questions about yourself, pays attention to your words and reflects on them in his own life through examples of similiar situations, he likes you.
He’s trying to make a connection through commonalities.
17) It’s in his voice.
Men who are around women they like tend to have a boasterous voice. They want to stand out.
He wants you to hear him and see him. It might be a bit childish, but it’s certainly a good way to tell if he likes you or not.
If he’s quiet and reserved, chances are that he might still like you, but if he’s making a concerted effort to be seen by you, you are in.
18) It’s in his swagger.
If he walks like he owns the place and is looking you up and down while he heads your way, consider yourself on his radar.
Remember that guys use a lot of body langauge to do their talking as they don’t always know the right words to say.
The male approach to love hasn’t evolved a great deal and men still have a hard time showing women they care.
19) It’s in his stance.
If he stands tall, hips shoulder-width apart, hands on hips and is looking right at you, he’s into you.
This goes along with the walking piece: guys who stand a certain way and “present” themselves to you are interested in you.
You might also see guys doing this when they sit down: they’ll sit with their hips out.
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20) It’s in his words.
If you snag yourself a good guy, you’ll be able to tell you how he feels.
He’ll talk about the future and make reference to how much fun it would be to “do that together.” He won’t be shy about making it known that he likes you, despite not being able to come right out and say it.
Listen for verbal cues. On the other hand, if he’s shy, ask him about himself and see how much he reveals. If he trusts you, he’ll tell you all you need to know.
21) It’s in his distance.
If he’s sitting across the table looking over your shoulder, he’s not into you.
If he’s on the same side, cuddled close and looking to make eye contact, he’s into you.
If you keep locking eyes across the room and every time you look up, he’s closer, it’s a good thing.
He might stand a few feet away until he feels comfortable and then he’ll move in for some close-up action.
Keep an eye out on how close or far away he stands – it’s a good indicator of whether or not he likes you too.
22) He’s ignoring you
This might be a surprising one, but bare with me.
Some guys try to play hard to get. They appear like they don’t notice you in the hope that you will like them. After all, he thinks that it will make him look cooler if he appears disinterested. Crazy, I know!
Another reason is that he really likes you so he feels nervous around you. Therefore, he ignores as he doesn’t want to feel nervous.
23) He’s giving you long messages
If a guy is just giving you one word answers then he might not like you. But if he’s taking time to respond to messages, and he’s also responding quickly, then it shows that he cares about you and is thinking about you when he’s not near you.
This is a great sign that he likes you!
24) He gets jealous when you talk to other guys
It’s hard to control feelings of jealously. They come spontaneously and it’s pretty difficult to not let it affect your mood.
So if you’re out and he’s giving you the cold shoulder because you’re talking to other guys, it’s a fair chance he’s jealous.
Just give him some attention to let him know that you like him and he’ll come back right around!
25) He’s teasing you
Remember in primary school when the guy that insults you actually likes you. Yeah, it’s the same when you’re older, too. They just do it a little more skilfully.
They’ll tease you and banter with you in an attempt to build rapport. That is of course, if they like you.
26) He tries to help you with your problems
Guys enjoy being problem solvers, particularly for girls they like. So if he is always trying to help you solve your problems, then there’s a fair chance that he likes you!
27) He wants you to meet his friends
He likes, he’s proud of you and he wants to show you off to his friends. He wouldn’t take the time to introduce you to his friends if he didn’t like you.
It’s a big step and he’s trying to get his friend’s approval of you. So put on a big smile and make your best impression. If his friends like you, you could become a couple very soon.
28) He wants to know your future plans
This is an excellent sign that he sees a future with you. After all, he wants to know what your future goals are to see if they match with his.
If he is also willing tell you what his future plans are, then that’s a great sign that he likes you and wants to be your boyfriend!
29) Is he acting a bit weird?
If he’s nervous around you, it means he probably likes you. And if he’s nervous, he’ll probably also act weird.
He might start telling weird jokes, or sweating. Whatever it is, it’s just a weird way to let out his nervous energy. Don’t worry about it. Soon enough, he’ll calm down and start acting normal.
30) He is mirroring your actions
When someone imitates your actions and words, it’s a sign that he respects you, admires you and likes you.
So, this is what you should look out for: Is he mirroring your energy levels? Is he talking fast when you’re talking fast? Is he copying your slang? These are great signs that he likes you.
There are many ways to see if a guy likes you. But if you really want to know, then you should ask him. You haven’t got much to lose!
But if that’s not your style, and granted it’s not many people’s style, then stick to the above 30 signs and you’ll be well on your way to knowing the truth!
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