If you do these 8 things, you’re definitely an optimist

Life can sometimes be tough, and keeping a smile on your face feels like a big job.

We all face problems, and it seems like things often go wrong, pushing us towards sadness rather than hope.

But, I still think it’s a good idea to stay positive, especially when things get tricky.

You might not know this, but staying positive not only helps you overcome problems but also makes your life better.

Being positive can spread from one person to another, so appreciate those people in your life who stay hopeful even when things are hard.

You might not know it, but you could be one of these positive people. Here are some signs you’re on the optimist team:

1. You’re Grateful for What You Have

In my experience, I’ve found that I feel most down when I start comparing myself to others.

It’s easy to spiral into self-doubt and frustration, wondering why others seem to have it better than me.

This often leads me to think I’m not good at anything, thanks to low self-esteem.

I used to brush off the old saying about counting your blessings, thinking it was a way of dodging problems.

But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve learned that being grateful is all about focusing on the good things in your own life, even when you’re dealing with troubles.

This is something I admire about optimistic people – they don’t let jealousy ruin their peace or get in the way of working towards their goals.

Positive folks count their blessings to keep from getting lost in a sea of ‘what ifs’ and focus on the present instead.

After all, comparing yourself to others doesn’t do any good in the long run.

2. You Look for the Good in Others

We all come across individuals who seem determined to find fault in everything we do, or cast us as the villain.

They zero in on our errors and think these missteps sum us up. These people tend to be unhappy, always on the lookout for potential harm.

I can empathize with this way of thinking because I’ve been there myself. But I quickly realized how uplifting it feels to accept love and kindness without any strings attached.

Optimists have a knack for spotting the good in others, which contributes to their own peace and happiness.

They acknowledge that nobody’s perfect and we all mess up sometimes, but they focus more on a person’s potential.

They believe this approach helps them connect with others on a deeper level and learn from them.

3. You Prioritize Peace Over Resentment

Optimists make a conscious choice to safeguard their inner calm and release grudges.

Of course, this isn’t easy, especially when you’ve been deeply hurt by someone’s actions.

But optimists understand that holding onto bitterness only harms their mental and emotional wellbeing.

While it may be tempting, even satisfying, for some to wish bad on others or seek revenge, optimists know this path only leads to self-destruction.

Nursing a grudge is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to suffer.

Now, I’m not saying all optimists forgive those who’ve hurt them, but I believe most prefer finding peace and moving forward rather than being held back by past wounds.

This hit home for me when one day I just got tired of being angry. My boyfriend had betrayed me with my friend.

The pain and betrayal led me to do things in revenge that didn’t reflect who I truly am. I didn’t recognize myself anymore, and I knew my actions were out of line with my principles.

I haven’t forgiven them yet, but I decided to move on and focus on becoming a better version of myself.

If you’re someone who holds grudges, it’s likely you’ve experienced a great deal of pain. I’m not here to dismiss your feelings or tell you to do something you’re not ready for.

But I assure you, choosing yourself and beginning your journey toward healing is a decision you won’t regret.

4. You Forgive Your Own Mistakes

Something else I’ve picked up from optimistic folks is the crucial role of self-forgiveness, no matter how big the blunder.

They understand that nobody’s perfect and everyone slips up from time to time. In their view, beating yourself up over these things is a hard way to live.

Coming from a background where mistakes were treated as serious offenses, it took me a while to embrace this perspective.

Optimists see failures and mistakes differently.

Rather than letting them diminish their worth, they view slip-ups as necessary stepping stones on the path to learning valuable lessons.

Sure, admitting you’ve done wrong isn’t always a walk in the park.

But the journey towards growth and peace starts with forgiving yourself. Accept the things you can’t change, and strive to learn from them to become a better person.

5. You Tackle Challenges Head-On

Optimists are often misunderstood – some perceive their upbeat attitude as a way of avoiding problems.

But in my view, true optimists don’t hide from their problems or choose to live in blissful ignorance; that’s a trait of the faint-hearted.

Genuine optimists meet challenges squarely, armed with the positive belief that they’ll figure things out and everything will turn out alright.

This confidence stems from their faith in their own abilities and the support they draw from loved ones.

I’ve observed that optimists don’t throw in the towel easily, no matter how tough the going gets.

They stay focused on their goals, steadfast in the belief that every problem has a solution and setbacks are temporary.

They understand that facing and overcoming these difficulties is a crucial part of the journey towards a peaceful life.

6. You Make an Effort to Ward Off Negative Thoughts

Many people desire a positive, proactive outlook on life. However, intrusive thoughts, anxiety, and self-doubt often prevent them from embracing the belief that everything will be okay.

But if you’re consistently working to push away these negative thoughts, you might just be an optimist at heart – the end result isn’t as important because progress isn’t always a straight line.

The optimists I know also admit they struggle with unhelpful thoughts that can hold them back or keep them from facing challenges.

However, they summon the strength to explore all available avenues to manage these thoughts.

This includes professional help and taking care of their physical health.

I used to be doubtful about the connection between a healthy body and a healthy mind.

There was a time when I was stuck in a bad place, suffering from anxiety attacks and a negative self-image.

I was skeptical about the various methods suggested to me for improving mental health.

But when I gave some calming routines like yoga and meditation a shot, I realized the advice was spot on.

By taking care of my physical health, I was able to express self-love and foster a healthier mindset.

7. You’re the Life of the Party

One thing I’ve noticed about optimists is their knack for making everyone around them laugh – they simply light up any gathering.

They’re typically energetic, fun-loving, and genuine individuals, so it’s no wonder they’re so well-loved and appreciated.

If you’re a great listener who easily connects with others, you may well be an optimist.

These are the folks who can chat with you as if they’ve known you for years, making anyone feel comfortable and welcome.

They avoid inappropriate comments, obnoxious behavior, or speaking ill of others, further enhancing their charm.

8. You Value Your Loved Ones

If you’re someone who deeply values their loved ones, you might well be an optimist.

I’ve noticed that optimists often strive to be better people, drawing inspiration and support from their family, friends, and partners.

They tend to be naturally caring and thoughtful.

As optimists typically see the good in everyone, they sincerely invest in building meaningful relationships.

You can count on them to cherish your connection and they’d never intentionally hurt you.

They want the best for their loved ones and make every effort to be as present for them as possible.

Optimists are loved because they, too, love deeply.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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