When we first start a relationship, we are in love, and there is lots of positive energy that is pretty noticeable for all the people around.
However, as time passes, people tend to start to show their true colors more, so you will probably start seeing red flags.
If you started noticing all kinds of things that don’t make you feel good, we are here to help.
Here are signs of disrespectful behavior that you should never ignore in a relationship!
1) They don’t accept your opinion
Every good relationship means that you will be able to participate in creating your own life.
The second someone tries to take that away from you is the moment you should do something about it.
You might have the feeling that your partner is trying to change you or convince you of something you don’t want to do.
It’s true, their ways probably work for many people, but if it is not for you – better leave them.
Protect your life and emotional well-being because staying away from this kind of people is the only way to live the life you want.
The main reason for this behavior is simply because your partner may not be interested in you as much as you would like.
This sign makes everyone’s heart sink!
So, what do you see when you look at your partner?
Is he or she gets bored with you, is he or she turning his/her back on you, is he/she not even trying to communicate with you anymore?
If in any of those cases you recognize yourself and your partner – it’s time to think about leaving the relationship because these relationships never lead anywhere good!
2) They try to control who your friends are
Friends are important for every human being.
If your boyfriend has been spending time with them and then suddenly started giving you all kinds of comments about them, it is certainly a red flag that you should pay attention to.
If your partner tries to isolate you from your friends, it is a sign that there is something going on behind it.
Perhaps there is a certain dose of insecurity under it or jealousy.
If that’s the case – there are only two possibilities to deal with it: either you let them be alone, and they realize that talking badly about your friends is not okay, or if they start to try and control you, it’s time to leave this relationship.
The simple truth is that no one should try to control who your friends are. That is your life, and you decide who should be in it.
If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend – it doesn’t mean that your friends should stop being a part of your life as well.
You can have a cute significant other and still hang out with your friends without his/her prior consent.
That is the point of living a fulfilled life.
3) They don’t respect your body image
It may be hard for you to look at the mirror in front of others and admire yourself, but it’s a must!
Just because they can’t say something inspiring to you doesn’t mean they should insult your appearance.
So, what can you do to stop this kind of behavior from happening?
Begin with yourself. Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life.
Deep down, you know this isn’t working.
And that’s because until you look within and unleash your personal power, you’ll never find the satisfaction and fulfillment you’re searching for.
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4) They are always stressed
If your partner is always stressed, it doesn’t mean that they are bad and overly emotional.
But it means that they aren’t happy with their life or the way they feel about themselves.
It’s even possible they are discontent with other things in their life too.
The trouble is that all this negative energy will surely burden you because spending time with a person who cannot self-regulate can certainly be frustrating!
So, what can you do to stop this kind of behavior?
First of all, it is important for you to spend less time with your partner and help occasionally when you can.
It’s okay if you have to go out.
Don’t feel the need to jump in and save your partner all the time. That is not your responsibility.
5) They don’t give you time
This one is not a sign of disrespect but just a bad habit.
When your partner is busy with their own activities and not giving you the time to be happy together, it is definitely a problem.
If this doesn’t change for the better, better find another partner.
Spending time with a partner is one of the main conditions for a happy relationship.
It is a time when a couple shares their thoughts and feelings.
If you feel like your partner doesn’t value your time, that is a clear sign of disrespect!
Every person deserves to be respected for who they are, what they have done, and the time they have spent to get where they are today.
If your partner has changed since the beginning of your relationship and sometimes shows you what he/she feels about you (disrespect), it is probably time for you to leave the relationship.
6) They don’t respect your decisions
Protect your life and emotional well-being. If your partner doesn’t respect your decisions, that’s a big problem!
On the one hand, this kind of behavior can make you feel like an idiot because you may feel like they are trying to make you do something that you don’t want to do.
In addition, if they are not respectful to your decisions, this will probably lead to arguments and maybe even fights.
We all have our own opinions and decisions, and if they don’t respect them, it doesn’t mean that they are bad or wrong, it just means that you are not compatible.
But it’s time to leave this relationship because the person who has no respect for you is certainly not someone who is right for you!
If you have had a fight with your partner because of this reason, it is important to take a step back and cool down.
Don’t allow your emotions to take over during the conversation because that won’t be good for anything.
7) They are jealous
Jealousy is a sign of disrespect, yes. If your partner is always jealous, it is a sign that he/she does not trust you.
Maybe he/she thinks you are having an affair or that you are going to leave him/her. Whatever the reason, jealousy is a red flag.
If your partner doesn’t trust you, then why should you stay in a relationship with him/her?
It’s very important to understand that trust is something that has to be earned and not given away too easily.
If your partner is always complaining that you’re spending too much time with someone else, it’s definitely a sing that you should not ignore.
8) They lose their temper easily
In our lives, we have people who are not able to control their feelings and show them in an acceptable way.
But a problem starts when we see the same behavior from our partners, and it affects the way we feel about them.
It’s quite simple – we lose respect for them and their behavior.
Sometimes it might be just a bad habit or an emotional state, but these kinds of things can get out of hand and affect other aspects of the relationship.
If your partner is constantly angry and loses his temper very quickly, this may even be the beginning of violent behavior, which is a big problem.
There are always two sides to the story, and it’s important to understand that losing your temper is not always bad.
People show their feelings in different ways – and losing a temper is only one of them.
However, we all have our own limitations, and not making an effort to change this kind of behavior is certainly not something that you should tolerate.
If this behavior repeats itself, start considering if your partner is actually right for you or whether you should choose someone else.
9) They keep treating you as their little princess/knight
When a partner starts to treat his/her partner as if they are a child all the time, it is pretty annoying and disrespectful.
It’s absolutely possible that they were your knight in shining armor or a princess you were waiting for, but at some point, you have to learn how to live on your own and deal with things on your own too.
You have to realize that even though you were close to them in the beginning, you have to start looking for your own place in the world.
If your partner keeps treating you as a child, this is definitely not okay.
And it’s not something that should be ignored because if it continues for longer periods of time, there is probably some underlying issue here.
Your partner might be feeling like you’re incapable of taking care of yourself, or they just want to keep an eye on you.
Whatever the reason is, it’s important to sit down with your partner and have a serious talk about this issue.
Because if they keep treating you like a child and disrespecting you, it’s best to end the relationship.
10) They don’t understand what you are saying
Suppose your partner doesn’t listen to your problems and just brushes them away and says that you are overreacting about everything that’s happening.
It’s a sign for you to reconsider if this person is truly what you need.
If your partner can’t understand that you are feeling sad, he/she doesn’t respect you as a person, and this may have some negative consequences for you.
No matter what is going on with the situation, if your partner just ignores it because they don’t want to listen to you, then it’s time to leave this relationship.
We all need to feel appreciated and to truly feel in our hearts that the person we are with truly cares about us.
As a human being, it’s not possible to be close to someone who can’t listen to what you have to say.
Once you start noticing problems in your interaction, it is time to do something about it.
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The relationship you have with yourself.
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11) They ignore your preferences
When we are with someone we like, we want our preferences to be respected, and we want to be important to them.
If your partner doesn’t respect you and does things in a way that is completely different from how you would like him/her to do it, this is also a sign of disrespect.
When a partner does not listen to what you want and only does what they want to do – it’s definitely a relationship problem that must be solved.
If you have always supported your partner, you should know enough about them to give your opinion and help them out in solving their problems, but expect the same thing in return.
12) They are after your money
Money is not everything, but it’s pretty important if you have to live on your own and support yourself.
Most of us are pretty aware of the way we spend it. But when you find a partner who pretends to be perfect but then they start to treat you like a cash machine – it’s time better to end this relationship.
Why would you want to be with someone who only cares about your money?
We have heard of too many cases where people have treated their friends like they were their ATM cards, and it’s just not okay.
If your partner is only interested in your money, it’s definitely time to break up.
Even though people in the relationships share everything, not getting as much as you give is definitely wrong and should not be tolerated in any way.
13) Your opinion doesn’t matter to them
When a partner really cares about you and wants you to be happy, he/she will listen to your opinion and try to help you in any way.
But when it doesn’t work the same way, then this is the best time better to end this relationship.
Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t care about you at all?
In essence, this matter becomes about self-respect and the point where you will stop tolerating this kind of behavior and demand to be appreciated and valued.
If you have a partner that disregards your opinion and you let it slide is the moment when you need to ask yourself why you allow it in the first place.
14) They don’t make physical contact
This can occur for several reasons, but the important thing is to see if the person you are dating is truly interested or not.
If your partner doesn’t initiate any physical contact with you, it’s a clear warning sign that they don’t care about your feelings and needs.
Physical contact in the relationship is a way to stay connected and simply share the love and feel safe.
Let me say this straight – if your partner never initiates contact or is always too busy to even think about being physical with you – this is definitely not okay.
It can even impact your self-esteem in the long run, so a timely reaction can help you prevent becoming sad or even depressed about the whole situation.
15) You feel like you never get what you want
We all want to be loved and to be with someone who loves and respects us just as much as we show the same to them, but sometimes things don’t work out the way we plan them.
So, it’s not okay if that’s the case with your partner because if they didn’t give you what you deserved, it means that they don’t care enough about your feelings, and they should be replaced by someone who will show their love in a clear way.
This also involves your desire to see your partner looking their best and truly enjoy the relationship to the fullest.
If your partner neglects to take care of themselves, it can even be considered to be a sign of disrespect to you and your needs.
If your partner often complains that they don’t have time to take care of themselves and you try to help them by giving them advice, but they keep ignoring you and neglect their health and appearance – this is a problem.
It is not easy sometimes to recognize when someone treats you badly because it is usually hidden underneath compliments and nice words, so you often cannot understand what hit you.
Here are some signs to watch for if you are worried about your relationship:
- Look for constant putdowns – does your partner always have a problem with you?
- Be on the lookout for people who say you don’t do something right or make mistakes in everything you do.
Staying with a person like that can only cause frustration and long-term confidence issues no matter how much you strive to suppress them.
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